SeekingAfrica

Hey everyone. Just wanted to say I'm at least safe, if I can say that, for now. At least until the end of the month/start of next...

You must be very strong! I'm proud of you for doing that and happy you good a good resolution to a situation that shouldn't have...

Not gonna lie, those words are still gonna sting for a while. As a child survivor of SA and then as an adult in way more dangerous such...

@Defaultxlove I'm too tired to answered all but every single word meant a lot and made me cry a LOT. It's definitely relief-crying...

Awe hi SA I quoted a lot and just want to comment if that’s ok. 😔 I get it. Is there some way you can unplug for any length of time...

I haven't gotten to the 'talk' today yet, but I'm crying in waves the way I didn't cry at all the whole week. I finally have some hope...

No, not in the US. It shouldn't be terribly hard to find temporary gig, but I have 1 week to complete deadline on the job I knew I'd get...

How short should short-term goals be?

I can't do it. I have about half of the smaller amount the landlord requested as a loan. I know it would play to my advantage to play...

Let's start with those. My biggest question is, what coping mechanisms I can develop? Are there any examples? I always think I know...

When experiencing a bad flare with a lot of anxiety, adrenaline, and difficulty with decision-making, it can be challenging to focus and...

While I think on those, what strategies can I use to focus more during a bad flare with a lot of anxiety, adrenaline and decision...

Wish that was an option too. I have people around me, but many people are going through things as well. Oh well. Thank you for saying...

Oh, I would like to add a goal! 12. Not get evicted before I have found a place with a roommate

Actually before I broke down I had a list of goals and had a plan for each of them. Then it felt like my life crumbled. So I will share...

Yes, that's a great place to start! Begin by writing down the areas in your life that you feel need the most work or improvement. It's...

Okay then, I will start on identifying some goals and then when I make a list I will come back here so we can make them better SMART...

I understand that you are currently in crisis mode and it is important to address that first and foremost. Developing coping strategies...

Should that be one of the goals, creating coping strategies? Or should I do that before setting other goals? For context I am in crisis...

That's wonderful to hear that you're open to setting goals! Let's start by breaking it down into a few steps: 1. Reflect: Take some...

That sounds great! How do we begin or what do we begin with?

I can understand how frustrating and overwhelming it must feel to have missed certain milestones and be facing challenges with your...

There are certain corner stones in life. Having a car and a home. A spouse. Savings for bad times. Getting out of debt. Working on...

Thank you. I really don't think so, but thank you. I'm holding onto less than a thread, so any word matters I think. Thank you for...

My life feels like jumping from one car crash to another lately. I might survive this without being evicted (no one know before...

I am trying to keep taking steps to control my practical situation, but the amount of stress in the last week has been enormous. Last...

i was mute until early adolescence, cause uncertain. when i consider the possibility that the cause was psychosomatic, the retort which...

I was voiceless until I was 18. Though then came another trauma at 21 that didn't help. So many years since, and there were plenty of...

I feel you there. I was actually unable to work for few years right before covid so I was just coming up for air when it happened. And...

I feel like she has no idea what she's saying when she's mad, and not in a joking 'she's overreacting' way but in general. Like she has...

That makes sense. I will wait to see how she responds to all I wrote today. And also how functional I am tomorrow.

I don't know. Obviously, only you can decide and can weigh up the pros and cons. I guess it depends on how crazy the situation with the...

Great in theory, but what if the day beforehand I tell her and she tells me to be out of the apartment in 24h?

Not much. It's no furniture really, my apartment came furnished. But it is a lot of folders of documents and books and kitchen stuff I...

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through right now. Facing the possibility of eviction can be extremely overwhelming...

Yeah I understand this I’m also here Same right now I feel sick and it sucks so much and I have a lot of important stuff to do as well...

I'm getting evicted in a week if I'm unlucky, a month if I am luckier. I know all the zillion things I have to do, all the reasons I...

As I said. When she wants, no one is more generous than her. She gets mad? You don't want to be in her eyesight. Not at all the person I...

Wow she sounds like a winner ? Following along and saying a prayer for you. Remember to rest breathe..oh and I saw this little clip...

Words are easy. Truth is I can't stop crying. Getting a roommate that can fix this- unlikely. Getting myself in a new place with...

I don't know. What do you say when life is crumbling all around you besides empty words? Do your best, but prepare for the worst...

So I was early to judge the situation. Got a message from my landlord requiring 1/4th of the money I was supposed to have by the end of...

I can totally relate to those feelings! Good luck!

So I had a meeting with my landlord. Went about as well as I expected. Which is not the worst but it's not good either. I am not...

Thanks, that was great advice (that I would have probably resisted allowing myself... working on it). Somehow I missed your comment, I...

geez. . . were you seriously wondering why you're not running at peak performance? that's enough to throw buddha out of balance. cut...

Take a day, and crash. Sleep the clock around, then bust out some stress management (ballet in the bathroom, or 3 fields over out of...

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What are the top 20 freelance work options in 2023? What services can a person provide other than babysitting and pet sitting?

Exploring the impact of secondary trauma, such as PTSD and a breakup, on your current situation can be an important step in the healing...