I only wish I was making this up. I am seeking help in dealing with this nightmare with my wife whom I love dearly. We have been married for 37 years. 18 months ago our last child got married and moved out of the house. My wife has become less and less able to maintain her normal daily activities since then. She started treatment with a psychiatrist about the time of the wedding. A year ago my wife was diagnosed with major depression and PTSD.
6 months ago she started showing irritability and blowing up over seemingly insignificant things that rapidly degenerated into daily threats to divorce me. I started walking on eggshells when the panic attacks started and then really started blaming myself when the divorce threats started. 4 months ago she stopped taking meds so that she "could stay up and watch movies". Sleep deprivation lead to hypomania and greater irritability. She moved into another bedroom with limited contact for 6 weeks. Things were better for a few weeks until her childhood "safe place" uncle died of cancer a couple of weeks after that followed by holiday stress and another round of sleep deprivation. That culminated in a 20 mimute monologue on Christmas eve where she relived all the pains she has been carrying around from as far back as 50 years ago to as recently as earlier in the year in front of the kids and their spouses.
She stated she would be moving out on the day after Christmas. She was clearly not mentally well but apparently had been holding it together in fornt of her psychiatrist and therapist. She functionally declined further and started compusively spending a total of $45,000. he was admitted to a psychiatirc center for in-patient treatment for 6 days on 1/14. Bipolar was added to her diagnosis during this stay. Between Christmas and now she has stopped talking to me at all unless she wants something. She started Therapy in mid-December for her childhood sexual abuse and has been sleeping/medicating regularly since she got out a week ago. Can anyone give some suggestions of what to/not do to try and save our relationship?
6 months ago she started showing irritability and blowing up over seemingly insignificant things that rapidly degenerated into daily threats to divorce me. I started walking on eggshells when the panic attacks started and then really started blaming myself when the divorce threats started. 4 months ago she stopped taking meds so that she "could stay up and watch movies". Sleep deprivation lead to hypomania and greater irritability. She moved into another bedroom with limited contact for 6 weeks. Things were better for a few weeks until her childhood "safe place" uncle died of cancer a couple of weeks after that followed by holiday stress and another round of sleep deprivation. That culminated in a 20 mimute monologue on Christmas eve where she relived all the pains she has been carrying around from as far back as 50 years ago to as recently as earlier in the year in front of the kids and their spouses.
She stated she would be moving out on the day after Christmas. She was clearly not mentally well but apparently had been holding it together in fornt of her psychiatrist and therapist. She functionally declined further and started compusively spending a total of $45,000. he was admitted to a psychiatirc center for in-patient treatment for 6 days on 1/14. Bipolar was added to her diagnosis during this stay. Between Christmas and now she has stopped talking to me at all unless she wants something. She started Therapy in mid-December for her childhood sexual abuse and has been sleeping/medicating regularly since she got out a week ago. Can anyone give some suggestions of what to/not do to try and save our relationship?