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@whiteraven @Muttly thank you o much for sharing your stories of positive relationship experiences. They give hope.
Apr 21, 2022
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I am 51. Really just started getting into relationships about 5 or so years ago? And ... I will deny this later (haha) but my current...
Apr 20, 2022
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I get what you're saying. I grew up in a home where my mom had NO power, no say, no anything. We were both miserable. But I was in a...
Apr 20, 2022
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I am a big fat ghoster. I find the term a bit funny because it only really became that relevant in very recent years. ‘When I...
Apr 20, 2022
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Going Ghost & Hypervigilance
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Yes...this makes a lot of sense. I actually don't want more contact, but feel obligated to still maintain contact/say yes to things I...
Apr 20, 2022
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Yep yep. IF they do this, THEN I am going to do that. Unsurprisingly, how someone feels about something usually changes how they...
Apr 20, 2022
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I think if you'd prefer more contact (and there's nothing wrong with that necessarily) that would be expressing a need or want, vs a...
Apr 20, 2022
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Yes absolutely, I more-so was saying that I can see how he may have felt like I was shutting him out and I can see how that can...
Apr 20, 2022
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Is blame the only thing this can be? How about, it's your responsibility if you want to better your relationships but not your fault...
Apr 19, 2022
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We have to manifest it! It is very hard though to keep that mindset. I guess it is just because I feel my feelings so intensely...
Apr 19, 2022
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I relate to this so much. I actually had a past boyfriend that was offering to help me out with something and I was like "no I got it"...
Apr 19, 2022
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A Turn Away From Dissociation: The Association Thread
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Apr 19, 2022
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Of course it can happen, and it is, I think, independent of trauma or not. You aren’t just four letters of a psychiatric acronym. When...
Apr 19, 2022
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Not at all. That's exactly what I was hoping to hear tbh, because even though people say "anything is possible" it's somedays hard to...
Apr 19, 2022
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Suffering from GAD, MDD, PTSD, Bipolar 2, BPD, Drug Addiction
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Hi @sadchick welcome! I think it's amazing that you haven't given up on yourself and you're working through the misery. It definitely...
Apr 19, 2022
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This is so beautiful and gives me hope. I feel you girl. Claiming a loving and healthy relationship for both of us!
Apr 19, 2022
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Hello! From I could remember I have always felt that I was never going to find anyone that will truly love me. My family is...
Apr 19, 2022
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It's my understanding that the saying of not comparing one's insides to other's outsides refers to pre-assuming if their life looks...
Apr 19, 2022
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I agree. Comparing yourself to others, especially people without PTSD is generally unhelpful. I was answering the question too, but...
Apr 19, 2022
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I am on the other side. It took me awhile but I am here. I didn't take for most of my 20s because I wanted to work on myself. I grew up...
Apr 19, 2022
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Realizations - Overcoming fear of imperfection
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Hi all, Last night I went to a support group and I was really inspired by the other members sharing their experiences so candidly. It...
Apr 19, 2022
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I think that's right. I'm lately aware that pain and hurt are at the core of a lot of destructive behaviors. But when we experience...
Apr 19, 2022
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yes - I do see both of your points. I realized partly what got me to this point is not speaking up/setting boundaries early on in the...
Apr 19, 2022
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I did it when I didn't know it was a 'thing'- just 'me' and seemed relevant/ the right thing to do. It was never malicious. (And this is...
Apr 19, 2022
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😂😂haha pretty much
Apr 18, 2022
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for sure, my own hypervigilance is a HUGE factor in my own dysfunctional relationships. the more i like you, the more likely i am to...
Apr 18, 2022
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Somewhere along the spectrum of Nothing/Nada…to…Vitally important to do it well. Depends on exactly how toxic we’re talking about...
Apr 18, 2022
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Newbie - learning/growing working through dysfunctional family dynamics/going no contact.
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Welcome @couragetogrow. I started at a pretty young age to "undo" the damage of a dysfunctional homelife and I commend you for getting...
Apr 18, 2022
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I get this, it is something that I struggle with a lot. I was taught that "blood is thicker than water, there for family relationships...
Apr 18, 2022
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A fresh start - Feel it’s important to have a connection with my family, just with strict boundaries
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Been working on myself a lot lately. Going to therapy, waking up earlier, getting in with my psychiatrist, and trying to take care of my...
Apr 17, 2022
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Gaslighting yourself.
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Yes - it's like I'm learning a new language lol. I really appreciate these spaces for that reason. It's fascinating how traumatic...
Apr 17, 2022
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Going Ghost & Hypervigilance
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How do you guys feel about going ghost on toxic peeps? I have been evaluating my role in dysfunctional relationships and perhaps it's...
Apr 17, 2022
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Gaslighting yourself.
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This...me too...but funny how the ones that imprinted this belief have the most conditional love ever and are the most judgemental...
Apr 17, 2022
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You say you are in an abusive relationship. Easier than what? Leaving? Trying to change an abusive relationship is a long battle...
Apr 17, 2022
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I love this 💜
Apr 17, 2022
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i flat-out refused to date for all the reasons you just listed, plus a basketful. i had no plans to marry for all the same reasons. my...
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Feeling like I will never have a healthy romantic partner...stories from the otherside?
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Hello everyone, Has anyone felt that they will not find a healthy romantic partner? I have a dysfunctional family and I have worked so...
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Am I to blame?
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I currently have been asking myself the same questions. I can say with certainty that you are never to blame for any sort of physical...
Apr 17, 2022
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There has to be a name for this...
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How I perceive this is like a response to life after the trauma is over...feeling guilty over having feelings we perceive as negative...
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Undiagnosed
Newbie - learning/growing working through dysfunctional family dynamics/going no contact.
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This!!! Thank you
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Toxic core beliefs
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I feel like it's because they are so layered and enmeshed with how we've learned to relate to others...Often it seems these toxic core...
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Gaslighting yourself.
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Core Beliefs / Cognitive Distortions
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I thought I had overcome my familial relationship issues and set the proper boundaries for myself. But it seems this is a process that...
Apr 17, 2022
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couragetogrow
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Newbie - learning/growing working through dysfunctional family dynamics/going no contact.
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Hello all, I'm happy to be here. I have a history of multi-faceted parental abuse with emotionally abusive/neglect/religious undertones...
Apr 17, 2022
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