May I interject from a sufferer's point of view here?
The whole he's hard to wake and I have to wake him up makes me an enabler really bothers me. I guess I just disagree.
Sleep issues are so huge for us. We get sleep but we have nightmares and toss and turn. We don't get sleep and we are freaking zombies with symptoms running rampant. We have medications that sedate or knock us out which can leave us further exhausted or create the first two scenarios. Etc, Etc..
I do not wake up. If I get to sleep there is no waking me up. It takes two alarm clocks, numerous yelling and kicking the bed from my kid, the phone ringing multiple times before I remotely understand what is going on and that I should be getting up. Half the time someone thinks I'm awake and I'm not.
Now if I haven't sleep good for a few days (or god forbid a few weeks) triple the task of waking me up once I'm asleep. If meds are involved, hell anything goes. It can change day to day for me!
Then you can add in the whole depression scenario on top of this and see how lovely it really gets!
I keep hearing the term lazy, not taking responsibility, mothering, enabling. But really, is it? All I'm asking is that this is taken into consideration with your sufferer. I know nothing pisses me off more than having those attitudes tossed my way when I suffer so much over my sleep (and that's just the sleep issue) to begin with.
bec
The whole he's hard to wake and I have to wake him up makes me an enabler really bothers me. I guess I just disagree.
Sleep issues are so huge for us. We get sleep but we have nightmares and toss and turn. We don't get sleep and we are freaking zombies with symptoms running rampant. We have medications that sedate or knock us out which can leave us further exhausted or create the first two scenarios. Etc, Etc..
I do not wake up. If I get to sleep there is no waking me up. It takes two alarm clocks, numerous yelling and kicking the bed from my kid, the phone ringing multiple times before I remotely understand what is going on and that I should be getting up. Half the time someone thinks I'm awake and I'm not.
Now if I haven't sleep good for a few days (or god forbid a few weeks) triple the task of waking me up once I'm asleep. If meds are involved, hell anything goes. It can change day to day for me!
Then you can add in the whole depression scenario on top of this and see how lovely it really gets!
I keep hearing the term lazy, not taking responsibility, mothering, enabling. But really, is it? All I'm asking is that this is taken into consideration with your sufferer. I know nothing pisses me off more than having those attitudes tossed my way when I suffer so much over my sleep (and that's just the sleep issue) to begin with.
bec