Hi OP hope it helped. :)
When I dated at 18 guys just wanted sex so they either wouldnt take no for an answer or ghost me for not putting out.
This does not happen at all now because I choose way better quality of men and none of them have asked me to hook up they want to take me out on dates
so basically I have been alone for years after being abused. I have not trusted anyone I have isolated myself completely
After my therapist told me pretty much what you just said I became super aggressive rather than passive to avoid being hurt again
I feel I am too tough but worried about...
yeah this is a good idea. At least im putting myself out there. Also Ive noticed even though im scared to get close to people. I feel like I get attached too quickly
Like I am avoidant with friends but anxious when dating (so weird!)
Im trying to remind myself that if someone is abusive I can...
I am on the same boat as you (abusive childhood and SA) I have avoiding dating for years since I left my abusive ex
It does get better.🐧
I did make friends on bumble BFF you just have to be confident to ask girls to meet up as most girls will not initiate
This has majorly helped me...
I have cut off my entire family and I dont regret as I think I would have killed myself as if I stay in contact with them
It has definitely helped and having a therapist validate my pain has helped me cut them off. It is your decision, but I will mention some of the cons to consider
I dont know how to cope with my pain. I feel so sad all the time, my eating disorder helps as a distraction but it just stops me from killing myself.
I have nobody, I cant trust anyone everyone in my life has hurt me. I have no idea what the point of life is, it just seems to be endless...
I am angry all the time. I don't know how to stop being angry for being abused.
As an adult I feel like can understand how child abuse/neglect can happen, but I can't get past the sexual abuse.
For me I can understand that some people cannot take care of a child and I have almost made peace...