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Male vs. Female - Weak vs. Strength

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anthony

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PTSD in men and women are so varied, because the symptoms are the same, the way in which we derive, live with and effectively cope with healing strategies are vastly different. Why? Because of genetics. Most of the male population believe they are the stronger genetically, when in fact, women are genetically stronger than males on the emotional and mental platforms. The only dominance males exert over females genetically, is physical strength through body build.

Now take note, above I did not plaster or label the entire of either genetics, just outlined the facts in regard to the common differences between the majority of both sexes, not the entirety of one sex or another.

The reason I pointed that out, is because this forum is another true indication of that, in that the majority of this forum are females. Why? Because females are genetically mentally and emotionally stronger than males, thus females actively look for help opposed to males who believe nothing is wrong.

Society is now beginning to see the more accurate characteristic traits of females vs. males, in that more and more females are now consuming the majority of high stress, high mental capacity employment roles within societies, because their genetic makeup actually provides them more suitability to cope with that stress than males. Why? Because females are more emotionally capable to view the problems, work through them, and most importantly, admit there is a problem, thus they are able to rectify, create a strategy for themselves, and continue. Males on the other hand, we accept the stress, we don't talk about it, we don't see emotional reason to it, and we just continue on until we break mentally. Again, weak vs. strength is a genetic makeup of the human characteristics.

So here lie a majority of the problem by having so many males running around the globe with untreated PTSD. Why? Because they fail to accept that they have an illness, especially mental illness, they fail to admit defeat in that they are genetically weaker than the female genetic string.

What is the result of a male succumbing to help with their illness? The outcome is a stronger male that must learn what females already know, in that emotional reasoning and feelings are the majority of our self help ability to continue within life, continue with little issue, trauma or conflict. If more males admitted to the characteristic male genetic string flaw, more veterans (who are predominantly male) could get past their illness, past their genetic pride, and adapt a better lifestyle towards themselves, their partners, children and family.

Why does this thread exist? Because these are my thoughts on some factual differences between males and females, these vary differences are what is making females lives worst, whether a sufferer or spouse of PTSD. And yes, I am a male, but can see beyond the pride of the male genetic string to see what is real, opposed to what is not. I say sufferer or spouse, because either way you look at it, if a female suffers PTSD, then the male partner often refuses to accept the illness, and accept that they must also educate themselves to help their spouse, or if the female is the spouse, the female is looking for education on how to help their spouse, but more often than not, the male sufferer does not believe a problem exists or that they need to educate themselves or help themselves / family coexist more harmoniously.

In conclusion to my thoughts... males need to begin looking to the way females discuss, reason and emotionally scope life problems, and take a piece from the female genetic string and adapt it within the male purpose.
 
How do I touch this one dear husband? I have been telling your for ages that your species is on its way to being extinct and females are naturally more highly evolved. There is so much that I could say about this post, that applies specifically to you but........... suffice it to say that you should take some of your own advice.
 
Watch out guys they are going to put us in the Zoo, but maybe that would'nt be so bad, throw us a banana and turn on the sports channel;)
 
OMG, this subject gets way too confusing for me.

I was socialized like a male!! (this was pointed out to me by my therapist)

So, although I can act like a female (and sometimes I do) I tend to react more like a male! I can discuss and reason same as all females but I'm in the same emotional zone as a male.

Ohhh, this gives me a headache!!:wall:

Bec
 
Don't worry Bec - I was brought up in an all-male environment too. There were no girls around for me to socialise with. I am very good at football and climbing trees and I don't hit lkike a girl either!

You could drive yourself mad thinking over Anthony's post. Just accept that you are great anyway cos you have the best of both sides!
 
Are yes... but I am not talking about how one is socialized during upbringing, I am going to the core of the problem... genetics. You are either male or female genetically, which is characteristic of our DNA. Either sex who has a sex change, will still return under their genetic string for DNA testing. The female genetic string though is more prone to emotional reasoning, regardless of social upbringing, yet the male genetic string contains the elements that the female string has, yet the male strings emotional capabilities are flawed and suppressed by other dominant genetic strings.

We say we tap into our brains to achieve different states of feeling, yet when I look at it, do we realistically tap into our genetic makeup to access aspects that are already present, just not used, or under used???
 
Ahh see, now this is just half the picture. Genetics, of course, play a part in our emotional make-up, yet only a part. The other half is our environment, experiences, up-bringing etc..

When I say I was socialized as a male, I am not talking about playing sports. I was raised that the only acceptable emotion is anger. Period. Anything else I would get punished for. Seeking physical comfort (as in hugs when sad) was not acceptable. I was to just "deal with it"; "stuff it"; or "get over it."

Is this genetics alone? No. It's our social environment also. Sociologists have long been fascinated over these various aspects (genetics vs. social etc...) and there are numerous studies on the subject. It's become apparent that it is a mixture of the two.

Trying to say this is soley genetics is a cop-out. It's half and half. We can learn when we acknowledge that our environment, culture, and up-bringing play a huge part in this.

That is how I learned how to cry. Mind you, I still won't cry unless it's under specific circumstances or have been just pushed too far.

See, it's not hopeless! If you like, I'd be happy to provide the names of sociologists that have studied this so that you can research this very interesting aspect of humanity.

Bec
 
Ah... now that you explained it, this does get even more interesting. What I see here though, is social behaviours now affect our brain, not our genetics, because once our genetic structure is formed (DNA) it can't be changed, however; our mind can perceive what it wants to perceive, thus we interpret and respond to incidents as our social behaviours have dictated throughout our lives. Our brain can be manipulated, and is manipulated all throughout our lives, but our genetic makeup remains the same.

So the underpinning item is still... accessing that genetic makeup through our manipulated brain?
 
Bec, being one brought up crying was unacceptable (still can't) and the "son my dad never had" since he had all girls, I was the toughest one so I got more of the male type of upbringing, we still confirmed what he is saying. We are picking things apart and starting to accept we have this condition. You do an excellent job picking it apart and finding rhyme and reason to help yourself cope. You are not suffering in silence, I only did when I did not know what was wrong with me and only at the beginning was I sticking my nose up to it saying I cannot have this. My husband is relieved to have a name to it and me being treated after he went to therapy with me a few times and the doc had to point out to hubby he can not "fix me" like a car, in the end I will have to fix myself, just to be supportive in my efforts. Hubby did not get this at first.

In striving to make everything "equal" it is often over looked we are not the same by any means... nor do I want to be, if I start growing hair on my ass someone just shoot me!
 
Watch out guys they are going to put us in the Zoo, but maybe that would'nt be so bad, throw us a banana and turn on the sports channel;)

Farmer,

Its not a case of throwing you in the zoo. Its more a case of wanting to find out whose responsible for letting your species out in the first place!! No banana, no beer and certainly no bloody sports channel......okay maybe sports channel but no remote!
 
Aw! Not even a Bannana

I guess you could blame God, Satan or Darwin for letting us out. There was a paper put out a week or so ago stating men are more prone to warfair( as if we needed a sci doc to tell us that). The sad thing is that it's not for altruistic things but for Narcisim and greed. There are people who try to keep those jerks in their cages but the lawers keep getting them out again. Maybe in the not to distant future with gene therapy they can weed out the violent and narcistic attitudes in some people.
Good idea about the remote, there would be war over who gets it.
 
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