@Sandstone now I think you are really not being fair. Its seems your wounds are cut so deep you are not listening to what actually people says?
I for once have never said It was reasonable of your mom to do and say what she did and nor will I ever say that.
Further I never said you should talk with her and say its your fault. I emphatically said that I very much understand you being upset with her. And If you dont want to talk with her I could perfectly understand.
I see all this people her wanting to give you love and support each in their own way. It looks like you reject us all and it makes me really sad on your behalf. It seems this thread becomes a continuation of defense and it wont help no matter what I say or any one else says. Its like you are looking for someone to say the wrong thing - the thing that triggers you and then boom - you choose to shut down.
I for once have never said It was reasonable of your mom to do and say what she did and nor will I ever say that.
Further I never said you should talk with her and say its your fault. I emphatically said that I very much understand you being upset with her. And If you dont want to talk with her I could perfectly understand.
I see all this people her wanting to give you love and support each in their own way. It looks like you reject us all and it makes me really sad on your behalf. It seems this thread becomes a continuation of defense and it wont help no matter what I say or any one else says. Its like you are looking for someone to say the wrong thing - the thing that triggers you and then boom - you choose to shut down.