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Not knowing what love is
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As someone who feel like they have to be 100% presentable, covered up and clean or else feels extremely disgusting I relate to this a...
May 10, 2022
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Not knowing what love is
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I have in my life only had a couple relationships, during both of these (one of which was in my later teens and one in the past couple...
May 8, 2022
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Knock on Back (Patio) Door After Dark
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That would send me into high alert into the next day, after something like that I don't think I'd even be able to sleep. Thankfully...
May 7, 2022
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A couple of months ago I was asleep in the bedroom and I woke up to hear J talking to someone in the living room. His voice was calm so...
May 7, 2022
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One step forward Eighteen steps back
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I know exactly how you feel there, very little things can set me off into isolation again. when I'm out around others I always feel like...
Apr 30, 2022
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Can we talk about the intersection of autism and trauma?
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Older thread but I just checked this forum, yes this is what happens with me. It's sometimes hard to tell them apart. When I'm really...
Apr 26, 2022
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triggered online
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It's extremely unlikely if you got a new phone and number that they would be able to as well as if you use different usernames and...
Apr 24, 2022
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Advice for nightmares leading to waking up in survival mode & having flashbacks
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Exactly my dreams are alsways even if not complete flash backs always have the background of dread and intense sorrow. I have to wake up...
Apr 23, 2022
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nightmares that leave me adrenaline laden and sweating and having tremors are the norm. Maybe two or three times a month now, often all...
Apr 23, 2022
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Everyone is out to get you...me
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@Bigmess thanks for the compliment. There is a feeling that the relationship between the size of a crowd and the potential for chaos...
Apr 23, 2022
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Everyone is out to get you...me
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You explained this very well, I get paranoid but I don' think everyone is specifically out to get me but they're all possibly so...
Apr 16, 2022
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I wouldn't say everyone or anyone is "out to get me". That requires that they have a plan and are in the process of using it to"get" me...
Apr 16, 2022
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Thank you @Defaultxlove I know I’m making progress so I just need to continue to be gentle with myself. That’s exactly what it is...
Apr 14, 2022
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Getting a grip on self-punishment
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You just brought up where I think many people get caught up, they go for the whip but there's another more gentle way that may also...
Apr 13, 2022
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Angry, sad, intolerant of most everything
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I know the exact feeling you're talking about it, is almost like it's own emotion and I been feeling it in long multi day episodes for...
Apr 13, 2022
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Most days, I get up and drag myself through the day, working during the week from home and often doing some sort of volunteer work and...
Apr 13, 2022
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Getting a grip on self-punishment
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You are not alone at all as this is also trend in my life that manifests in so many ways. Getting through this mess of complex...
Apr 13, 2022
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Regression akin to Dissociation?
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I was actually just thinking about this general topic as I just had an encounter with a certain person and against my will completely...
Apr 3, 2022
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What do you like to do for positive alone time?
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I do not get much of that but when I do my ideal day is a nice summer, going for some walks, enjoying some music, working on some...
Apr 2, 2022
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this is so good. thank you <3 thank you for your whole post. I am low on words but it means a lot to me and Ill come back to it
Apr 2, 2022
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Had a crazy nightmare
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This is actually just how a lot of mine go, I don't rememeber my dreams too often but I always have one's like this when I do. Dreams...
Apr 2, 2022
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Do you ever feel like this? Like something dragging me down and not letting me grow.
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Wow! Thank you! This is exactly how I feel. My friends talk about buying a house and I look at them with a blank stare. Like what? It...
Apr 2, 2022
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Do you ever feel like this? Like something dragging me down and not letting me grow.
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I'm also an age regress-er, it feels like I have 2 people in my body. One does the hard, ruthless work of driving my life and I'm just a...
Apr 2, 2022
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I’m a brute.
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Yeah that's what I found too, it's like I don't have the correct emotional responses and the one's that are there are extremely self...
Apr 2, 2022
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For me, I have re-framed that feeling. Now that I know that complex emotion processing just either doesn't work properly, it makes...
Apr 2, 2022
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What do you define as “extreme anxiety”
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Now that gross example I feel all too well, it's almost like always throws the most crap your way when you need it the least in the...
Apr 2, 2022
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my god, the original question is how do you define extreme anxiety and i guess I have to change my answer. I said awhile back that...
Apr 2, 2022
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@Friday I have been on the long term opiates fiasco too, happily I have had corrective surgeries and treatments that have made them...
Apr 2, 2022
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This for me.
Mar 26, 2022
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Witnessing extreme traumatic illness as a child
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Everyone lives and learns and I practice forgiveness as much as I can. That's actually what my story was like too, the cross section...
Mar 26, 2022
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Healthier lifestyle choices, nutritional healing, fitness, running, walking etc.
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I started going outside more often every day for a walk if not just to go to the store regardless of how things are out there every day...
Mar 26, 2022
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Swimming With Sharks
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I don't think I have, mine isn't the sharpest either but as of now I didn't know about that accomplishments topic.
Mar 26, 2022
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I know I’m replying to myself @Freddyt … but it’s only just now occurred to me, because of your Q about cooking for yourself… that this...
Mar 26, 2022
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That seems to be what I'm finding. Once I cook and eat its not far to a shower and getting on with my day. Especially days like...
Mar 26, 2022
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Cooking for yourself...
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Cooking for myself and nutrition are actually some of my favorite things to focus on in my life. Cooking once you learn the basics is...
Mar 26, 2022
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I understand. This alone can be exhausting as well as wondering if there will be a fight I'm so glad! There is a nutritional healing...
Mar 26, 2022
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Hiya, if you click on the top left menu button then hit "your threads" you'll find your threads.
Mar 26, 2022
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Fear And Feeling Positive Things
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It's baffling how counter productive it is though because being more non-verbal and less expressive when your in front of the person...
Mar 26, 2022
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in my case, with considerable wonder if i'm summarizing correctly, the psycho tick has been treated like a symptom more than a...
Mar 26, 2022
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Yep. Exposed. Exposed. Exposed. Exposed. Find cover!!! Nope. Different catalyst.
Mar 26, 2022
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Swimming With Sharks
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Yes it alone helps a lot to have people to relate to since I can't find anywhere else full of people with the same issues in general...
Mar 26, 2022
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Fear And Feeling Positive Things
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Trust is extremely difficult, I'm always open to having a friendly talk with someone as long as they don't come on way too strong for me...
Mar 24, 2022
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Fear And Feeling Positive Things
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Core Beliefs / Cognitive Distortions
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I was digging through this forum and found some other threads that touched on this topic but nothing recent. Does anyone else when they...
Mar 23, 2022
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I’m a brute.
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I'm just like this actually, my aggression is the only thing that helps me survive. Relentless attention to detail and control over...
Mar 23, 2022
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Everyone is out to get you...me
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I work with the public, the amount of times people gave me looks or got creeped out cause my moves got a bit more robotic and/or my...
Mar 23, 2022
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Swimming With Sharks
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Anxiety, Panic & Hypervigilance
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I just remembered I made a profile here and can't remember what I last posted but I decided to come back because my CPTSD is completely...
Mar 22, 2022
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