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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    Thank you everyone for the feed back and support. I'm not doing exceptionally well over all but I'm still behaving like a mostly reasonable adult. I've been very pleasantly surprised with the people that have spoken to me here. You have helped me dealing with this tremendously, truly thank you.
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    I see and even vaguely understand the" now you can breathe" even though at this moment it feels exactly the opposite. I'm struggling to do that even. But she's sick. She needs help. I'm just abandoning her. No one else in her life is going to help her. I know it's not MY responsibility but don't...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    I left this morning, well kicked out. Packed all my things. Same things, the catalyst was missing a tub of chicken salad to go in the refrigerator last night. I came home from the store, made dinner, put up the other refrigerator items, got kids fed and ready for bed. She was taking a bath...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    Yes I link my childhood trauma and my mother's behavior with my girlfriends behaviors. It's that realization and the feelings involved that pushed me to my edge. Vocalizing that and the places fighting in that manner was taking me was one of the first times I was accused of blaming her for her...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    Is there any threads or suggested resources for bringing up these subjects? When I'm not in the middle of my own mental health ( or perhaps because of it) I'm hyper rational and literal which drives her nuts in general and goes very poorly in an episode. As I've said when I try to lay things out...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    Universally everyone seems to be on the same page. Thank you everyone for the support and feed back. Perhaps stupidly I felt obligated to be here for her on what is deemed the most traumatic day of the year. She's been tossing and turning having nightmares all night, I stayed up comforting her...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    Follow up question. My childhood abuse was daily and sustained. I don't have spikes or singular events. Very few things stand out to me. Its part why we are investigating PTSD in my therapy, the feelings of reverting back to that helpless mindset of a scared alone kid. I had always previously...
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    Relationship Please help. Im at a loss - she makes me the target

    I need help. Please. Desperately. This will be a lot of information upfront but I will try and keep it as short as possible. I've been dating an amazing woman for about 7 months now. We started off bumpy to say the least. I wasn't honest with her in first 2 months about my home life. It's...
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