I stood up to my ex husband yesterday!! That is a huge accomplishment for me. I don't usually stand up to anyone, let alone my ex husband who is a mixture of my father's and mother's worst characteristics combined. He is a bully, and very manipulative and intimidating, and twists everything around to always be my fault. And any time I've ever tried to stand up to him in the past I always ended up feeling guilty and apologizing to him. Well yesterday he did something very irresponsible while with my daughter, and my daughter told me about it after he dropped her off from visiting with her. I thought about calling him and finally decided to do it. I was shaking as I did it, but I called and told him I was extremely angry for what he did and I told him it was to never happen again. I think I shocked him because he was soft spoken and said it would never happen again. I rambled on and on, not holding anything back, and ended the conversation by telling him that I was not fully finished with being upset and that I might be calling him back to rant on again. We hung up and he called me back later and tried to twist it around by saying that I was in the wrong because I was upset when I called him, and that I should have just talked softly to him instead. So I told him that in no way did I feel bad for being angry, that he was in the wrong, and there was no way that he was going to try to get me to apologize or feel guilty for doing the right thing. I told him it was useles to try to make me out to be at fault. That is a huge accomplishment for me! I never did that before. I usually don't speak up, and if I do, I allow the other person to make me feel bad for being angry. I allow them to change the focus off themselves and onto me. And I end up apologizing to them. But not this time. I stuck to the topic and didn't waver. He was wrong and I was right. I am very proud of myself for this accomplishment and thought I'd share it here.