Muttly

My idea would be to start a thread in the Cognitive Distortions section titled “I am a burden to my T” and face that thought distortion...

For me, it's the dad who does this shit to me. And maybe the brother, but I get muddled thinking about that. And what you said about...

My narcissist ex texts me on birthdays and Mother’s Day and whatever. I usually just give a curt “thank you”. Narcissists want that...

I think it is brilliant, personally. A great way to add lightness to what appears to be an overbearing situation. If there were no...

Delete the text is my advice. I'm not sure I fully understand though.

Hard to know, without having all the context, but I'd have found it slightly odd. But I completely agree with Movingforward. Since she...

Thank you all, your replies have been helpful. I felt relief at the idea I don't have to forgive. I wonder why I feel I have to...

I remember seeing an episode of Oprah on child sex abuse where they were saying it's necessary to forgive your abuser, and I kind of...

This! It’s so dang hard to forgive ourselves, might as well focus on that and let the rest fall where it may.

To me, this is much more important. Fwiw, none of my Ts have suggested forgiving my abusers is necessary or recommended it. Some of...

I wasn’t raised Christian, although I spent several years in Christian countries, the majority of my childhood was in the East. So the...

to my heavily psychotheraputed senses, forgiveness is not about the other person. it is about healing the damage done. whether the...

I see things in two ways. Forgiving someone when they couldn't help themselves. When they didn't intend to cause the harm they did. Is...

No, I don't feel forgiveness is part of recovery. If that were so, in my case, I would not be as far along as I am. I feel there are...

No, and I don’t know how to explain but I want to try. For me, the best way I understand it is that my old self had an idea of...

I know it's come up before, but it's been a while since a thread has been made on this subject. My T and I were talking about...

I will celebrate the fact that he is dead and gone for a few years now. Can't muster the hypocrisy that involves him. I rarely even...

Of course. Sigh. So yeah, I know. I should extend the same caring to me. umm.. ok. If my needs impinge upon other people, I'm too...

Dealing with an alcoholic is hard. It's so easy to get hurt and entangled. I think on some level you probably know, it's not as straight...

I filed bankruptcy 3 years ago. Like SRG said, you get good at watching your finances like a hawk. You adjust. But the burden of now...

So I never filed for bankruptcy, but I got into some shit with my credit cards to the point that I couldn't use one for 7 years. You get...

Ugh. Hate birthdays. Sorry you are struggling. Say more when you can.

Thank you all for your replies. My brain is being dumb. I feel like I can't ask for pain meds. That I will be too needy or come across...

Plan for what you can to mitigate the pain. Like Friday said, strait up codeine is a choice. I did that right through enucleation...

2 med notes 1 - (You probably already know this, but it’s worth mentioning, in case you’re like me and totally forget this kind of...

It's not the wrong attitude either. It's just the feelings you're having to deal with right now. If I understand correctly, you grew up...

Yeah I was on a medicine for nerve pain that was an anti depressant. I told my Dr I miss it, but I was off of it due to eventually...

Sorry about your back, Friday Goat for today- Don't push too hard.

I achieved my goal for the day. Went to psychiatrist appointment. Plus - I went to the cafe for lunch and did some shopping so that's...

Good job dealing with the police officer. You did it. And were ok. And you are safe now. I hope you have a good session with your T.

Ah I just remembered, I was on the side of the road last night texting. A trooper pulled up behind me with lights. I had a quick "oh...

This is an amazing connection and of course might send enough adrenalin into your system to keep you up all night! Also, a subtle...

Well, this morning I decided to make a list of things I need to do prior to surgery and work up a schedule and stuff. (I am a planner)...

See - you got it all sorted out @Muttly !! Just gotta break it down and take it on one piece at a time....

Congratulations. It's such a scary thing to do. And it's such a relief to be able to be your true self. I also have zero regrets

I knew that I was in the closet about it could not hold onto this secret anymore.They know I am married to a great partner,Bryan that...