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Stressed Out - Life Stressors Too Much

Discussion in 'General' started by Marlene, Nov 8, 2006.

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  1. Marlene

    Marlene I'm a VIP Premium Member

    I ended up coming home early from work today (a very rare occurance) because I hurt all over, but especially in my hips. All morning long I could feel the tension travel in the muscles all over my body. My jaw, my neck, down my breastbone, up my sides. But the hips were so bad that sitting down made me feel like crying.

    Fortunately, a lot of people have colds right now and my boss was out sick yesterday with it so I just walked into his office and told him 'I feel like crap and I need to go home.' I didn't explain why I felt like crap, I just let him assume it was a cold.

    Friday/Saturday/Sunday nights I didn't sleep but a few hours. About 1am each night my body just shut down. I've been trying for the last couple of nights to get more sleep but I wake up feeling more tired than when I went to sleep.

    Tomorrow my husband and I go to the burn clinic for his evaluation and they tell us if he's going to have to get the skins grafts and stay in the hospital for five days. Hopefully when I know what's going on my stress level will drop.

    I've spent all week dealing with the insurance company and I found out from the adjuster that he's not going to be paid for this week until he's been out of work for 21 days. Not her fault...it's just workers comp. But financial worry on top of worrying about what's going to happen to my hubby...it knocked me on my ass. I was so bad that by the time I hit my front door I was crying and hubby (who I'm supposed to be taking care of) had to put me into bed. I got a couple of hours of sleep and I feel a little better.

    I'm going to go take a hot bath. Man today has just sucked.
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  3. anthony

    anthony Renovation Aficionado Founder

    Hmmmm... good idea marlene, take some you time, I think you need it. Please take care of yourself marlene, especially that your going into a down, and you need to try and pull yourself up very quick seen as though you are employed. Please be kind to yourself...
  4. sibemom

    sibemom Active Member

    I am so sorry to hear you had a bad day, but here is my PROFOUND comment for the day. "If you do not take care of you, no one else will. It's not selfish to take time out for yourself or to put your hand up and say STOP I HAVE HAD ENOUGH, and remove yourself from the situation that causes you distress" In time I hope that lessens for you. I am finding that with all my other STUFF, I have not had time to allow the PTSD to take over, it's still there and yes I do have the panic attacks and all the good things that go with it, but right now I don't have time for it. It's up to me wether I let this beat me or not, and I know how exhausting it can be and how sometimes you just have no controll, but since joining forums such as this and other support groups for my other issues I find this is the best thing to add to my psycho threapy. No one has the right to tell you that you are benig weak or selfish for wanting time to regroup. YOU DESERVE TO FEEL GOOD and I hope you do very soon. I am seeing some progress slowly so all I can do is wish that for everyone else. TAKE CARE.
  5. Marlene

    Marlene I'm a VIP Premium Member

    I know this is true (logically), but it's hard to get my emotional side to get with the program. My mother keeps telling me that I don't have to be super mom and to take the giant S off my chest. LOL

    I've worked hard on letting a lot of little things 'go' and not letting things get to me. I'm a recovering perfectionist. And I've been pretty successful.

    But when it's someone I love who's hurting...all bets are off and I come in second to them. And it's my choice. In the past, it's been no big deal for me to do this. But now...well, it's a new ballgame.

    Besides, the old man has been keeping kicking my butt as needed for the last week. Yesterday I think it just all caught up with me in one fell swoop. I'm feeling a lot better today. So I guess we're now taking care of each other now. :kiss:
  6. JoannaG

    JoannaG Active Member

    How did it go for you and hubs yesterday Marlene?
  7. Marlene

    Marlene I'm a VIP Premium Member

    Most of the burns are healing well. The three big third degree burns (right leg-knee, outside of calf and top of foot) are the points of concern. The, I guess they're scabs, are too thick for the medicine to penetrate. So we've been given a cream to put on at night that is supposed to debride those three spots so the medicine can get down to the burn. He goes back on Monday for another evaluation. If it's not doing as well as they want, then Tuesday he goes into the hospital for the skin grafts. Ohhh.....did I mention that Tuesday is my 20th anniversary? :doh: I feel like the pilot from the old 'Airplane' movie that kept saying, 'I picked a bad week to quit...drinking, sniffing glue, doing drugs'...add your own line here. LOL

    One nice thing-the worker's comp. people have arranged a car service to be at hubby's disposal for doctor's appointments. That way he's taken care of (he can't drive under doc's orders) and I don't have to miss work. That was a relief.

    My husband is an avid (OK...rabid) fisherman. There was a doctor, a physicians assistant, a nurse and a nurse practicitioner all in the exam room with us. And all were female. He asked if he could go fishing and had four woman damn near shout 'NO!' at him. When we got home he put on ESPN and watched a fishing show. Poor guy!
  8. JoannaG

    JoannaG Active Member

    You both can have a romantic candlelight dinner and he can't go fishing on your aniversary either:wink:
    Hope you ae coping well with all yourself.
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