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    Im 23 and never dated after abuse

    Hi OP hope it helped. :) When I dated at 18 guys just wanted sex so they either wouldnt take no for an answer or ghost me for not putting out. This does not happen at all now because I choose way better quality of men and none of them have asked me to hook up they want to take me out on dates I...
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    Stuck in a cycle of suicidal thoughts, not sad just tired.

    I feel the same way. I dont think therapy helps and gp has no mental health advice whatsever. I feel that nobody cares and we just have to pretend not to want to die
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    suffering

    so basically I have been alone for years after being abused. I have not trusted anyone I have isolated myself completely After my therapist told me pretty much what you just said I became super aggressive rather than passive to avoid being hurt again I feel I am too tough but worried about...
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    suffering

    yeah this is a good idea. At least im putting myself out there. Also Ive noticed even though im scared to get close to people. I feel like I get attached too quickly Like I am avoidant with friends but anxious when dating (so weird!) Im trying to remind myself that if someone is abusive I can...
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    suffering

    Thanks. When someone is being nice and respectful. I feel like its a trap. But I guess trusting someone is always a risk so I just have to risk it.
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    suffering

    Thanks, I think when I feel someone is a good person I still struggle to let my guard down because I cant trust that my judgement is correct im worried about being abused again
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    suffering

    Thanks, I have people who want to be my friend but im having a hard time trusting them and trusting myself to choose good people to be around. I also put up a wall around people to protect myself
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    Im 23 and never dated after abuse

    Hi OP I am on the same boat as you (abusive childhood and SA) I have avoiding dating for years since I left my abusive ex It does get better.🐧 I did make friends on bumble BFF you just have to be confident to ask girls to meet up as most girls will not initiate This has majorly helped me...
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    Advice on cutting ties with abusive family?

    Hi OP I have cut off my entire family and I dont regret as I think I would have killed myself as if I stay in contact with them It has definitely helped and having a therapist validate my pain has helped me cut them off. It is your decision, but I will mention some of the cons to consider 1...
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    suffering

    I dont know how to cope with my pain. I feel so sad all the time, my eating disorder helps as a distraction but it just stops me from killing myself. I have nobody, I cant trust anyone everyone in my life has hurt me. I have no idea what the point of life is, it just seems to be endless...
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    Angry all the time

    yes I explained this to my T that the anger is protecting me from my sadness. I dont think I can really function with my pain unless its disguised as anger
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    Angry all the time

    I am angry all the time. I don't know how to stop being angry for being abused. As an adult I feel like can understand how child abuse/neglect can happen, but I can't get past the sexual abuse. For me I can understand that some people cannot take care of a child and I have almost made peace...
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    Soooo they say C-PTSD is curable..is that a lie?

    I dont think its curable, you just learn to live with it
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