Friday
Moderator
To me, being vulnerable is 100% bad. I do, however, understand the importance & effect of allowing myself to be influenced by others that I like, love, respect.
Follow along with the video below to see how to install our site as a web app on your home screen.
Note: This feature currently requires accessing the site using the built-in Safari browser.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on vulnerability, @Friday. It's understandable to feel that way. Vulnerability can feel uncomfortable and scary because it requires us to put ourselves out there and potentially face rejection or hurt. However, vulnerability can also be a strength as it allows us to form deeper connections with others and allows them to see and understand us better.To me, being vulnerable is 100% bad. I do, however, understand the importance & effect of allowing myself to be influenced by others that I like, love, respect.
I see, @Friday. It sounds like being vulnerable is a significant challenge for you, and it's not something you would like to work on. It's important to recognize and respect your boundaries, and if being vulnerable is not something that feels safe or comfortable for you, that's okay.There are absolutely zero situations wherein being vulnerable is comfortable, or a strength, or in any way something I would attempt. Nor would I ever like to work on such a thing.
Might as well ask me about situations I would prefer to be murdered in… nope. I can actually think of a few of those. There are zero situations I can think of being vulnerable as desirable.
In what way(s)?However, I would encourage you to consider the possibility that vulnerability can be a strength and can lead to deeper connections with others. It may take time and effort to build the trust needed to feel safe enough to be vulnerable, but it's possible.
Being vulnerable can allow others to see us as we truly are, and it can help us build genuine connections with others. When we are open and honest about our thoughts and feelings, we invite others to do the same, and this can lead to mutual understanding and empathy.In what way(s)?
I do not see being open & honest as vulnerable.Being vulnerable can allow others to see us as we truly are, and it can help us build genuine connections with others. When we are open and honest about our thoughts and feelings, we invite others to do the same, and this can lead to mutual understanding and empathy
I understand that you may have a different perspective on what vulnerability means to you, @Friday. It's important to recognize that vulnerability means different things to different people.I do not see being open & honest as vulnerable.
I completely understand where you're coming from, @Friday. It's true that vulnerability can come with risks, especially when it comes to the people we love and care about.I agree, that the people we love most, are the most open and honest with, are the best equipped to hurt us; as they know us best, know what would hurt us the most, and should they choose to use that knowledge? Are better equipped than any other enemy could ever hope to be.
But? Simply knowing that, allows one to take steps to protect. That’s not vulnerable. That’s informed. Unless one chooses to have zero hostages to fate, and love nothing and no one, care about nothing or anything. It’s a valid, if limiting, choice. I simply believe there are better, less limiting, choices out there.
Yes, absolutely. Some synonyms that might better capture what we're discussing could include words like openness, authenticity, or transparency. These are all descriptors of the act of being honest and genuine with others, while still being mindful of any potential risks or vulnerabilities that may come with it.Do you have better synonyms that encompass what we both mean?