Messaged My First Boyfriend From High School ~ 25 Years Ago

[Bookoffee]

Yesterday I was ill and couldn't leave the house. I decided to go through memory lane on FaceBook and started to read my old private messages from friends and family. I reconnected with a cousin I was close with when we were younger and going through rough times.

I have been putting all my records and photos in order. I came across a picture of the first night I met my first love. We were so connected to each other for over a year. We were the cutest couple on campus because we both were about 5' and always being loving towards each other. We worked.

I did a search for him today. He has a common name and his profile didn't have any pictures of him but I knew by the artwork it was him. I sent him a message asking if he went to my high school. He replied asking me my full name. I was shocked that he remember.

We have spent the entire day talking back and forth. It feel like there has never been 25 years between us. We clicked right away. We spent our adult life working in the same field and has struggled with anxiety and OCD.

He understood that we are still open with each other. It has been a nice day reconnecting with him. I am glad I reached out. He is in need of a friend, like I do.

 

[KwanYingirl]

That's a sweet story. Facebook has reconnected me to childhood friends too.

 

[Bookoffee]

This has turned into a nightmare. He made a post on Facebook about needing a tablet for his son. I had one that I haven't used in a year so I told him I had no use for it.

We talk about making plans to meet at the Verizon store because there was something wrong with the plug.

We get to talking about memories. Before we sign off the night, he explains that back in the 90's he had a breakdown, became drunk and almost killed his girlfriend at that time. The next morning he had a meeting with the state DHHS office.

He was working and was alone with a client and he fell and died shortly after. Not sure if it is.hours or days. He tells.me the family wants an investigation.

I told him I would.meet him an hour before his meeting to support him. When I got out of my car, I thought the guy next to me was him for a minute and I start talking to him. Then it started to hit me this wasn't him. Then I got a feeling that he an authority figure, cop or dective. I tell him why I was there. He stays for a bit then leaves.

Then the ex showed up. He hugged me right away and I am ashamed to admit but it felt nice. I returned the hug and felt that safe feeling I had with him when we were 14.
Then he kisses me. I was surprised but continue d on with the meeting.

As we are talking he is telling about how staff members are talking about him and had told DHHS some abusive behavior he has towards other people and he hates women.

I ended up giving him a tablet that I didn't bother to clean first because the cord didn't work.

We leave and we hug. I try to break free and he won't go and kisses me again. I finally pushed him off me. I was warry about him at this point so I start rambling about my animals.as.I walk to my car and get in.

I told.him last night after he wouldn't stop texting me that I need the rest of the night to myself. I need time to absorb everying

He texts me right away this morning and was getting upset that I wasn't texting him back. He was going on about how much hurt I had caused him and everything was BS.

There was many and he ended it with saying he was out of my life and said Goodbye.

I did tell him that I was struggling mentally. I made it very clear that I am a.lesbian, married going through a divorce, and I can't go back in the hospital.

He posted a picture about people coming into the their life and won't stay loyal. Something like that.

I am numb and scared. I see my therapist tomorrow. I did send him an email and talk to him.

 

[EveHarrington]

Wow!

After the first post I thought good for her for connecting with an old friend!

After your reply, I thought well unfortunately that's how a lot of reunions go----people never are what they were and usually too much has changed to turn anything into a viable relationship.

I hope you blocked his number

 

[Bookoffee]

I never gave him my phone number. We exchanged messages through Facebook messager.

I am just wondering if I should contact the local police department about the meeting and he has my tablet now and I didn't clear it. I know there isn't anything they can do about that as I did it as free will at that time. But for if he finds anything on the tablet that had any of my or my wife's information against us.

I am not sure what to do.

 

[EveHarrington]

Could you ask him for the tablet back?

 

[Bookoffee]

He was extremely upset with me. I am not sure how he would react

 

[mary1979]

Yeah I think at least call the police and report the situation.

That way if he does happen to find your location and show up, the police will react quickly.

The things we do hey?


I reconnected with my first bf on fb too, about 5 years ago. Was excited to catch up with him so when he asked to come stay I didn't hesitate. After all id known him since we were kids right?

Haha, fail.
He was a drug addict who wanted to use me as a free rehab centre.
Stayed a month, spent all his.money on drugs and mooched off me before disappearing again.

Not dangerous like your situation but could easily have been.
A real face palm moment.

 

[joeylittle]

I am not sure how he would react

I think you're best off white-knuckling it, if you can. Getting the tablet back would be opening yourself up to more of the crazy. Realistically, is there anything on there that he could use against you? Personal info, social-security, passwords, stuff like that? Change everything you can, and monitor all your online accounts.

Someone more tech-savvy than I might know how you can sort-of wipe it remotely.

Your other option is to contact him, say you want it back, and see what he says. But I think you're opening yourself up to some cruelty, from him. I guess you are deciding between how much you are able to tolerate some of that vs. tolerating waiting to see if anything happens with your information on-line.

I'm sorry - it sounds like a real nightmare.

 

[Bookoffee]

I am not sure what was on the tablet. I used it for games mostly and maybe emails, face and here. I can't think of anything that would be on it unless my wife used it. I hated it. I put it aside because of that reason. It was difficult to play games on and to type and search would give me a headache and frustration.