PTSD sufferer
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Hi,
I have been a new member of this forum for a few weeks now and have only just mustered up the courage to post about my trauma. So here it is.
I worked for a few years under the management of a man who had a personality disorder. He was a terrible manager and terrorised me constantly, not just with nasty comments and common place bullying, but with threats of physical violence and sexual harassment.
He threatened to 'cut me a smile' with knife, he exposed himself to me, put public hair in my coffee, tried to drug me with his medication (by putting it in my coffee), peed in a cup and tipped it all over me and my office. He went through my suitcase and stole my underwear. He told a hotel receptionist that I was his daughter and got a key to my hotel room on a business trip. He threatened me constantly and called me all sorts of names. He destroyed my reputation, stalked me, watched me through a hole in the wall and terrorised me.
I reported him to HR (who had documentation saying he had a personality disorder) and they said I was acting crazy and paranoid, I reported him to the Union and they dismissed him as 'just a bully', I reported him to his boss and she promised to move me - she never did.
Finally, when he held up a meeting with the same knife he threatened to kill me with, they believed and instead of taking charge themselves, they sent me in to talk him down...but did they move me away from him?...no. Did they help me at all...no. They didn't want it to happen to them.
The manager and his boss were eventually fired, but (although I tried) I did not have enough proof to take my manager and the company to court. I regret not getting enough proof of what was going on, and I'm very angry at the company and my colleagues who saw what he was doing and chose not to act on it for fear of loosing their own jobs. I am also very jealous of anyone who has the opportunity to take their abuser to court....I wish I had that opportunity.
I now have to suffer with PTSD whilst he has moved on to managing another team in another company. It pains me to think he could be doing the exact same thing to another person...but there is nothing I can do about it. I feel helpless.
I'm sure this all sounds pretty surreal to you all....its not an easy thing for people to believe. Regardless, this is my story...
I have been a new member of this forum for a few weeks now and have only just mustered up the courage to post about my trauma. So here it is.
I worked for a few years under the management of a man who had a personality disorder. He was a terrible manager and terrorised me constantly, not just with nasty comments and common place bullying, but with threats of physical violence and sexual harassment.
He threatened to 'cut me a smile' with knife, he exposed himself to me, put public hair in my coffee, tried to drug me with his medication (by putting it in my coffee), peed in a cup and tipped it all over me and my office. He went through my suitcase and stole my underwear. He told a hotel receptionist that I was his daughter and got a key to my hotel room on a business trip. He threatened me constantly and called me all sorts of names. He destroyed my reputation, stalked me, watched me through a hole in the wall and terrorised me.
I reported him to HR (who had documentation saying he had a personality disorder) and they said I was acting crazy and paranoid, I reported him to the Union and they dismissed him as 'just a bully', I reported him to his boss and she promised to move me - she never did.
Finally, when he held up a meeting with the same knife he threatened to kill me with, they believed and instead of taking charge themselves, they sent me in to talk him down...but did they move me away from him?...no. Did they help me at all...no. They didn't want it to happen to them.
The manager and his boss were eventually fired, but (although I tried) I did not have enough proof to take my manager and the company to court. I regret not getting enough proof of what was going on, and I'm very angry at the company and my colleagues who saw what he was doing and chose not to act on it for fear of loosing their own jobs. I am also very jealous of anyone who has the opportunity to take their abuser to court....I wish I had that opportunity.
I now have to suffer with PTSD whilst he has moved on to managing another team in another company. It pains me to think he could be doing the exact same thing to another person...but there is nothing I can do about it. I feel helpless.
I'm sure this all sounds pretty surreal to you all....its not an easy thing for people to believe. Regardless, this is my story...