DandylionWishes
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Good for you I telling him to only handle things through the court system! That's a big step! Good luck getting him to do that.
Tempting as it is to stand up for yourself and your child, no matter how badly you want to be understood and clear your name...nothing you do or say will make a difference or stop his smear campaign. The only way to deal with someone like this and keep your sanity is to go 100% NO CONTACT. That's him, his family - any and all means he has at getting at you or to you. Anything more opens Pandora's Box for him to pounce on the chance to use anything and everything against you to make you look horrible and/or crazy (and his antics would probably provoke any normal person into overreacting just to feel heard and seen in such an unfair situation) and only serve to prove his point.
I truly believe in my gut he's playing games with you - and it's working. How many days, weeks, months has he cost you lost sleep, worry, fear, etc,? One minute too long.
No, 100% no contact won't fix that, but anything that provides even a little relief is awesome and a great beginning in a new and healthier direction.
Note: this is not an easy task, but there are websites that provide helpful information to get you started and you're welcome to message me (if that's possible) and I'm happy to share what I've learned and my experience with going no contact. ~ Namaste
Tempting as it is to stand up for yourself and your child, no matter how badly you want to be understood and clear your name...nothing you do or say will make a difference or stop his smear campaign. The only way to deal with someone like this and keep your sanity is to go 100% NO CONTACT. That's him, his family - any and all means he has at getting at you or to you. Anything more opens Pandora's Box for him to pounce on the chance to use anything and everything against you to make you look horrible and/or crazy (and his antics would probably provoke any normal person into overreacting just to feel heard and seen in such an unfair situation) and only serve to prove his point.
I truly believe in my gut he's playing games with you - and it's working. How many days, weeks, months has he cost you lost sleep, worry, fear, etc,? One minute too long.
No, 100% no contact won't fix that, but anything that provides even a little relief is awesome and a great beginning in a new and healthier direction.
Note: this is not an easy task, but there are websites that provide helpful information to get you started and you're welcome to message me (if that's possible) and I'm happy to share what I've learned and my experience with going no contact. ~ Namaste