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    Sexual Assault Was it assault? or am i over reacting?

    Yes this is most definitely assault, and it sounds like sexual assault to me. Any unwanted touching of a sexual nature is assault. I'm so sorry you had to experience this. Don't blame yourself or feel guilt for not knowing how to act, or for not doing something about it. This was in no way your...
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    How can i make them stop?

    I understand this completely. I have been in a similar situation where I don't want to sleep for fear of what nightmares I'll have. It can be upsetting to lose sleep because you are afraid of it. :( I try to clear my mind as best I can for about an hour before bed, and I try to think of calming...
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    The Smallest Tone...

    For me, if he explains it calmly and kindly it helps. That is hard to do sometimes in the heat of an argument. My husband had to practice and has gotten good at telling me kindly. "I just need a few minutes alone, I'm going into the other room and then I'll come back and we can talk okay?" and...
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    The Smallest Tone...

    I can't speak for your girlfriend, but I do know that with me if a man raises his voice I immediately go on the defensive. When my husband and I argue, it usually ends with me in tears. This is not his fault, and he works hard not to speak harshly to me, or raise his voice because he understands...
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    First Time

    Medication is a good step but it's not a quick fix for things. It took me three different medications to find the one that worked for me. It can sometimes be a big process. Go speak with your doctor and they can help get you started. I hope this helps.
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    Sexual Assault I Wish I Would Have Reported My Rape

    It's very common for victims to not report. I think there is a fear factor, such as "Who would believe me?", or "What would happen to me?" I never reported my boyfriend who sexually, physically and mentally abused me for the 2 years we dated. I still feel guilt for not reporting him, and the...
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    Sexual Assault Hanging On By A Thread...

    It's hard to take care of myself right now, or be kind to myself. I'm actually angry at myself for staying with him when it was happening. I know I was manipulated and blah blah blah...but I'm angry. and I'm sad too. I'm everything. I don't know... I don't know how to ground myself, I don't...
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    Sexual Assault Intrusive Sexual Thoughts

    I can understand this completely. I'm finally in a non abusive non destructive relationship, but when we get intimate I feel like my thoughts about sex tend to drift toward the violent or rough side of things. I don't like that about myself either. My first sexual experience was with my abuser...
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    Sexual Assault Hanging On By A Thread...

    I don't know how to write this, so bare with me if it doesn't make sense or seems like my thoughts are all over the place. I was triggered a few weeks ago, and since that time my trauma has gone from a mostly manageable state to an overwhelming, unmanageable state of bad. I can't sleep, and...
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