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dunno about the global truth, but it runs 100% among the known perps from my child prostitute days in the 60's and 70's. no, i cannot...

ditto here. all or nothing for me. don't mess with mister in between. perfectionist maximus. . . alas, that particular perfectionism...

i experienced hyper-sexuality as a result of my sexual abuse. this included anal. lousiest form of birth control ever, but here we are...

talking about my trauma and the related responses is a guaranteed psych trigger in my own case. the critical diff between the random...

i believe avoidance is a valid therapy tool, but balance in all things. with my own psycho snot knots, i look for the line between...

no feeling of a hole in my head, but i often get intensely irritating tingles on the base of my skull. my more maddening sense is of...

there is nothing in life either good nor bad. 'tis the thinking which makes it so. ~william shakespeare do not seek the truth. only...

that is normal for me, though nowhere near as much so as before psychotherapy. these days i merely get irritated with other people's...

i used those triggers as mindfulness practice, up to and including the prideful dings of wanting to hide my weakness when i need a...

@arfie thank you for the reminder. This is much what my T tells me to do. I'm not great at it. I'm sorry you are also going through it...

gentle empathy, jaccat. i just passed the 4th anniversary of my youngest son and father of 3 at 35 years old. his wife died in the same...

i was mute until early adolescence, cause uncertain. when i consider the possibility that the cause was psychosomatic, the retort which...

solid empathy on how hard it can be to listen. in my case, i add hearing issues to the intrusive thoughts, etc. however, i solidly...

i just passed my 43rd anniversary and ptsd is STILL messing with my marriage and just about everything else. i take it play by play and...

I might try this but I’m not sure how affective it will be given I can’t tell you how I’m feeling at the moment. Too many things going...

Thank you, I never thought about it that way (I tend to avoid all triggers so did no research), your message was very helpful 🙏🙏🙏

hello caroline. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. theories abound on why abuse survivors...

i see a huge diff between keeping a secret and allowing myself some privacy. i am fully okay with people knowing that i suffer ptsd from...

in a gentle reframing of @Friday 's assumption that everyone we meet has done something terrible, i assume that everyone i meet is human...

i started therapy about 20 years before the ptsd theories gained the respectability to displace the long traditional "shell shock"...

when a therapist asked me that first question, i found myself building what would eventually morph into the therapy "safe places" where...

another name for those freakouts is, "psychosis." a golden rule from my own support circles is, "never engage a psychosis." engaging a...

i love the term, "trauma bonding." it fits. in my personal herstory, i believe my attraction to people who are "complicated" fit into...

Thanks, that was great advice (that I would have probably resisted allowing myself... working on it). Somehow I missed your comment, I...

that is not so surprising to this survivor of child sex trafficking, aka one of THOSE girls. the vast majority of sexual deviants are...

the suffix, "-philia" speaks of love and attraction. before the sexual hysteria of our current culture, an elementary school teacher...

geez. . . were you seriously wondering why you're not running at peak performance? that's enough to throw buddha out of balance. cut...

in my u.s. support circle, this phenom has grown a new word. hangry. the anger born of hunger. i often forget to eat when i am stressed...

Thank you. I'm sorry for what you've gone thru. Today is a rough day....I'm the punching bag today, so I'll keep this short. Thanks for...

these days, elementary school flirtations are considered sexual abuse. why not this, too? shall we post your mama on a sexual predator...

inside my own psychopations, i call this, "vain." i am increasingly convinced that with the feeling the whole world is conspiring...

that's more than a feeling, jules. we are standing by with life preservers. keep us posted.

when my husband's gall bladder exploded, ushering in a 2 month death watch and a year of recovery, i wondered often if he had the easier...

chicken teasing. . . when the feed tubes in my 3 chicken coops run dry, the chickens will perform wild antics as they follow me around...

yeah, the toxic people fad has been brutal. as an environmental engineer and devout tree-hugger, i can't believe in non-toxic humans. as...

Sounds like you are very much searching for something. And I agree with @fridwy, what does that mean you're avoiding? And I agree with...

i'm okay with snakes, spiders, and other underdogs of the natural world, but humans give me the heebeegeebees and i have actively used...

nah. . . child prostitutes don't get many happy times. the further i get from my childhood, the happier i am. i'd be rescuing children...

i am a child sex trafficking survivor, sunny, a la happy days (50's/60's). in my dreams, my time machine will be well-used, if i ever...

i guess i'm one of those few, sunny, because i very much feel this way, even after decades of psychotherapy. you explained it well...

hello gghhvftggfgg. welcome to the forum. yup, i have this problem in spades, with just about everything. my own solution is to...

hello kipper. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. i've been on both sides of the c-ptsd help...

hello harley. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here but glad you are here. gentle empathy on the hyper-arousal. it was...

i'll second @Movingforward10 's notion that these are most excellent questions to bring up with t. as for how i survived that...

if you figure out how a single comment can wreak such havoc in a logical brain, let me know. i don't understand it, but here i am. for...

even as a mother? i just started the 5th year of my second parenting career and i believe that motherhood carries a unique brand of...

i have spent a good deal of time waffling between thinking i made it all up and wishing i made it all up. for sure i haven't made it up...

most excellent question, friday. it's been a high-fiber chew for me since you posted it yesterday. i have composed dozens of witty...

I wouldn´t matter if they didn´t put symtomps that I don´t have and them they try to medicate them. My T says I have to control my...

amen to this, sophie. in my head, the doc who felt like a witch doctor is chiming, "amen," in glorious harmony. worse than what the...