Roland

ETA, also to be understood. A voice speaking that is not understood is like a different language, why bother? It is at best not helping...

Yes I do also. Which is why I chose work that didn't require it except privately, 1-on-1. And why I don't speak up about pain, or...

Yes. I was ridiculed or ignored if I expressed anything. Even mundane things. So when trauma happened: no words. Acting out in...

But unfortunately the child that was hurt by an adult almost always feels responsible for it Not that the facts care about feelings...

When I was a child, I had no words to explain what was going on. At times if I did, I was yelled at for being...

Same here Excellent post @Friday I hate all these words, and I don't consider myself any of them. But you draw a strong parallel to...

thinking about this more today- Watch the movie pulp fiction. Could be a trigger for all kinds of traumas so beware. The only point the...

Do you have a sample of what you mean? I want to create my own though my mind is drawing sort of a blank in formulating everything you...

Thank you, that's helpful pointers. Sometimes it's hard to really identify, actually very hard. It seems like this idea that it's never...

This is really useful in treatment. Recognising patterns like this? Crazy how useful they can be! As well as when to step up supports...

Unfortunately that isn't very effective Mine escalates every year it seems

“Emergence” Takes time To unfold Like art Takes time 🌬

And how can someone that is the same and unchanging, you know, not be like that. Theologically, I know the answer, Jesus fulfilled God's...

Yes, like I can't accept that characteristic of God because to me I see it as abusive and how can a loving entity be abusive

This is the best f*cking thread ever. I hate global corporations and how they just f*ck over both their employees and their customer...

That's a great perspective. I'm halfway through, maybe even two-thirds, not sure but I've been there for at least three years because...

Thanks for the tips, it's been really hard being disciplined about stuff like that. Plus, I've almost read the whole Bible, but I'm...

My Bible is dusty and I'm convicted about it, yet I haven't done anything to change that

Yes @Roland to even have a relationship of any kind really, or why bother.

It's helpful to be able to talk things through and analyze them. Glad to be able to do that with you. Yeah, open and honest...

Oops, am very sorry I missed the edit.. Was thinking too, it's very insulting to be treated like a charity case. Gross.

Thanks also to you @Roland , it helps me possibly understand too. I always feel torn between what is the implicit message/ directive not...

That makes a lot of sense.

Thank you, I'll look into it

There is a book based on IFS called Self Therapy by Jay Earley (he worked with Dick Schwartz). In the introduction he says you can do...

Thank you. I look forward to your response, but take your time! I appreciate it

How much do you think can be done on your own? Are there like resources to be able to do it on your own? I know there's a book like ifs...

Yes, my suicidal part is it’s own part, too. And that makes sense about “now or never.” I am learning to be the leader of my parts...

Have you been in therapy for parts work, or have you done it yourself?

The suicidal part bit is actually very timely, I have parts too and I've been thinking about identifying other parts besides the ones my...

Thank you very much for the input, it's hard to understand for me, because I haven't had a lot of healthy relationships with clear...

There's a ton of wisdom packed in there. I really appreciate that you spent the time to write out that response. Thank you

Like what supporters need sufferers to do. I want to have healthy relationships. I don't want to be selfish, nor have codependent...

Yeah, it's definitely a constant battle, but many of us are here working on it step by step and making progress in our own way

^^ Yes @Roland that is true, and as per the plasticity as well. 👍🏻 I guess I am meaning (just for me) something deceptively more...

Do you have a suicide safety plan? If so, what is it? Did you use a template or make your own? Does anyone use an app, if so which one...

Thank you so much for linking these! Excited to read them

I'm still unable to see/find it? Is it linked in your response? Yeah, the little bit I've learned about structural disassociation has...

The only healthy way I've ever dealt with suicidal thoughts is cuddling teddies and crying and pretending they were talking to me whilst...

That's awesome to hear

Praying for everyone!

I'm glad you mentioned those books, they are on my list. How long have you been doing ifs therapy? How is it going? Welcome to the...

Spent 25 years in "worthless" chat and numbing (well, yeah... lifesaving too) drugs. Six years getting off 6mg xanax monkey (prescribed)...

I'll have to look for the thread you're referring to. I was amazed that my psychologist was able to see and recognize it for what it...

That's the part I haven't figured out how to do. I guess it's something I need to look into more, see what others do, etc.

Fries, no ketchup Bacon or sausage?

That's wise. I wasn't able to save past relationships from that harmful behavior, because they refused to call me out on it, despite...

It's hard to find a balance. People with PTSD are "selfish" really because they have to be, they have limited ability to show up for...

The fact that I'm supposed to be working on a lesson I'm teaching tomorrow and instead I'm doing everything BUT lol

Yes I agree @Roland