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Why Do Women Hate/dislike Each Other??

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Omg!!! I couldn't agree with you more! I have started distancing myself from male friends as well because I realized that they were only after getting into my pants. I have acquaintances and a counselor .That's all for now. Achieving a career is more important to me than being liked by people .I have already been sexually assaulted by a guy 4 week and he was supposed to be someone I liked amd cared for. So I've decided to focus on my life goals instead.

Thanks for your input.
 
It reminds me of the rich man with ten cookies throwing one for the other five people to fight over frankly. If we obtain equal worth we will have more fulfilled lives and less need to partner for one thing. We as women are part of the problem playing the same old..same old game because men like it. Now however we live in a time when 10 year olds obtain horridly violent slave porn with ease over the internet.. vs. a day when they snuck lingerie magazines for a peek. In the 1970's the women of Iran were liberated.. look at them now. We have 27 million plus slaves and a good portion of them are women and children.. serving sexual purposes. Who cares about the catty crap. We can argue all day.. and nothing gets done. We need unbreakable unifying forces. to protect and make a better future. I can not count on the male percentage of the population who has had years of being trained on specific exploitation and having me serve and disrespect.. and violate me unchecked.
 
I have always had female friends. And I am an Alpha female. But I am also an older woman who was not raised in the Feminist era. There seemed to not be as much "competition. "
Feminism was coming to fruition when I was in my early twenties. It was a very confusing time for a lot of women of my generation.
Being raised "old school" with all these opportunities becoming available. What to do?
Many of us in some ways were ahead of our time. We had jobs, aspects of life that did not revolve around home and hearth. Before Feminism.
We were around the same age, educated, healthy and talked about the world we lived in.
But with that being said, I also know we were raised or had mentors who were resposible hard working women. We were taught compassion and empathy. And had manners and understood there was consequences for our actions.
My 14 yr old granddaughter doesn't have a clue about manners or compassion. So who knows.
I am grateful for my long time friends and We do talk about the pettiness of younger women. Makes me feel bad for the OP who started this thread. But there are women out there who will "get" you and be so relieved there is another woman in her midst who is mature and has great qualties that make for long term relationships
Keep looking. And you may be friends with older women because they understand what that means. Age really doesn't matter but quality does.
Disclaimer; my post was not an invitation for a Feminism debate. Was simply sharing my frame of reference.
 
An ex of mine was like that. She did not get on well with other women.

She had some pretty heavy narcissistic traits. Also after about 5 minutes in conversation with her father, it was obvious he didn't think much of women.

Needless to say, I didn't like him very much.

Though for the record. I get that things need to change for women world wide. Though I don't like being tarred with the same brush as every other man. Just because I'm nice to a woman doesn't mean that I must want to shag her.

People are people. Irregardless of what sexual anatomy they possess. Women are more than their cup size. Are there loads of shallow men out there? Oh yeah.

Are there loads of shallow women out there? Yup.

Maybe it's the depression talking, but my libido doesn't have alot of weight in my decision making process, when it's comes to the women I work with every day. I've got more important things to worry about.

I've seen alot of men who are pigs. And alot of women who are equally despicable.

Treat me with respect, you'll receive the same. Mr. or Mrs. I don't care. We're all people.
 
I dont hate or dislike women, as a female myself.

I hate drama, my personality is pretty laid back but on top of things, organized, a leader, and i despise cliques.

Why are some men macho assholes?

If you take two pitch black tunnels and you put, say 500 men lost in one and 500 women lost in the other. I gurentee you that you will have the same amount of leaders trying to get everyone out, assholes that only care to get themselves out, freaked out ones, a clique in the corner, the ones sitting back with a bud letting the rest do the work. There is all of that in both men and women, the same amount as well id say.

Some women are catty but some men are as well.

My point is, you cant generalize this just as much as you cant generalize much of anything else. People are people. There's an equal amount of everything in both genders.
 
I have to say I don't agree with people saying its younger women that's the problem. Arseholes are arseholes regardless of gender or age. As a young women I have young female friends some older female friends too.

It's is difficult finding real friends that aren't fake, want something, or some other thing.
 
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As a young women I have young female friends some older female friends too.

At 18 my best friend was in her late 30s, her daughter a yr older than me. She was and still is the most loyal, understanding best friend i have ever had.

And when i was 18, 19, 20 area, i acted much MUCH older so my friends were usually much older as well.

Most of the gossiping, judgemental, catty women in my family are also a generation above me.

Younger NEVER means they are the immature, clique-y, catty ones. I wasnt even that way in middle and high school. Ive never had "teen agnst" so it most certianly isnt just younger!
 
Ever since last semester and sexual assault a month ago, I'm starting to distance myself from people. I am not engaging with the opposite gender due to fear of being taken advantage of, i know that not all guys or girls are bad. It's just that my experiences haven't been great throughout my childhood or even now.

I now wonder if there is a problem with me? Please note: I'm not trying to shift blames on anyone.
 
I swear its them. fMRI has shown via brainscans porn alters the brain (and even natural function) and it is fake, horrid and violent at least from my exposure. It is also unfortunate souls trapped in a dark world generally. Men are exposed to a ton of violent imagery and conundrums of what masculinity means. Many are privileged so its like trying to explain sight to a blind person in my opinion. They have from my experiences seemed to grow more violent as of recent..unless it is my unfortunate inability to see through sales men hence in part to taking an investigations course which has been helpful seeing through bullshit a lot more (mainly due to a serious stalker recently..and law enforcements shrug of their shoulders till my life was actually threatened) I am glad rape has become a serious discussion and human trafficking, For this I will always love our President Obama. I also watched programming that suggests the same by David Grossman and how they specifically desensitize military through violent imagery video games have not helped the situation. Media is more powerful than people give it credit.

For instance I through visualization and Krav Maga videos overcame physical flashbacks after a painful year of them rapidly a week or two. My dreams changed first where I was able to fight off the rapist.. then the flashbacks also stopped. I could go on.. so in part I blame poor media and choices men make. Thank God for vibrators.. ;) (seriously though)
 
@J_trustno1 there's nothing wrong with you. It's perfectly natural to distance yourself from people if you have tons of evidence to mistrust them.

It's a very difficult thing you're going through. You may very well be giving off vibes of leave me alone don't f*ck with me that people can be picking up on.

Most of my friends said when they first met me they got that vibe one even said that thought I was scary. I couldn't believe it. Me? Scary? :laugh: I was mistrusting and scared of them. It's helpful to meet people who share a passion. All the pretence falls away when people have a fire in their bellys about something they love. That's how I met all of my friends that turned out to be good people and stuck around.

It still means you have to eventually let yourself be vulnerable to a certain degree which is definitely the hard part.

In the mean time why not be the best friend to yourself that you deserve. Treat yourself the way you'd want a good friend to treat you. Buy yourself something you'd like for no other reason than you want to do something nice for yourself. You deserve it. :hug:s if you accept them.
 
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