So I posted about a week ago that I had cut off my vet with combat PTSD. He then went from calm to irrational and very upset. That night he also sent a very good apology and came over the next day to apologize more. He suggested that day that we go a week with no communication. He later texted that he wouldn't be able to go a week without checking on my to make sure I was ok.
He continued to text little things here and there and I would stay over bc honestly, it's hard to be away and we both sleep better together than alone. I have bad insomnia by myself and for years I've had it. It's gone with him. So each day we would say, it starts today. Then he couldn't stick to it. Even on the days I was "strong". The truth is I didn't want to go without him. Finally on Friday he admitted he made a bad choice by suggesting it. So Sunday he called, instead of texting and asked me to come over to talk.
He said that he still wants to keep going the way we have been. Dating slowly and hanging out. He said we are good for each others well being and he wants to be around me. I still see little bits of him like he was before this isolation started. I can't lose or give up hope at this point. This is good for him bc he is becoming loving again but I know it will be a long time before he says he loves me again and I know that, but his actions speak louder than his words, so I'm happy with that.
He still says he doesn't want a serious relationship right now but we are seeing eachother more and more and his phone calls have increased. Also last week he admitted he didn't want to seek therapy help bc he was scared to relive everything. Yesterday he was quite excited bc he had found a therapist and wanted to start to heal.
If anyone thinks all of this is a good sign of healing, please let me know. And also, what is the best way for me to proceed so I don't push him away or tip his cup?
He continued to text little things here and there and I would stay over bc honestly, it's hard to be away and we both sleep better together than alone. I have bad insomnia by myself and for years I've had it. It's gone with him. So each day we would say, it starts today. Then he couldn't stick to it. Even on the days I was "strong". The truth is I didn't want to go without him. Finally on Friday he admitted he made a bad choice by suggesting it. So Sunday he called, instead of texting and asked me to come over to talk.
He said that he still wants to keep going the way we have been. Dating slowly and hanging out. He said we are good for each others well being and he wants to be around me. I still see little bits of him like he was before this isolation started. I can't lose or give up hope at this point. This is good for him bc he is becoming loving again but I know it will be a long time before he says he loves me again and I know that, but his actions speak louder than his words, so I'm happy with that.
He still says he doesn't want a serious relationship right now but we are seeing eachother more and more and his phone calls have increased. Also last week he admitted he didn't want to seek therapy help bc he was scared to relive everything. Yesterday he was quite excited bc he had found a therapist and wanted to start to heal.
If anyone thinks all of this is a good sign of healing, please let me know. And also, what is the best way for me to proceed so I don't push him away or tip his cup?