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Pushing away and closing off would be stopping to communicate with your loved one altogether (while you maintain all other relationships) because you perceive yourself as f*cked up so instead of trying to open up to them, reach out to them explaining that you are not accessible… you shut them down completely with no explanation because you know that being vulnerable before them in any way would make you feel things, you then would perceive yourself as weak, so you just choose to walk away like nothing happened… you continue the cycle of not being vulnerable in anyway and therefore unable to maintain a close relationship because deep down you know the inherent needs of relationship scare you to death. You’ve spent your life being the cold, impenetrable wall… rather than admitting that to yourself and communicating something to your loved one you just close off and shut down with absolutely no explanation because you know that the “you” you’ve got to face is not something you’d like to deal with.