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What made you question just how normal your childhood was?
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My childhood family experiences were mixed. I certainly am not trying to say everything was bad, a lot was quite good. Anyway, in...
Thursday at 3:46 PM
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When aged 4 or 5 my friend came to celebrate my birthday (for dinner) with me my dad and siblings... and I knew from the look on her...
Thursday at 3:44 PM
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When l couldn't have friends over because my Mom would have episodes and say things in appropriate or yell.
Thursday at 3:42 PM
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I guess I always knew, but people still keep telling me my childhood was far from normal. Apparently its not normal for your parents to...
Thursday at 3:41 PM
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When I was a 14 I remember sitting my parents down to explain to them how to “parent” my 16 year old sister and what kind of support...
Thursday at 3:40 PM
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This is an interesting one, for me I suppose it has layers. The first layer being that my parents are Deaf, I knew from pretty young...
Thursday at 3:39 PM
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I think I always knew. But not for the reasons I should’ve known. I grew up in a community where it was rare to have divorced parents...
Thursday at 3:37 PM
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It was a common thread in my education… how ‘every child’ thinks their childhood is normal. So it wasn’t something that could be used...
Thursday at 3:26 PM
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Absolutely fascinating thread. It has stayed with me (I work in primary education) all day.
Thursday at 3:23 PM
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My therapist. Quite honestly, it didn't occur to me my childhood fell outside the norm until I was told (in my 30s!).
Thursday at 3:23 PM
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When me (11) & my 9 yr old sister were paid to perform pop songs/opera arias at shopping centres (malls) and encouraged to act like...
Thursday at 3:23 PM
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When I was 15 or so I committed a small misdemeanor to keep from getting in trouble with my dad, but my adult brother reacted pretty...
Thursday at 3:21 PM
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My T told me that it’s not normal for children to take themselves to their dentist and doctor appointments. I didn’t think 13 was a...
Thursday at 3:19 PM
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when my fifth grade teacher reacted to my offer of a blow job. i didn't know men could be repulsed by such an offer.
Thursday at 3:18 PM
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I knew having an ulcer at 4 or 5 wasn't 'normal', but I didn't know kids were supposed to have someone home or not know how to 'do'...
Thursday at 3:18 PM
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My partner asked me to stop watching Dance Mom's in his house because it's so toxic it puts him in a bad mood. I was like 🧐 what do you...
Thursday at 3:18 PM
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I think mine is cumulative. I never had big issues with medical stuff when I was really young, but beginning when I was about 20, I...
Thursday at 3:16 PM
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Yeah, I need someting like this. Plain old exercise doesn't help--I need to destroy something when I feel like this.
Thursday at 3:15 PM
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Very much relate to this and the overwhelm that @whiteraven also feels with medical and insurance industrial complex. What you said...
Thursday at 3:15 PM
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emotional channeling is my front line tool for managing such episodes. if i'm depressed, i might channel the sadness into singing sad...
Thursday at 3:14 PM
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Definitely stress cup, but mine seems to fill all at once. I mean, things may have been building in this situation, but sometimes I feel...
Thursday at 3:13 PM
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I totally understand your frustration with the medical field. I also understand that stress cup overflowing too. And your reaction. I...
Thursday at 3:13 PM
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Stress cup, right? It’s handy to know about the stress cup, and how we need to empty it out because with ptsd on board it’s always...
Thursday at 3:13 PM
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So, I have these episodes--which are better than they used to be, but they are still bad--that I am completely unable to manage. I end...
Thursday at 3:12 PM
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Schitt’s Creek is the best!! LOL
Thursday at 3:10 PM
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Binge worthy shows: Psych The Office Schitt’s Creek Supernatural Fringe Cobra Kai Zombie The Good Place Arrested Development Stranger...
Thursday at 3:10 PM
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When I lost my cat, Dino, I heard him for a couple of years after that. I would hear his little cry in the distance. It was strange and...
Dec 15, 2022
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And thank you all for being so kind. ❤️
Dec 15, 2022
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No prerequisite. EMDR was designed/invented/discovered for trauma. But it’s actually EFFECTIVE on a wide range of disorders with no...
Dec 7, 2022
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Any words of identification and strength would be greatly appreciated
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Yes, can relate in some ways. The mental health care system is brutal. I am so very sorry this happened to you. I have a few...
Dec 7, 2022
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I pay for private counceling once a week which has been a blessing. obviously in hospital you have therapy but your dosed up on 500mg of...
Dec 7, 2022
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Awe sweetie, welcome to the forum. I have nothing to really relate to you, but I have bits and pieces and I care. After a childhood...
Dec 7, 2022
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Welcome to the forum. We may be on opposite sides of the world but this forum can bring us closer. You'll have friends, support, and...
Dec 7, 2022
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I get this, I do. But obviously, even if he could be persuaded to (very unlikely), this wouldn't be the situation to pursue the issue...
Dec 6, 2022
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"Excuse me, I have to be somewhere else". What do you use to cope with stressful event's generally? Tools in your toolbox that you're...
Dec 6, 2022
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yup, i've dealt with similar. my reflexive response was flight or fight. i either ran like a bat out of hell or i went kamakazi to...
Dec 6, 2022
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My nephew got engaged. His father (my ex-brother-in-law) was one of my rapists. I’m petrified of him. They had quite a few kids and it...
Dec 6, 2022
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Is anybody alive out there?...
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I am sorry you have to deal with that. I am also always available to talk.
Dec 6, 2022
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Yes, welcome and I hope there is some comfort here for you. I think many of us have had to cut ties with family. I've had to cut ties...
Dec 6, 2022
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Welcome - and congratulations on the strength of character to cut ties and move forward.
Dec 6, 2022
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"Alive" is a strong word. Heheh. But yes! We are out here && I definitely hear you. I don't speak to my dad's side of the family so I...
Dec 6, 2022
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Hi welcome! Sad to hear about you being accused of lying on top of what happened. I love it here. Hope you do too!
Dec 6, 2022
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Welcome, there are a lot of us with similar stories, and we are all here because of similar effects on our lives. Yes, there are living...
Dec 6, 2022
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hello traum. welcome to the forum. i believe it is a smart move to broaden your support network. it takes a village to heal. no matter...
Dec 6, 2022
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Omg that creates such a visual. Great imagery. Welcome! Yep not a Hallmark dweller here more like one of the Lifetime movies that ends...
Dec 6, 2022
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Thank you all for your kind words of support. I was so distressed that I only slept for 2 hours and had to take another Ativan to get...
Dec 6, 2022
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