Don't you see...he hears what he says already and doesn't care. I am the one who is to adjust and deal with it. Thank God he is not like this all the time but when he is ....I simply must conform or to hell with me. At least that's how I feel today. It has been a month of hurtful behavior this...
She wants me to bring him into counseling too. Even gets pushy about it. He won't do it for himself, he certainly won't do it for me. She also gives me the indication that if I don't like how he's treating me than I should just leave him. I don't want to leave him. I went there to gain my own...
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That represents two things....how I feel and the shit that comes out of the hubby's mouth on a daily basis. :crybaby: Funny today he came up with the term emotionally abusive....he admitted he was and then it was followed by a shrug,,,that is just how he is. It was just weird...
I know its a crock of shit. Amen. He is very talented in shifting blame and responsibility. I can't buy it anymore. I just have to figure out how to respond to statements like that ....I need to be quicker on my feet with a comeback. I'm tired tonight and tired of thinking and replaying the...
Thanks Anthony. It's like life is hard enough but then it seems additional crap keeps adding to the daily troubles. Talked to hubby and he admits his problems but then passes it to me and says I have to make sure he does things right. Like I'm his mother and I have to tell him right from wrong...
Hello All,
It's been a long time since my last post...October maybe? Missed you. Life got busy.....I guess we were on one of our many rollercoaster rides too. Things had been going pretty well since then until about 2 weeks ago. My son moved back with us and the change in our day to day lives...
Wow, nice to be understood but yet sorry you understand so well. To me it all just gives birth to a vicious circle. If we give in to the same level of sickness, then the circle just continues. You can't live with someone for years of this abuse and not have it affect you somehow. Anger starts to...
He has yet to make a move toward dealing with the PTSD. He has located a VA clinic not far from us and is thinking about checking it out for other physical problems but I don't know if he'll go through with checking into the PTSD. He had started when we were living in Hawaii but since we moved...
Anthony, I guess this one is directed to you. I am the spouse of someone with PTSD and often it feels like in order for him to feel some control over his life he becomes the hunter and aims flaming arrows (words) directed at me and my daughter for one purpose only...to hurt us and keep us...
All,
Thanks for all the input. It has been helpful getting some insight. I find it very hard to talk to hubby about getting help. About a year ago he actively tried getting help thru the VA but kept hitting walls and moving so many times didn't help. Now, he doesn't talk about getting help for...
Superd,
Well said. I'm very afraid of
I am so grateful my hubby does not drink, will not drink. One of the reasons I was attracted to him in the first place. But I am afraid of infidelity and just plain shutting down.
Sarah,
What you were doing by talking to his mother was not vindictive or you were not trying to be deceitful. You were trying to grab on to a life preserver, that is all. You are trying to save him, yourself, your marriage, your child, I know. He will not see it like that right now. It's like...
Hello Everyone,
If the PTSD sufferer knows there is a problem, knows what the problem is, knows PTSD affects and hurts others around them, why will he not try to get help and make changes? Is that also part of the disorder?
Hubby is so intelligent so the fact that he won't get help of any...