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My boyfriend was sexually molested when he was just 4 years old by a neighbor. Then when my boyfriend was 9 or 10, he was caught doing the same thing that had been done to him to another neighborhood boy. I don't have all the details on what exactly that thing was, especially since this is such a touchy subject, but I think it had something to do with inappropriate touching. His parents immediately put him in intensive counseling. (Side note: He's definitely not gay or even bi, I think he was more just a confused child whose sexuality wasn't permitted to develop naturally.)
In his adult life, he's been what you could classify as promiscuous, although he's definitely never been sexually abusive to anyone nor is he even really into kink or fetishes much- he's just has had a good number of partners. He also cheated on someone once a long time ago when he was about 20 years old but has never cheated on anyone else since then.
Recently a couple prominent, well-respected, and trusted members of our community were busted for child molestation, and it's really affected me. I don't understand much about pedophiles or how they become that way. I realize I may be connecting dots where there perhaps are none, and I know I have my own anxieties I have to factor in as well, but I also don't want to be naive either (which I traditionally am so sometimes I overcompensate).
My boyfriend absolutely adores kids and is amazingly good and sweet with them. I poke fun of him that he's more the "woman" in our relationship since he always talks about how he can't wait to have them. Again, I just want to make sure I'm being smart. Any insight or clarity would really help! Thank you so much!
In his adult life, he's been what you could classify as promiscuous, although he's definitely never been sexually abusive to anyone nor is he even really into kink or fetishes much- he's just has had a good number of partners. He also cheated on someone once a long time ago when he was about 20 years old but has never cheated on anyone else since then.
Recently a couple prominent, well-respected, and trusted members of our community were busted for child molestation, and it's really affected me. I don't understand much about pedophiles or how they become that way. I realize I may be connecting dots where there perhaps are none, and I know I have my own anxieties I have to factor in as well, but I also don't want to be naive either (which I traditionally am so sometimes I overcompensate).
My boyfriend absolutely adores kids and is amazingly good and sweet with them. I poke fun of him that he's more the "woman" in our relationship since he always talks about how he can't wait to have them. Again, I just want to make sure I'm being smart. Any insight or clarity would really help! Thank you so much!