I Don't Want To Hurt Anyone

[joeylittle]

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[Deleted member 34424]

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Having fun following me around with inappropriate add ins, considering the topic of the thread? Of course.

 

[joeylittle]

No, @ShamrockChalk - I'm doing what any staff would do anywhere else on the board - member posts question/comment on a function in-thread, staff answers it so more questions don't follow.

Now, back to the topic.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I can't stand it if I think I've done anything to hurt anyone. It's unbearable. I'll go to great l...

I was manipulated as a child too by my father. Made me believe in things that were simply lies. And yes, I can totally relate to your troubles feeling bad when making mistakes or saying the wrong thing. I have that too and I think it is partially from my upbringing when my predator father was able to convince me that things that were wrong with his life were my fault. Mind you, I was very young then, just a kid. Now I am 52 and my father is still trying to pull that B.S.
Predators actually trained us into feeling so guilty, it is not our fault.
Once I realized that it got a little easier, but I still feel guilty even though it is the fault of a person that is actually abusing me. That may be one symptom that will stay throughout my life, that I feel responsible for the abuse that I receive. My dad drove my mom into the grave and she wrote him a letter to be opened after her death. She actually apologized to this monster that abused her over 50 years.

Just keep that in mind, it is something that a predator groomed you to do. You may go down that path, but if you remind yourself why you feel guilty and that it was actually the fault and full intent of an abuser than you understand yourself better.