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They are 30 -35 now.Can I ask the age range of your kids?
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They are 30 -35 now.Can I ask the age range of your kids?
We'll probably have to agree to disagree on that one. The ones I've had the most dealings with are pretty convincing in their "I am the greatest and the world needs to bow down to the very special ME" routine. I'll admit it MIGHT be an act, but I seriously doubt anyone acts that well or that consistently. I'd find it easier to empathize with them, if I thought they were really insecure, but my own experience suggests that they really believe what they appear to believe.Actually they have very little self esteem.
Why of course, that is exactly what narcissists thrive on. I know many of such narcissists, and they do small favors or large favors for others, but never to simply do good, they do that to influence others so they comply with what they want, so that others see them as good people and trust them.My kids, all grown up, have a father that is a nasty piece of narcissist. I would venture to say he i...
Why of course, that is exactly what narcissists thrive on. I know many of such narcissists, and they do small favors or large favors for others, but never to simply do good, they do that to influence others so they comply with what they want, so that others see them as good people and trust them.
It is like they have this program running in them that says 'I would be nothing without Dad.' It is so deep that if anyone says anything about their father, they immediately come to his defense - in a rabid dog kind of way.
Thank you for this. This is helpful. And I am certain Stockholm syndrome applies here as well. I am very sorry you have gone through this Lost. It is awful to watch. I can't imagine how it felt.I actually did this up until id say about a year or so but once blame shifted is when it really started to change and fast. And i was 16 yrs removed from contact with them and 6 yrs in therapy still did it. And a tape running constantly is about the best way to put it.
Its brainwashing and my therapist said Stockholm syndrome
Thank you for this. This is helpful. And I am certain Stockholm syndrome applies here as well. I am...
They'll know that there's no such thing as "harmless little exposing of dad's bad side ".
I'll bet if one of your kids seriously talked to him about his negative behavior traits, it would only be a matter of time before they were casually cut off from what they were used to getting and the other kids were convinced that one had ' hurt' the dad and done something wrong. I suspect your kids know that too.
There is no casual about it. They are instantly and without any remorse annihilated from the 'family' and all of the perks that that includes. They character is destroyed and the other two are happy to climb on board with the propaganda, as the revered 'golden child' spot has come up for grabs again.it would only be a matter of time before they were casually cut off from what they were used to getting and the other kids were convinced that one had ' hurt' the dad and done something wrong.
Im not sure about @shimmerz's kids, but for me, regardless of what my mom...
I keep trying to figure this out. Do they know? Are they aware? My SO says yes, they absolutely know.... but this stuff started happening to them when they were so young, I just don't know.When I thought maybe shimmerz kids knew more than they let on,