Hello All,
Trying this in a different forum since I got no support in another.
I was seeing a guy long distance for 11 months. We traveled back and forth to see each other, texted everyday. He did tell me he had PTSD, but said it was managed now. Things were always calm and nice between us. No drama, no conflict. Really peaceful. He's a military vet.
We were supposed to see each other in a month (back in the fall), and he was very very excited about that. Then poof, he started ghosting me. I was dumbstruck.
He read and ignored 2 texts, over the course of 2 weeks. I knew he wanted out so I said a nice goodbye for closure. I was shocked and hurt to say the least. But there was nothing I could do. He simply would not answer. I thanked him for everything we had. I was very nice. PTSD did not occur to me at that time.
Fast forward 5 weeks later, he reached out with an apology for his behavior. Said he was sick with covid but it was no excuse and I deserved better than that. That he always wanted me and he was a jerk to me. He was sorry. I responded very nicely by telling him how I felt. That I was shocked, disappointed and I would have accepted his reasons to leave with kindness no matter what they were. He read it, no response. I figured even though I was really nice he could not handle how I felt.
Fast forward 1 month later. He wanted to talk on the phone. I replied by saying hello, how are you. He did not read it, no reply. I text again 4 days later saying yes I'll talk. He Read, reply two days later "I'm happy to hear from you, yes let's talk etc. etc. I replied to say when do you want to talk. He read it right away, no reply. I text again, you keep reaching out and and then ignoring me. I don't understand??? He read, no reply. I finally cut it off 3 days later. It was too mentally abusive. I needed to go.
The behavior was sooooo strange. This was not the person I knew. I then started to think maybe PTSD? It made no sense at all. Why keep contacting me, reading my responses and going silent.... repeatedly. WTH???
Any opinions?
Thanks
AG
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Trying this in a different forum since I got no support in another.
I was seeing a guy long distance for 11 months. We traveled back and forth to see each other, texted everyday. He did tell me he had PTSD, but said it was managed now. Things were always calm and nice between us. No drama, no conflict. Really peaceful. He's a military vet.
We were supposed to see each other in a month (back in the fall), and he was very very excited about that. Then poof, he started ghosting me. I was dumbstruck.
He read and ignored 2 texts, over the course of 2 weeks. I knew he wanted out so I said a nice goodbye for closure. I was shocked and hurt to say the least. But there was nothing I could do. He simply would not answer. I thanked him for everything we had. I was very nice. PTSD did not occur to me at that time.
Fast forward 5 weeks later, he reached out with an apology for his behavior. Said he was sick with covid but it was no excuse and I deserved better than that. That he always wanted me and he was a jerk to me. He was sorry. I responded very nicely by telling him how I felt. That I was shocked, disappointed and I would have accepted his reasons to leave with kindness no matter what they were. He read it, no response. I figured even though I was really nice he could not handle how I felt.
Fast forward 1 month later. He wanted to talk on the phone. I replied by saying hello, how are you. He did not read it, no reply. I text again 4 days later saying yes I'll talk. He Read, reply two days later "I'm happy to hear from you, yes let's talk etc. etc. I replied to say when do you want to talk. He read it right away, no reply. I text again, you keep reaching out and and then ignoring me. I don't understand??? He read, no reply. I finally cut it off 3 days later. It was too mentally abusive. I needed to go.
The behavior was sooooo strange. This was not the person I knew. I then started to think maybe PTSD? It made no sense at all. Why keep contacting me, reading my responses and going silent.... repeatedly. WTH???
Any opinions?
Thanks
AG
Quote Reply