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    What form of therapy did you find most useful?

    CBT for sure. Not so sure it would work after accelerated ptsd though.
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    Feeling blue....what else is new. Admitted my mother in law to hospital last Thursday. Frankly, its not like I like her because she is kind of a witch. Yet she was confused, had swollen legs, loosing weight, etc. Since her sodium is low they admitted her. I pushed for admission. Well all she...
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    Had to admit my MIL to hospital. She cant take care of herself and is beyond home heat or assisted living, but doest meet criteria for nursing home. WTF. She almost set house on fire, cant keep track of meds, and has a colostomy bag that she cant take care of. It really must suck being 92 and...
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    Friday, thats exactly what it feels like. My ribs and shoulder blade hurts. I had a broken rib and partial pneumothorax many years ago, and it feels collapsed (but not as severe) but it's not according to Drs. I should have taken the pain meds
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    Lionheart-thank you for your kind words. They offered me pain meds but I declined. I did ask for muscle relaxers but they are not working, so may not be muscular. The IB Profin is not doing much.
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    Been feeling crappy. Stabbing pain in shoulder blade and lung pain. Went to ER saturday. Bad emphysema. Quit smoking almost a year ago. Thats not the cause of pain though. Dr. said either pleurisy or muscle strain.
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    Chat, check-in, and hang out

    I feel like a sinking ship. My 92 yr old MIL is loosing it and she is secretive in some ways that prevent me from helping. My husband is oblivious. He talks more about what's to eat than about the future of his mom.
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    When someone tries to triangulate

    Since the concern is about an attempt to triangulate members, and triangulation takes a villain, victim, and rescuer, the main point is not participate in any of those roles, but knowing you can not control what roles others take. The key is not buying into. Bad behavior should not be rewarded...
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    When someone tries to triangulate

    It sounds like it is something that you really don't want to address with her and for good reason. In my experience, it has benefitted me when I have not contributed further, such as commenting on things when she's blabbering these stories to others. Its so temping to explain to others rather...
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    Has your efforts changed social gathering avoidance?

    Recovery4Me, thank you, and you are spot on about walking your side of the street. Self preservation is a must.
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    PTSD as a mental-psychological brain injury...

    By the way, I kind of hate that I picked the name "Brat". Maybe some think its because I am a brat. I was the last of 5 girls and my sisters called me the "brat" from the day I can remember. Probably how childhood abuse began I raised my own kids and would never call them that I babysit my...
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    PTSD as a mental-psychological brain injury...

    You know, there are a lot of posts that I read and have liked but dont comment on. Often I want to comment, but as I read other peoples post, I see where they make good posts in opposition. I have to let that sink in for a moment or much longer. This site has humbled me as a human being and...
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    Has your efforts changed social gathering avoidance?

    Our family gatherings are limited, so I have to say that is very helpful for me. A couple years ago I had to just not invite my 45 yr old daughter and bf and kids. Thats a different situation....its their drug use. They dont drive so we have to transport, interrupting the little relaxation we...
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    Has your efforts changed social gathering avoidance?

    Not sure I am understanding this right but giving it a shot. Before Covid, I had some gathering avoidance but could do it occasionally. Seems to take a lot of energy. While I had a very limited social life, I did enjoy some socializing. Since Covid.....well, at first it was so hard not...
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    Is it possible to spend years dissociated?

    I definitely think it's possible. I feel I have dont that with exceptions. I auto pilot thru life, sleeping as much as possible. Then if things come up that cause triggering, I get myself overly worked up...and feel current trauma, past traumas, early traumas. I may not identify or speak of...
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