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@grimalkin I question why someone feels the need to lie about their past since a person who loves you does not judge you on your past. We all have one and I believe their past is what brought them to me? So it's a good thing.
I have noticed that me and my ex-vet seem to recall things differently too. I keep a journal so I have documented many many details of what was shared. I have Lyme so my memory s*cks and he says...It's YOUR journal to justify. I call a stalemate on most things since they are not life changing. I pick my battles although we've never fought or disrespected each other.
The triggers and misunderstandings scare me since I've yet to encounter either but am a bit cautious about how I word my questions or verifications about the stories he generously shares with me. Would you mind sharing a trigger?
The only thing, which did tear us apart, was him learning that I realized PTSD was the cause of his symptoms. With sincerity he thanked me and moved away from me overnight...but still continues very close contact and trust? I am thankful for this but will not walk on eggshells around my perspectives and how I see things happening. He asked me to boldly point these things out so he realizes what he is doing to hurt me.
I am very sorry about you break-up but maybe when he learns to deal he'll return to the person who cares about him the most?
I have noticed that me and my ex-vet seem to recall things differently too. I keep a journal so I have documented many many details of what was shared. I have Lyme so my memory s*cks and he says...It's YOUR journal to justify. I call a stalemate on most things since they are not life changing. I pick my battles although we've never fought or disrespected each other.
The triggers and misunderstandings scare me since I've yet to encounter either but am a bit cautious about how I word my questions or verifications about the stories he generously shares with me. Would you mind sharing a trigger?
The only thing, which did tear us apart, was him learning that I realized PTSD was the cause of his symptoms. With sincerity he thanked me and moved away from me overnight...but still continues very close contact and trust? I am thankful for this but will not walk on eggshells around my perspectives and how I see things happening. He asked me to boldly point these things out so he realizes what he is doing to hurt me.
I am very sorry about you break-up but maybe when he learns to deal he'll return to the person who cares about him the most?
This is a very strong statement and so opposite from another one from @Dr.Knowbuddy . I wonder why the extreme views?But, I do know he definitely does not regret his service, and actually has encouraged his sons to join up as well.