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So my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We began our relationship while he was already in one. He broke up with her. He has never cheated on me, I have moments of jealousy.
During the beginning of our relationship he was talking to a client over text and talking a little more than just friendly conversation. He had shown interest in her( More than just friendship). I saw these messages a couple months into our relationship and explain to him why I think he shouldn't be speaking to her anymore. He agreed he said I was right and hasn't spoken to her since.
Recently I saw (social media) for example he starts to follow someone he's met just once Through work, I ask him about it and it turns into a fight about how he says I can't trust him. He says I question him and grill him. I ask in a calm manner and just hope his response isn't to get upset for me asking in the first place.
When I'm having these moments of anxiety he can often tell when I am not myself, so he asks me what's wrong until I tell him and then when I do tell him im having a jealous moment and why, he gets upset. I apologize sincerely and I know what I'm doing is wrong. I know I should trust him he's a great guy how do I stop myself from getting jealous and damaging our relationship? Am i addicted to emotional pain?
During the beginning of our relationship he was talking to a client over text and talking a little more than just friendly conversation. He had shown interest in her( More than just friendship). I saw these messages a couple months into our relationship and explain to him why I think he shouldn't be speaking to her anymore. He agreed he said I was right and hasn't spoken to her since.
Recently I saw (social media) for example he starts to follow someone he's met just once Through work, I ask him about it and it turns into a fight about how he says I can't trust him. He says I question him and grill him. I ask in a calm manner and just hope his response isn't to get upset for me asking in the first place.
When I'm having these moments of anxiety he can often tell when I am not myself, so he asks me what's wrong until I tell him and then when I do tell him im having a jealous moment and why, he gets upset. I apologize sincerely and I know what I'm doing is wrong. I know I should trust him he's a great guy how do I stop myself from getting jealous and damaging our relationship? Am i addicted to emotional pain?