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arfie
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reacted to
Maximus's post
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Avoidance due to hyper vigilance / success!
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I love the name healing warrior! It has been a huge battle and this a great step for me who usually succumbs to anxiety and then...
Yesterday at 6:25 PM
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Avoidance due to hyper vigilance / success!
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i'm throwing you a ticker tape parade, maximus. i hope you are giving yourself a treat for positive affirmation. i find that taking the...
Yesterday at 3:03 PM
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Therapist is Using CBT for Obsessive Thoughts & it’s not Helpful
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i'm functionally clueless about CBT, but i swear by ACT. i picked up my own ACT techniques through workshops more than individual...
Yesterday at 7:05 AM
arfie
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Sufferer
Looking for help with symptoms
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hello hawkeye. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i only wish i had a one-size-fits-all...
Saturday at 12:23 PM
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Am I to blame for my relationship ending?
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knowing who to blame, judge and punish has yet to heal a wound. there is a logic i solidly agree with for keeping courts and hospitals...
Saturday at 10:14 AM
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Something therapist said makes me think that she isn't believing what I wrote
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I sent my therapist an email after the thing she said yesterday about how it was unusual for a woman to have gone through so much...
Saturday at 7:05 AM
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Something therapist said makes me think that she isn't believing what I wrote
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i'm all too often wrong when i guess at what other people are thinking. my mind reading skills genuinely suck. when i invite other folks...
Friday at 9:03 PM
arfie
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Life after hospitalization
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gentle empathy, asylum. perhaps the number one problem i've had in my own recovery is keeping the slow pace. i've invested a WHOLE MONTH...
Friday at 6:12 PM
arfie
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PTSD, or normal emotional reaction
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i'll second @DharmaGirl 's sense that there is a huge diff between a panic attack and being emotional. i can't function during a panic...
Friday at 12:24 PM
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Episodes of Sobbing, Anger, SI, and Dark Thoughts
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Yeah, I need someting like this. Plain old exercise doesn't help--I need to destroy something when I feel like this.
Thursday at 4:59 PM
arfie
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Hi. I'm sorry just coming back
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no apology needed for the hiatus, amg. move at whatever speed or intensity fits your comfort zone. i swear by all of those techniques...
Thursday at 12:19 PM
arfie
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Episodes of Sobbing, Anger, SI, and Dark Thoughts
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emotional channeling is my front line tool for managing such episodes. if i'm depressed, i might channel the sadness into singing sad...
Thursday at 12:13 PM
arfie
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Dealing with shame after suicide ideation
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hello ptsdandme. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. for my own psycho nickel, i start this...
Wednesday at 10:34 AM
arfie
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Sufferer
Incest Survivor Suffering in Silence because of Arousal
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hello timeless. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. congratulations on finding the courage to...
Jan 30, 2023
arfie
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cptsd trauma responses
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it's normal for me. i can no more predict my ptsd symptoms than i can predict next year's weather.
Jan 30, 2023
arfie
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Getting it out I guess.
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it be a fine and fuzzy line between denial and putting your focus where it matters most. raising 3 good kids sounds like a mighty fine...
Jan 30, 2023
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abovedown's post
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Feeling a bit disconnected from my emotions after meditating and listening to dhamma talks
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@arfiI think you are on to something as I felt better after attending my church group after a while
Jan 30, 2023
arfie
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Do you dissociate with specific people even in non threatening situations?
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this was true for me early on. awareness i of the phenom made for some huge differences. i still have people i involuntarily dissociate...
Jan 29, 2023
arfie
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Feeling a bit disconnected from my emotions after meditating and listening to dhamma talks
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i feel a sense of disconnect when i achieve detachment. detaching from the problems which over-stimulate my emotions is a primary goal...
Jan 29, 2023
arfie
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re-contacting my abuser
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when i estranged from my birth family, i would never have dreamed of asking for help with anything, not even for help with enjoying the...
Jan 29, 2023
arfie
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Relationship
How do you forgive your partner cheated on you?
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if you don't want to imagine your life with her by your side, the forgiveness still points to an exit sign. the forgiveness accomplishes...
Jan 28, 2023
arfie
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Do you dissociate with specific people even in non threatening situations?
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i'm not too certain within my pre-therapy dissociation, but these days i often do so by design to help me through a dreary event. for...
Jan 28, 2023
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Reenacting abusive dynamic with someone i love
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Sounds like you're very mindful of this process and aware (at least when you're out of it) what's going on... I'm fascinated hearing...
Jan 28, 2023
arfie
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Ideas For Making New Friends
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total empathy, eve. just before the global shutdown, i started my second parenting career in an area where i had never lived before...
Jan 28, 2023
arfie
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Had a bad day today - Does anyone else have a hard time controlling their anger?
