blue_eyes18
Confident
Just a general question: Why do sufferers feel the overwhelming need to push their partners away? I feel that if I can begin to understand WHY it happens, I can hopefully learn to forgive and move on.
My girlfriend used to do everything in her power to push me away and end the relationship. Then she would come back and break down, saying she never truly wanted me gone, but that in that overwhelming moment, she was just having one of those episodes where she felt she was being smothered and would do and say whatever it took to get away from everything. She would have those about once a month in the beginning of our relationship.
I never understood this, as I'm not a smothering person, whatsoever. I would ask her what exactly she meant by feeling smothered, and she would atempt to explain, but it never would really make much sense to me. She always would attempt to explain that it wasn't my fault and that it wasn't anything I was doing wrong, however, the only thing I ever really got out of it was that all of a sudden, she would feel this overwhelming sense of being smothered by the world, and that in that moment, she absolutely felt like she needed to get away from literally everything. And that's why she would push me away.
But I guess it's just hard for me to understand what that really means. Does anyone have any good insight into this, as I'm trying to let go of the past and find it hard to do so without fully understanding why she did the things she did. What exactly goes through a sufferers head when they are experiencing this feeling?
Thanks.
My girlfriend used to do everything in her power to push me away and end the relationship. Then she would come back and break down, saying she never truly wanted me gone, but that in that overwhelming moment, she was just having one of those episodes where she felt she was being smothered and would do and say whatever it took to get away from everything. She would have those about once a month in the beginning of our relationship.
I never understood this, as I'm not a smothering person, whatsoever. I would ask her what exactly she meant by feeling smothered, and she would atempt to explain, but it never would really make much sense to me. She always would attempt to explain that it wasn't my fault and that it wasn't anything I was doing wrong, however, the only thing I ever really got out of it was that all of a sudden, she would feel this overwhelming sense of being smothered by the world, and that in that moment, she absolutely felt like she needed to get away from literally everything. And that's why she would push me away.
But I guess it's just hard for me to understand what that really means. Does anyone have any good insight into this, as I'm trying to let go of the past and find it hard to do so without fully understanding why she did the things she did. What exactly goes through a sufferers head when they are experiencing this feeling?
Thanks.
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