arfie

for the most part, i found little or no benefit in telling any of my therapists or even peer supporters the details of my nightmares...

1) gentle? they don't know the elder sibling i call, "pimp sis." gentle is not in her repertoire, not even when she's hiding behind the...

i was speaking for my own strictly personal experience, ma'am. i was reluctant to share it here for this very reason. sorry i shared...

gentle empathy, leia. it's a toughie to talk about. i am decades into my psychotherapy and still lack words for this very phenom, even...

I remember that the approach/modality of therapy at the Tavistock didn't work for you. So is a way of re-framing it seeing it as you...

politics and psychotherapy make a dangerous cocktail. i can't quite tell if you are a political activist or a survivor, either. it is...

Good call Arfie, I love Studio Ghilbli etc for just relaxing to.

i've been caught up in animated movies lately. many are gentle enough for children with adult themes woven into the plot lines. some of...

Thank you Arfie and Corax. I fell asleep for a few hours. I took the day off work. I’m taking what you say to heart. I don’t want to...

there is a lot of solid information the current powers that be could choose to apply, as well. censorship is not a sustainable solution.

just sit with them. be gentle with yourself and patient with the process while get to know those repressed emotions and the new...

just about all my psych symptoms can sling me to alternate realities. even when i catch it early enough to prevent collateral damage in...

hello you. welcome to the forum. i, too, am unclear on what you are saying, but i wanted to welcome you aboard and encourage you to keep...

i'm too apathetic to consciously commit acts of violence when i dissociate, but i neglect self-care to lethal degrees. starvation would...

Thank you, thank you!! I do realize these intense emotions and isolating behaviors are part of the reason I couldn't get and stay clean...

in my own therapy sessions, i don't group my memories as much as i follow the threads upon which they appear. shaming is a good example...

I'm sorry you've had this pain in your life. I agree with what @arfie said. Another way to look at it is knowing that what you are...

Wow Chelle! You are strong! Respect for the sobriety/ clean state you achieved! Re CPTSD get yourself a trauma informed therapist to...

i started work on recovering my repressed memories in the 80's and i trust them as the most accurate info available, but not as gospel...

hello chelle. welcome to the forum. congratulations on your sobriety. kudos on your wisdom in looking for ways to heal the injuries...

profound apology, barefoot. no misdirect intended. i join you in wishing for a delete option on this site. just wishing. . . gentle...

gentle empathy on that score. i started psychotherapy with full trauma induced amnesia. it took me more than a decade to figure out why...

At the moment im not in therapy. Too scared to relive it and talk about it out loud xx

i don't understand the process by which the abused become abusers, but the cycle is hard to deny. however innocent i was as a child, i...

I definitely am at the beginning stages here, but I gotta start somewhere!! I am beginning to realize the same thing. My brain blocked...

over the course of my psychotherapy, my own memory has improved across the board as a result of allowing myself to remember and process...

as it was explained to me, you don't get to repress part of your memory function without messing with those memory functions across the...

i used to live near a state school for the deaf. oh, how i miss that sense of empathetic community. . . out here in callous...

@arfie I get not wanting to advertise your disability on a mask. It's the same reason I would never get a service dog patch that said...

I flip this around - it's going to be very personal I think. I'm lucky enough that my disability is invisible. But I now have the...

i also find that closing my eyes helps me focus my hearing more solidly. there are no visual cues in masked dialog, anyway, so my vision...

I’m currently organizing an ASL class at my work (my employer is hiring the teachers, totally badass employer). Basically any series of...

Yes, there is! Certainly here in Australia (Google 'Deaf Face Masks' for local suppliers) there are masks in circulation that have a...

i am hearing impaired and rely heavily on lip reading to communicate. is there a polite and politically correct way to let people know...

my initial brain fart is that the voice is your "inner critic." just brain farting. . . in my own case, i often think my brain is just...

Ain't that the flamin truth!!! 💯

hello matts. welcome to the forum. old habits die hard, especially the old habits that we pick up without knowing it. one quality i...

the further i get down my recovery road, the more i believe i could not have survived my childhood without the insulation of denial...

What @arfie said. Also.... "voiding", I've learned, is a common process for moving through PTSD (et al). I started puking before work...

i've never heard of compliment-based therapy, but i was highly resistant to "positive affirmations" and being gentle with myself during...

EMDR was not an established therapy when i went through this phase of my recovery, but an increase in dissociative episodes and most of...

it's normal for me. i've been told by people who know me well that there are not many outward signs that it is happening. that makes it...

i'll laugh with you, if you like, but i believe denial is an honest part of the recovery process. i don't believe i could have survived...

leaving others to interpret their own conversations with god, i find myself wondering what's inside the trigger phrase, "i will help...

what works for other people --or even what worked/didn't work for me in my last go-round-- only confuses me further when i am in the...

hello sped. welcome to myptsd. sorry for what brings you here but glad you are here. it's not the horse's fault when it throws a rider...

Welcome! Lots of great support and advice on this forum. It's certainly helped me.

it's normal for me. my body remembers the trauma far more clearly than my visual centers remember the perpetrators, especially when the...

gentle empathy, yule. to me, finding a comfortable therapy relationship feels like an iffier roller coaster ride than the hunt for the...

i haven't considered it in this context before, but i believe i have come out the other side of this phenom. for me those abhorrent acts...