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i do and it all to often explodes with a sudden ferocity that i can no more stop than i can put a plug in a volcano. turning my anger...
Jan 28, 2023
arfie
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Sufferer
New Here. Scared of what's next, have no control.
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hello coldplain. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i am also a vet, but of the generation...
Jan 27, 2023
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Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t have said anything?
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i have had isolated incidents of regret for having said anything, but i solidly believe i am only as sick as my secrets. holding those...
Jan 27, 2023
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Memory lapse
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I think in my heart from the info I am getting on line it is best to let it go. I am sure it is easy to manipulate yourself or have...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Nightmares you don’t remember & waking up feeling off, stiff, sore.
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that makes perfect sense to me. for a decade or three i kept a dream journal in an effort to remedy my epic, sleep deprivation levels of...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Reenacting abusive dynamic with someone i love
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you are quite far from alone on this, beaneeboo. it is, in fact, the heart and soul of the family dysfunction cycle. yes and no. in my...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Memory lapse
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my very first psych dx was "trauma induced amnesia." i had blocked the memory of my entire childhood, up to approximately 19 years old...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Reenacting abusive dynamic with someone i love
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i'm coming up on my 43rd anniversary and STILL acting out this dynamic. personally, i hold that dynamic as being as natural as...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Nehi's post
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Sufferer
Long time suffer, first time poster
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Nah, not tacky in the least. Peach nehi is delicious, this terrorist furball, not so much. You mihjy recall Turner and Hooch movie...
Jan 27, 2023
arfie
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Positive Coping Skills Thread
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this morning i am using mindfulness. i didn't sleep well last night, overslept this morning and am definitely a few fries short of a...
Jan 26, 2023
arfie
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Response to yelling
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total empathy, cerridwen, all the way to feeling it more intensely now that it is no longer a daily event in my life. the increased...
Jan 26, 2023
arfie
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Do you view your abuser(s) as evil or sick?
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Nietzsche was a complex thinker and my own studies of his works happened way back in the days when people were smarter than phones...
Jan 26, 2023
arfie
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Can dissociation happen when boundaries are crossed but fear doesn't seem to be involved?
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hello beeneeboo. welcome to the forum. in my personal herstory, dissociation can happen without apparent cause and/or physical causes...
Jan 25, 2023
arfie
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Do you view your abuser(s) as evil or sick?
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not quite. Nietzsche makes it sound like all sick people are destined to commit evil deeds and repeat his/herstory. i am sick but i use...
Jan 25, 2023
arfie
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A long standing habit I can't seem to shake - Cannot sleep before 3am-5am
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methinks i empathize through the differences. i sleep like a dog, napping when there is nothing going on and active for whatever action...
Jan 25, 2023
arfie
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Do you view your abuser(s) as evil or sick?
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i respectfully disagree with Nietzsche on his disbelief in free will as adamantly as i disagree with his disbelief in god. both are...
Jan 25, 2023
arfie
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Sufferer
Long time suffer, first time poster
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hello nehi. is it tacky of me to say your name has given me a craving for a soft drink? well. . . at best, it's off topic. welcome to...
Jan 24, 2023
arfie
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Managing Medical Stressors and Potential Triggers
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I started going to a clinic (as opposed to a private physician) in 2020, and I do a little better there. They feel less judgmental and...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Icy27's post
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Sufferer
31 and new to my CPTSD diagnosis, from developmental and adult trauma.
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I never thought of it like that before and it's true it does take a village to heal
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Managing Medical Stressors and Potential Triggers
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gentle empathy, raven. i don't have anywhere near your background, nor do i stress over it every day, but i share your ...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Constant flashbacks
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my own flashbacks daisy chain. one memory leads to another and it can, indeed, be a hard chain to break. my own spins on the...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Sufferer
31 and new to my CPTSD diagnosis, from developmental and adult trauma.
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for what it's worth in my strictly personal herstory, i have found it better to resist comparing support groups. groups have even more...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Absence & Desire - CDCB - Difficulty Wanting Things
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your terminology is new to me, but, assuming the terms don't cover bigger meanings i am unaware of, methinks the principles resonate...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Changing For The Better, But I Feel So Uncomfortable
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posilutely i go through this, often enough that it has become a familiar routine. however dysfunctional the coping mechanism i am giving...
Jan 23, 2023
arfie
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Sufferer
31 and new to my CPTSD diagnosis, from developmental and adult trauma.
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hello icy. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i'm 68 and long normalized in my smorgasbord of...
Jan 22, 2023
arfie
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Intrusive sexual thoughts
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hypersexuality is obsessive sex. i am a child prostitution survivor. to waaaaaaay over-simplify, i was basically acting out...
Jan 22, 2023
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