The therapist I mentioned above (I should have include) was for marital counseling, but I did think he should be competent enough to help my partner understand. He also horrible analogies....During one session I was sharing my hurts about being estranged from my 26 yr old daughter and he compared it with his 45 yr old son not attending catholic church. In another session, I described my husband knocking me down the steps, and he ignored it so I stated it a couple more times, which is when he asked husband to leave room and asked if I wanted to see a shrink because I was so upset. He would write notes at end of session and stated "physical attraction" to cover his ass. He is a very nice man,,,but a really avoidant therapist. I have been blessed with good T other than this. If this had been my first round, I sure can see why people don't want to go back and lack confidence.