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I would have saved his life if I could despite all that he had did to me.
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Once you've forgiven someone, you don't really feel anything towards them anymore. It's not the same as numbness, though. You've already...
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I have not received Justice and the lord did not bestow vengeance on anyone I know. Perhaps he is sleeping. ...well my...
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Hi @lostforgottensoul ❤️ I was very inspired reading what you’ve written here - how this phase of your journey unfolded and the...
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Something I try to keep in mind is that there are a lot of people who call themselves "Christian" but watching their behavior makes it...
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It’s a trauma issue still. I am from a background of religious abuse and got the most insight from the reading the deconstruction of...
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If Forgiveness is internal I don't know what it feels like. I bring up Justice because I feel anger toward my abusers that feels like...
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That is religious abuse, and my abuser did that too. Forgiveness does not mean you let it go and allow it to keep happening. It means...
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Perhaps forgiveness is not a one and done transaction. It could be a lifelong process like recovery, a component of recovery. I also...
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Hey, not sure if this is too late. So the thing with forgiveness, is that by not forgiving, you're "holding on to it". This is...
Today at 1:13 PM
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My job requires I deal with the public. A man and his wife came in and was initially being helped by my coworker. They were calm and...
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I understand how you feel Rorster. Tho my feelings are for different reasons, they are pretty much the same. Feeling like people out in...
Friday at 11:51 AM
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Thank you. I don't know why things seem to bother me so much today, why my inner critic is so strong today. I was fine all week and then...
Friday at 11:51 AM
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This is why I don't talk to anyone. People ask me all the time, why don't you say hi, why are you so quiet, why don't you share some...
Friday at 11:02 AM
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Feeling low and disgusting today. My inner critic is constantly attacking. I have so much to do and can't get it all done, exhausted...
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My abusive ex husband died about 2 years after I left him. When I found out I was at first devastated because I always genuinely loved...
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Memory #1: I was early teens. My grandmother was sitting at the kitchen table reading grocery store ads with her magnifying glass. She...
May 15, 2022
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Thank you!
May 15, 2022
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You are working so hard and I wanted you to know I HEAR you. Confronting the things that keep you unhealthy and unhappy is such hard...
May 15, 2022
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I quieted my apartment for a few days, no tv or interaction with anyone outside of my boyfriend or work. This was to allow myself to...
May 14, 2022
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Yes, she is hard to see. Things always seem to come up. I am looking for another therapist but it's a long process. Scheduled to see my...
May 10, 2022
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One day, my mother was gone somewhere. My stepdad and I went upstairs, I think to take a nap. We were under the covers, in the bed he...
May 10, 2022
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Hello..I'm starting a trauma diary for exposure therapy and to also tell about my experiences since I have a hard time sharing in person...
May 6, 2022
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I am so deeply sorry for what you went through as a child. I can picture you on the phone to your brother at a strangers house. I just...
May 4, 2022
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Thank you for your kind words.
May 4, 2022
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Thank you for this 😊
May 2, 2022
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After reading the above thread, what I can say is you are very aware and are willing to work on yourself. It is a very brave thing to...
May 2, 2022
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I'm sorry you're going thru that.. In my case, it's not really about his effort, I think he puts forth effort in diff ways..it's more...
May 2, 2022
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Sounds like a good plan.
May 2, 2022
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<33 good boy
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Howdy... I was in an emotionally (and sometimes physically) abusive relationship for almost two decades. I have been free since March...
Apr 28, 2022
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I get very anxious as well at any anticipated (or real) conflict) with an intimate partner. It was good to know that we can relate :) I...
Apr 28, 2022
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Yes, it does. Every relationship is different, what works for some doesn't work for others. The confusion is, am I practicing avoidance...
Apr 28, 2022
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To me, in a relationship it's really both people being happy/healthy and making little agreements with eachother about what works and...
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I have a relationship question but do not wish to create a whole new thread when I already have this one. It sort of relates to...
Apr 28, 2022
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Love this <33
Apr 27, 2022
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I have realized that my support, whether pro or peer, has grown. It is more than I had before, which was just my one elusive therapist...
Apr 27, 2022
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I hate agreeing with my inner critic. I'm still in the stage where the critic has not been tamed to be constructive. But if I am...
Apr 27, 2022
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i agree with your inner critic on this point. friends and family are notoriously lousy therapy supporters because they are too close to...
Apr 27, 2022
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The problem is finding peer support. The things I went through it's hard for me to trust anyone enough to share my past with. I can...
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a most excellent way to view the situation. among the things my own experiences down this line provided me with was motivation to get...
Apr 27, 2022
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@Teamwork This sounds like something that would be helpful for me. I read some reviews of it on amazon. One person said it was only...
Apr 27, 2022
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This happened to me. Most people I know get once or twice a week help but i get every 4 weeks. What i did is buy Janina fishers book...
Apr 27, 2022
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Thank you. This means a lot. I'm deciding to look at this as an opportunity to find new help and maybe this new help will be more...
Apr 26, 2022
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Sitting here with you, listening. It sucks feeing alone. You aren’t truly alone, even it it feels that way. Major props for coming here...
Apr 26, 2022
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I've been trying to work with my doctor but she is increasingly harder to see. I've gone a month without seeing her because they were...
Apr 26, 2022
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Of course it can happen, and it is, I think, independent of trauma or not. You aren’t just four letters of a psychiatric acronym. When...
Apr 21, 2022
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What is so magic about cooking for yourself when you are affected? The time it takes? Or the familiar smell of food? Or does it take...
Apr 20, 2022
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It's my understanding that the saying of not comparing one's insides to other's outsides refers to pre-assuming if their life looks...
Apr 19, 2022
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I agree. Comparing yourself to others, especially people without PTSD is generally unhelpful. I was answering the question too, but...
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