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Well, sometimes I'm not to good at handling issues that crop up. Often, I simply walk away. I understand it's that PTSD fight or flight, even over the most silly thing, but I need to learn a healthier approach.
Here's the latest example. A chick I've known for like 12 or 13 years has been cheating at Scrabble - both online and in real life. She uses word lists, the dictionary, and even throws her tiles back in the bag when she doesn't like them. She also takes far too long in making words, to the point that the others in the game begin to glaze over.
Normally, when you agree to a game, you agree to the rules right from the start, and you stick to it. So she never agrees. I don't want to play anymore. I understand that cheating to win is important to her and can't persuade her to play by the rules.
The other night we were all sitting around the table and she blatantly cheated. I got mad because she was cheating, so she started making fun of me. I got frustrated. She expects me to keep playing.
I don't want to lose her as a friend, so I'm thinking of just quietly bowing out of any games with her.
By even starting a thread about it here, I'm already blowing it out of proportion. I need to develop skills to deal with people.
Here's the latest example. A chick I've known for like 12 or 13 years has been cheating at Scrabble - both online and in real life. She uses word lists, the dictionary, and even throws her tiles back in the bag when she doesn't like them. She also takes far too long in making words, to the point that the others in the game begin to glaze over.
Normally, when you agree to a game, you agree to the rules right from the start, and you stick to it. So she never agrees. I don't want to play anymore. I understand that cheating to win is important to her and can't persuade her to play by the rules.
The other night we were all sitting around the table and she blatantly cheated. I got mad because she was cheating, so she started making fun of me. I got frustrated. She expects me to keep playing.
I don't want to lose her as a friend, so I'm thinking of just quietly bowing out of any games with her.
By even starting a thread about it here, I'm already blowing it out of proportion. I need to develop skills to deal with people.