Gamera3000
Confident
The last time I saw my therapist she asked me to focus on some pain things, and then she said that I thought that if I didn't bad about my brother being dead, it meant I didn't love him. I DID say that I felt he deserved for people to feel bad that he was gone and that I thought I was the only one who still felt this bad about it, 15 years later. But I don't think that I wouldn't love him if I didn't feel bad.
I kind of think that a bad thing happened, no matter how much time has gone by, the bad thing still happened. He's still gone, so it still hurts. How can I feel better, or heal, if the bad condition is ongoing?
Has anyone else heard this from a therapist (or whoever) and had trouble understanding it? Or does anyone else have an unusual way of understanding it that might click?
I kind of think that a bad thing happened, no matter how much time has gone by, the bad thing still happened. He's still gone, so it still hurts. How can I feel better, or heal, if the bad condition is ongoing?
Has anyone else heard this from a therapist (or whoever) and had trouble understanding it? Or does anyone else have an unusual way of understanding it that might click?