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I met a guy online, it’s a long distance relationship.
We hit it off. I was unsure about him but the more I got to know him the more I liked him.
i noticed that when we talk on the phone he stutters, sometimes his breathless and when I asked him he said that he has some chronic back pain and he finds it hard to be seated all the time so has to be on the move. after I questioned him I noticed he started avoiding talk to me on the phone or FaceTime and would just text. When I asked him why does he seem reserved of late, he said that he is very busy with work. He minimised our contact. Again when I asked him he explained his super busy. I told him it’s not possible to be busy 24/7 and that if he cared about me he would put an effort or explain what’s going on.
So he told me he has anxiety, depression and ptsd. His in the military and feels overwhelmed with work. I didnt know what ptsd is at the time so I started telling him that I too have depression but I am healed and that it takes time to heal. He withdrew even more. I was so frustrated , always in tears and confused. One night I called him and he answered and I told him that I am just upset, why is he avoiding me, is he with someone else and all that jazz ... he basically kept on saying he doesn’t know or understand what his feeling and that he likes me too. ( at this stage I actually still didn’t know what Is ptsd )so I am so confused!....he said maybe we should call it off because I am hot and cold and he cant Handel that.
I didn’t understand how I am being hot and cold when it’s him who is avoiding me!
For a while he made our communication only via text, I was so upset but tried to be patient. I read about ptsd and realised that’s what’s causing him to avoid me, every time I ask him why are you ignoring me or pushing me away he says his not. He always tells me his working or doing work, takes forever to reply to my messages. I told him many time just tell me are we on or off but he never replies. I asked him about the ptsd and he never answer. One time he told me his sorting out his life and hopefully will be back to normal.
last week I expressed my frustration to him and he said to me that I am too passionate and he finds it hard. He knows I care about him but to call it off.
I am so hurt because I do care about him but he never gave us a chance or even communicated his feelings.
I miss him.
We hit it off. I was unsure about him but the more I got to know him the more I liked him.
i noticed that when we talk on the phone he stutters, sometimes his breathless and when I asked him he said that he has some chronic back pain and he finds it hard to be seated all the time so has to be on the move. after I questioned him I noticed he started avoiding talk to me on the phone or FaceTime and would just text. When I asked him why does he seem reserved of late, he said that he is very busy with work. He minimised our contact. Again when I asked him he explained his super busy. I told him it’s not possible to be busy 24/7 and that if he cared about me he would put an effort or explain what’s going on.
So he told me he has anxiety, depression and ptsd. His in the military and feels overwhelmed with work. I didnt know what ptsd is at the time so I started telling him that I too have depression but I am healed and that it takes time to heal. He withdrew even more. I was so frustrated , always in tears and confused. One night I called him and he answered and I told him that I am just upset, why is he avoiding me, is he with someone else and all that jazz ... he basically kept on saying he doesn’t know or understand what his feeling and that he likes me too. ( at this stage I actually still didn’t know what Is ptsd )so I am so confused!....he said maybe we should call it off because I am hot and cold and he cant Handel that.
I didn’t understand how I am being hot and cold when it’s him who is avoiding me!
For a while he made our communication only via text, I was so upset but tried to be patient. I read about ptsd and realised that’s what’s causing him to avoid me, every time I ask him why are you ignoring me or pushing me away he says his not. He always tells me his working or doing work, takes forever to reply to my messages. I told him many time just tell me are we on or off but he never replies. I asked him about the ptsd and he never answer. One time he told me his sorting out his life and hopefully will be back to normal.
last week I expressed my frustration to him and he said to me that I am too passionate and he finds it hard. He knows I care about him but to call it off.
I am so hurt because I do care about him but he never gave us a chance or even communicated his feelings.
I miss him.