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Despite of all the nervous energy I had about all holidays lately, things seems to have gone fairly well. I handled things better, and I was pleased to discover that on some events I was a lot less- anxious that a year ago. Yay-me! :) I always come around to ask tips on issues I'm having and there have been LOTS this year. So I thought I should share something happy, for a change:).
Changes and choice I made this season that I'm proud of:
1. Telling a friend I have to skip joining a celebration party to which she invited me, because even though I'm less anxious I still can't go to every single event without being anxious.
It was important to me to be there for her, but I figured it doesn't really count as being there if I go, and get all paniced and quiet and dissociate. I made a choice of what's good for my health, and I stand by that. Thankfully she's a good friend and she knows about my trouble so she was okay with it.
2. Instead of panicing about lack of money, I asked a client of mine if she can pay me early for the work I had done to that point, and she was happy to do it. It wasn't a lot, but it was just enough to make a difference. Money are a trigger thing for me, so this makes me particularly proud.
3. I'm visiting my parents soon, and I usually try to fit too much in those trips- seeing family and friends and dealing with documents, and shopping- since I go there once every few months and it's 7h trip. But this time I chose to see my parents and only closest friends and limit my other tasks to necessities, so I don't get all overwhelmed. I am just starting to get a bit less anxious, I don't need to get all wound up again. It's sad I won't get to see all friends and do all things, but the city will still be there few months from now, when hopefully I'll be even better. So I keep telling myself this and affirming it- and I officially let my friend know as well- I just can't see all people on this trip, or even more than the bare minimum. It's just not good for me to get overwhelmed too much. I need to keep my social contact to things that I know will recharge me and be good for me...and that's healthy. It's hard, but it's healthy. I'm very happy to finally be able to make some choices like that.
That's all for now...just thought I should share something nice. :)
Changes and choice I made this season that I'm proud of:
1. Telling a friend I have to skip joining a celebration party to which she invited me, because even though I'm less anxious I still can't go to every single event without being anxious.
It was important to me to be there for her, but I figured it doesn't really count as being there if I go, and get all paniced and quiet and dissociate. I made a choice of what's good for my health, and I stand by that. Thankfully she's a good friend and she knows about my trouble so she was okay with it.
2. Instead of panicing about lack of money, I asked a client of mine if she can pay me early for the work I had done to that point, and she was happy to do it. It wasn't a lot, but it was just enough to make a difference. Money are a trigger thing for me, so this makes me particularly proud.
3. I'm visiting my parents soon, and I usually try to fit too much in those trips- seeing family and friends and dealing with documents, and shopping- since I go there once every few months and it's 7h trip. But this time I chose to see my parents and only closest friends and limit my other tasks to necessities, so I don't get all overwhelmed. I am just starting to get a bit less anxious, I don't need to get all wound up again. It's sad I won't get to see all friends and do all things, but the city will still be there few months from now, when hopefully I'll be even better. So I keep telling myself this and affirming it- and I officially let my friend know as well- I just can't see all people on this trip, or even more than the bare minimum. It's just not good for me to get overwhelmed too much. I need to keep my social contact to things that I know will recharge me and be good for me...and that's healthy. It's hard, but it's healthy. I'm very happy to finally be able to make some choices like that.
That's all for now...just thought I should share something nice. :)