Chris-duck
Policy Enforcement
Hey,
So for a brief summary cos specifics aren't actually important here, dad was abusive, mum was enabling and is full of shit. This is prompted by how I found out they were dropping in on my alexa and they were linked (as a household, I didn't approve that though, so um feel free tech folks to tell me if this is even possible without my yay, cos if not, I have other privacy concerns..) so they could access notifications and shit, and apparently I must have done that because they would never, and dad was like wtf at mum for it. And mum lied about how I wanted to read all their emails to "make it even", and like that never happened, I don't care about their emails. And this all happened in front of me. Then mum said I was giving her a hard time, and dad laughed at her n told her that tends to happen when parents invade their adult kids privacy. Cue my confusion.
I trust dad more, and apparently that's nuts, cos he's the dickhead and mum is just "trying to survive", but if dad says something, it's probably true, cos he tells me if I did something wrong, mum sits and spins lies about what I did and didn't say while I'm sitting there, and when questioned will be like "uhh well.. whatever, you're being a bitch", so there's situations where mum f*cks shit up and I'm mad at her, and dad is on my side and takes the piss out of her for trying to bullshit me. And I'm basically on his side, cos if he's pissed I know, if mum's pissed, she'll just spin lies to everyone.
I'm well aware that this post is f*cking dripping in trauma bullshit, and dodgy family dynamics, but my main question is basically am I a dickhead for taking his side sometimes? Or trusting him more than his abused wife? (Cos yeh, that's pretty shitty innit?) Do other people feel the same way about their families or whoever? Like I dunno. Tell me if I'm being a dick, tell me I'm not if I'm not.
Ugh.
So for a brief summary cos specifics aren't actually important here, dad was abusive, mum was enabling and is full of shit. This is prompted by how I found out they were dropping in on my alexa and they were linked (as a household, I didn't approve that though, so um feel free tech folks to tell me if this is even possible without my yay, cos if not, I have other privacy concerns..) so they could access notifications and shit, and apparently I must have done that because they would never, and dad was like wtf at mum for it. And mum lied about how I wanted to read all their emails to "make it even", and like that never happened, I don't care about their emails. And this all happened in front of me. Then mum said I was giving her a hard time, and dad laughed at her n told her that tends to happen when parents invade their adult kids privacy. Cue my confusion.
I trust dad more, and apparently that's nuts, cos he's the dickhead and mum is just "trying to survive", but if dad says something, it's probably true, cos he tells me if I did something wrong, mum sits and spins lies about what I did and didn't say while I'm sitting there, and when questioned will be like "uhh well.. whatever, you're being a bitch", so there's situations where mum f*cks shit up and I'm mad at her, and dad is on my side and takes the piss out of her for trying to bullshit me. And I'm basically on his side, cos if he's pissed I know, if mum's pissed, she'll just spin lies to everyone.
I'm well aware that this post is f*cking dripping in trauma bullshit, and dodgy family dynamics, but my main question is basically am I a dickhead for taking his side sometimes? Or trusting him more than his abused wife? (Cos yeh, that's pretty shitty innit?) Do other people feel the same way about their families or whoever? Like I dunno. Tell me if I'm being a dick, tell me I'm not if I'm not.
Ugh.