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Why Would He Do This?

Discussion in 'Supporter Discussion' started by Jen, Sep 20, 2007.

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  1. Jen

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    Hubby was diagnosed with Diabeties Class 2 which can be controlled by diet and exercise his GP sent him to a specialist before then he was walking and just starting to ride his bike. We went and saw this Doc and he said his sugar level is not to bad so just to keep an eye on things and gave him one of those test kits where you test yourself. He said to Hubby that he didnt have to have a strict diet he can have junk every now and then just keep an eye on it? Thats was all hubby needed to hear that night he devoured a large pizza and is now visiting the cake shop and back to eating junk? He has his IBS back after not having it for weeks I went out last night I asked him what about dinner he said he would get something knowing that any junk sets his IBS of again? You guessed he devoured another pizza last night and is sick as a dog today?
    Does he not learn bloody hell he is 50 year old sometimes I think he enjoys being sick that sounds stupid I know but come on!! What a twit!!:crazy:
    Thats my whinge!
     
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  3. permban0077

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    I have absolutely no clue why people do this. Just seems to be up in the air who decides to stick to the plan or not. Some people I have seen see they are "fine" after a while and act like nothing is wrong with them. Though common sense says you have to eat right to stay fine. My MIL was on a pretty strict diet that I have seen slip out the window slowly. My ex FIL threw it out the window, he went blind before his death. But go figure my step dad has done very well sticking to healthy eating.

    Maybe since he is OK for the moment he is just treating himself to some splurging? Have you asked him to cut it out yet or asked him why he is doing this or if it is just short term (like getting a wild hair out)? I know many just bear with healthy eating and it is hard for them when there are so many greasy, fatty, and sweet goodies for the taking all around us.

    Hope hubby doesn't drive you up the wall and that his splurge is short lived!
     
  4. 2quilt

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    I do that too

    I can tell you why I do it.
    I have been sad for the past few days, crying and upset, and so I have been off my diet and living on Ben and Jerry's . It's my way of hurting myself.

    Yes, it's comfort food, and I do love chocolate, but I know what the consequences are for IBS and my cholesterol and reflux and not being able to sleep and other things. Depression.
     
  5. Jen

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    Thanks guys I just dont get it as I had major surgery earlier this year and have had to change my diet and keep an eye on a few things with my body changes and he is always nagging at me to make sure I dont lift things etc to hurt myself I am not stupid and I wont do things that I know I shouldnt!
    Yet he doesnt practice what he preaches?
    Jen
     
  6. ryair

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    Ahh Jen,
    I sympathize, really, I do!!! I guess you could always try the "do what you want, deal with it yourself!" approach? Always worked with Tonka! And as for the reason you looked after yourself and he wont?..... my opinion is that you knew you had to be back on top of the world ASAP cause you are the one used to being the only one in control. AND you're a mother... we tend to know what happens if we are not around to cope with everything!!!! As for men...... well, they are more used to being invincable.... and sooking to us when they are sick:rofl:.
    Personally, I'd let him do his worst.... then dob on him to his doctor when he wonders why his bloods are too high!!!
    MWA!!! look after yourself girl!!!
    (its like having a damn kid to deal with aint it???!!!)
    Ryair xxxxxxxxxx
    P.S Hope you got a smile outa this!!
     
  7. Jen

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    Ah yes Ryair thank you thats what I plan to do! Do they ever gtow up?
    Oh well the Doc is sure to say something when he seems him I hope so anyway!
    And yep you gave me a smile:hello:
     
  8. Tammy

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    Hi Jen,
    I was helping my MIL study for a diabetes course she did recently, and during this time I read all I could on the subject to help her to study. I saw above that you mentioned your husband was 50... Whilst I was helping my MIL to study we learned that most people with diabetes simply do not care to change their diets for very long because they figure that they have survived so far without a 'diet' and simply dont need it. My partners gandmother has diabetes as well and she does not care in the slightest about her eating habits. Some times you just have to let things go down hill for a little while so that your husband will eventually "wake up to himself" (sorry its the only way I know how to put it). Eventually he will become sick enough and realise that he needs to eat better... all you can really do is be there for when things get really bad... Good luck with it all though.
     
  9. Jen

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    Thanks Tammy thats it I am there when things get bad but sometimes things dont have to get bad if he would look after himself. I was talking to a friend who said her hubby walked his diabeties of with heaps of walking I mentioned this to hubby he just shrugged his shoulders. So it all comes down to the attitude!
    Jen
     
  10. Kathy

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    Evie does a similar thing as well Jen. She does not have diabetes, however due to having a partial gastrectomy she has a very small stomach, akin to someone who's had gastric bypass surgery. As a result, she must eat frequent small meals and not too much junk as she needs all the nutrients possible. Usually she abides by her diet, however sometimes she will binge on favourite foods and treats and make herself ill, though she definitely knows better.

    In Evie's case, I don't think she enjoys being ill. Personally, I feel she uses the food to comfort herself, and the pleasure she derives from eating it outweighs any ill effects later. I have noticed a pattern in her, when she is very stressed or upset is when she does this binging on treats. It seems to be a coping mechanism, similar to how others might cope by having a couple of drinks. Your husband has been under extra stress lately with the death in the family, and this may be a way he is coping with it, comforting himself by eating foods he enjoys. In any event, just a thought. I do hope he smartens up soon, as diabetes is nothing to fool with!
     
  11. Cole

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    Hi Jen

    As i have mentioned before my brother in law is type 2 and although he has suffered one massive stroke from it, sadly he still hasn't learned his lesson from it. He'll eat an entire "sugar free" pie and forget all about the carbs in it or he'll have seconds or thirds of pasta.
    He also forgets to take his insulin and I've never seen him check his sugars.
    I don't know what advise I can give you except to keep nagging him about it and if he complains about your nagging just tell him that you don't want him dead.
    Hope everything work out for you and him.
    Cole
     
  12. Jen

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    Oh the latest is he has an ingrown toenail the doc said if it doesnt clear up he will take it out. He had an appointment the other day and could not get out of bed so now we have to wait two weeks to see the Doc. Now its infected so he has to take antbiotics to clear it up if he would have gone to his appoinment the other day it may have saved some grief!!:wall:
     
  13. jods

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    Just remind him Jen that with his diabetes that he has to be careful with his feet. For some reason the foot takes longer to heal & if left unchecked can turn into something more serious.
     
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