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My therapist is trained in CBT and she’s pushing CBT on me and it’s just not helpful. She keeps telling me to change my behavior to...

CBT did not work for me either. My previous T tried to fit me into her CBT box and it was awful for me. My T does ACT and it makes so...

Screwdrivers make lousy hammers.

CBT didn’t work for me with obsessive thoughts either. My T, who helped me graduate from therapy, used a psychodynamic approach, which...

i'm functionally clueless about CBT, but i swear by ACT. i picked up my own ACT techniques through workshops more than individual...

Inspiring words, and that is the crux of beginning to shed abuse and the cycle of violence. This stuff is hard. It will take a long...

Maybe you could reach out to Craig? He could give you resources or maybe even see you again, as nowadays with tele therapy people can...

It depends. If the coworker went 10 years without breaking my fingers and expressed genuine remorse and desire for restoration and a...

This once sentence gave hope. True hope. This ends today. I will change. My mom and I deserve better. I know that I love her. It's time...

Have you had therapy? we are (as I am learning!) in control of ourselves. I think the trick is have awareness , which you have. And...

Here's what I read, "Shut up. Nobody wants to hear your pity party and you're lying." That's not AT ALL what was said. I was presented...

I have undone moderator actions. You have very little scope in which I won't put that back. Regardless how people respond, it is about...

Nobody can change you, except you. Anger seems to be prolific within your post. Start there: The Iceberg Of Emotions It doesn't happen...

Another way to think of it? To be proud of yourself for giving him the chance to prove to you that he’s trustworthy, and warmly...

you are quite far from alone on this, beaneeboo. it is, in fact, the heart and soul of the family dysfunction cycle. yes and no. in my...

Thanks arfie and mb1997... I'm actually amazed that other people know what I'm talking about and experience this.... I've never talked...

I also play out my past abuse in my relationship in similar ways. We have been married 2 times now, total 8 years together. It’s very...

i'm coming up on my 43rd anniversary and STILL acting out this dynamic. personally, i hold that dynamic as being as natural as...

This is embarrassing. i've been having a relationship with someone where I've been paranoid about their intentions for most of the...

I have this issue, before 3-5 am I cannot sleep, and it changes, some days not sleeping at all. I've been this way since before I can...

methinks i empathize through the differences. i sleep like a dog, napping when there is nothing going on and active for whatever action...

When I’m doing badly 4am is my witching hour… I’m always awake for it. Either staying up for it, and then bliss, can finally sleep. Or...

I have to walk away. So that I can breathe again. At the very least leaving the room, but most of the time I have to take myself...

I hate the mere idea of someone yelling at me. We are probably evolutionarily wired to feel some degree of fear or anxiety when someone...

total empathy, cerridwen, all the way to feeling it more intensely now that it is no longer a daily event in my life. the increased...

Right, when someone yells at another the response is an upset. With us though it is a full body upset that doesn’t easily settle and...

I have this immediate and intense reaction to when someone yells at me. For the most part I don’t tolerate people who behave like that...

this morning i am using mindfulness. i didn't sleep well last night, overslept this morning and am definitely a few fries short of a...

Grounding exercises. This was very important early in my treatment. Taking walks & being outdoors. This is the biggest one of all...

Hi! While reading another thread I was thinking about coping skills and how it would be good to have a discussion about what...

I apologise if I come across as someone who shouldn't be on here. I'm new. I experience periods of my legs feeling like the are full of...

Absolutely. Sexual abuse is violent. I suppose it depends on what you see as violent. But it is a trauma on the body, in the body...

@ beeneeboo...When my aniexty gets really high. I get that feeling like l'm in a dream or not in my body. This happens to me sometimes...

hello beeneeboo. welcome to the forum. in my personal herstory, dissociation can happen without apparent cause and/or physical causes...

That’s odd to me. I think of evil as inherent. Something you’re born being. I know it’s odd that someone can be born that way which is...

Yep -- I have the fibro/ptsd combo too and yep - emdr can trigger it in a big way. T's reasoning is that the fibro is caused by the...

Hi All, So recently I started dating someone who is very kind, warm, and healthier than my previous partner. Basically, we met online...

gentle empathy, sleeveheart. in my personal psychoweirds, i call this my fear of rejection and blame it on my social anxiety. such...

So, I overcame the rejection and asked for a phone call. He's basically grieving the recent passing of a family member. It wasn't about...

way to do the do, my healing warrior. may the achievement get you over many bumps in the road.

I'm so glad you are venturing into this new territory! Your soul is piercing the veil. Sounds like a wonderful person.

1. I have asked for a recommendation for someone else a few weeks back and I got no response sadly 2. Yes, I currently go twice a week...

As painful and as daunting that feels, it’s a healthy decision to take for yourself. I’m sorry you have been put in this position. She...

A little secret is that the theoretical philosophy of the therapist doesn't usually really matter at all as long as they have experience...

Thank you all I will follow this advice and look for someone who can be a support to me. I don’t have friend or family support so the...

Any therapy is only as good as the therapist using it. Ditto @whiteraven … That’s a bizarre statement for a therapist to use...

I'm not sure how humanistic, person-centered psychotherapy differs from other types, but if she had said this to me... I would not go...

I would dump her ass. I want someone who I know is always on my side, not an antagonist. The fact that she is allowing dual roles means...

Yeah, I have been in the same position. Do you have other (non-professional) support--family? friends? Ok, so this is where you really...

There's alternatives. For example: (1) asking for referrals to a structured therapy program, like a CBT or DBT. They definitely have...