arfie

I love your comment. Thank you for telling me about your daughter. Recently I joined a kungfu club, although I have to say that I have...

hello fringe dweller. you might get more out of the forum if you popped in more often. just saying. . . so far, i haven't managed to...

hmmmm. . . i've been chewing this seemingly simple question for an hour or three now and ? ? ? thank you for the high fiber chew. it...

i was, as well. early into my own recovery, i was resistant to just about everything. resistance was most of what i had known in my...

thanks. I practice gratitude and doesn't seem to help me. Maybe I am resistant to that treatment!

yes, i can relate intimately. i never did find a microwave solution, but gratitude/appreciation exercises were my breakthrough in...

my personal approach to this conundrum is to work on the piece over which i have actual control: the hatred which i give in response to...

hello hentree. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. getting that trapped feel into words is...

in my own recovery, the feeling that my life is FUBAR has been connected to continued efforts to hold on to outdated ideals from the...

hello althea. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. empathy on the survivor's grief. my own...

hello decidul. welcome to the forum. good for you on ripping that proverbial bandage off. a cliche i've picked up over the course of my...

Hey Arfie, good advice, maybe just accept its presence without really knowing. I am someone who likes clarity, as fear is my main...

these kinds of memories have been and remain a common occurrence in my own recovery from trauma induced amnesia. i self-gaslight like a...

Arfie, it might sound simplistic, but there is light when you come through. Keep working the healing. When I finally knew how to...

hello s800. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. in my own long and winding recovery, this...

hello shortsocks. welcome to the forum. your username has me feeling sock clumps inside my shoes. short socks always slide into my shoes...

did is not on what i call, "my psycho smorgasbord" where a mind boggling selection of psych dx'es have been served, but that dizzying...

hello whill. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i am the ptsd victim with violent tendencies...

in my own mental health management, i call a post like this, "a venting session." all those gnarly charlies are eating at my guts and...

Praying for you as you sort it out. I have recently experienced just what alfie mentioned. One door was closing, and it was really...

I appreciate all of these responses here for you Ecdysis. I think this is all very good input. I am very familiar with suicidal ideation...

my stuffed "mommy" is a gigantic pink unicorn i bought at walmart. her name is cindy and she makes me feel swaddled. it works for me.

Understood, just gave you a 😍 ! Hi arfie, no disagreement from me regarding your word parsing but I have to agree with strong intention...

ouchy, yeowchy, double grouchy. that doth suck. still. . . my own christian studies have me wondering if i have heard bible verse about...

in my own case, i think it helps to detach to clinical ho-hum in dealing with my own suicidal ideation. i almost phrased that in the...

hello lemo. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. yup, many of us are stuck in that god awful...

@Punky143 apology to you for the co-opting of your thread, but somehow it seems pertinent and on topic. somewhere in the 80's or 90's...

welcome to the forum, hereeran. care to go into more detail?

my hyper-active metabolism makes sensory overload an ongoing possibility. i am relieved to report i have hearing issues which keep sound...

journaling is my own number one way of processing my own trauma, but not so much the sort of writing which gains me fortune and fame...

hello madamadness. welcome to the forum. personally, i like mangy mutts and treat them well. listening, if you care to howl a bit...

I didn't see a limit but have seen very long posts. Maybe split into two comments on the same thread if it doesn't post? Also some...

It's not the whole story but even the condemsed version is long. Thank you for this info tho 😉

valuable it is. a gift from above it ain't. in the early years of recovery, the stick up my ass had a stick up its ass. learning how to...

humankind has been asking that odd question since ? ? ? for sure longer than my ancient bones have been on this planet. i hold it as a...

arfity arf arf, arfin arf. psychology is an infant science, and still inventing itself. rapid cycling name changes to be expected. was...

i haven't cared to do the research, but i believe that sometimes my garden volunteers of many species come from my compost, but more...

hello wildtomato. welcome to the forum. pardon me while i jump immediately off topic to say your user name touched a soft spot in my...

i ran into this problem with, "meditation" and "prayer." in my case, the problem was context and presentation. the basics of both tools...

hello notokay. welcome to the forum. has someone over-explained mindfulness to you? kinda like a newly converted evangelist? i find...

Thank you. 🙏

i view it as a question of degree. like the diff between anger and rage.

in my psychotherapy, this is called, "dissociation." i get vicious levels of it and manage the symptoms with grounding techniques and...

I just feel like I've been on this journey forever and I've just dug myself deeper into a hole. And every time it feels like it can't be...

hello stumike. welcome to the forum. ya got this 70 year hetero female beat on the years of happy marriage. not all of my 45 years have...

hatred is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. ~anonymous i know, i care and i am with you, but i would...

Thank you. Same, people just seem to think I can handle anything. But I don't usually ask much from anyone and I am the one that's...

may i counter propose a bit of word parsing? changing, ". . . really the only way. . ." to, ". . .a solid way. . ." would get me...

ouch, plus, labp. rocking you gently and crying with you. you are doing quite well on how to use this forum. keep going. listening.

don't ask me to run the pharmaceutical comparatives, but i have found tons of natural remedies. my favorite way to scout for them is...