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Mach123's post
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Childhood
COCSA within family
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Hi I want to clarify and say what you described pointed to CSA IMO and you’ve probably experienced it rather than anyone was guilty of...
Wednesday at 3:27 PM
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Everyone should have access to therapy. If it’s a financial issue or you’re uninsured, many practices have interns offering reduced...
Wednesday at 3:27 PM
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Couldn't agree more with everything written here...
Wednesday at 3:26 PM
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I think the key for OP is that you didn't know you were doing harm on your little sister. You didn't understand that harm had been done...
Wednesday at 3:26 PM
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THIS THIS THIS
Wednesday at 3:25 PM
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This is incorrect, as COCSA, or peer on peer abuse, does not need a set age difference. However, when between two younger children of...
Wednesday at 3:24 PM
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Hi @bluemoon_ I agree with @Mach123 that what you describe in your experience is csa... cocsa is not well understood at all...I think...
Wednesday at 3:22 PM
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Hey Mach, Thank you for your kind words! I will be purchasing that book, thank you for the advice. I have searched therapy that helps...
Wednesday at 3:20 PM
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I'm glad that I was able to help! Journaling is something I am definitely going to get into, I didn't know about yoga, thanks for the...
Wednesday at 3:19 PM
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Hi Anthony, Thank you so much for your reply! Typing it and sending it was like a weight lifted of my chest. When you said it was just...
Wednesday at 3:19 PM
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Hi. I want to just say, well done on getting this out of your head. That is step one to helping yourself. I want to quickly comment on...
Wednesday at 3:18 PM
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So I haven't shared this with anyone ever and I'm not sure if anyone will understand or make sense of this but here it goes... At the...
Wednesday at 3:16 PM
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Is this CoCSA? Conflicting info online
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I suspect the reason you're searching for a potential COCSA label is the same reason I went searching when I got stealthed, which before...
Wednesday at 3:12 PM
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I think my friend sexually assaulted me, but I still want to be their friend. Am I being naïve?
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Dump the “friend”. I think you are missing the red flags here.
Mar 14, 2023
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Whilst probably true that they were trying to get out of a restraining grasp, they doesn’t take away that you asked them to stop and...
Mar 13, 2023
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Pfft. No worries. Nor your responsibility for others assumptions, inferences, or anything else. They’re someone in your life. That you...
Mar 13, 2023
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Could you expand on what you mean by red flags? I am a pretty oblivious person when it comes to those. Deadass almost followed a man who...
Mar 13, 2023
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Boundary busting, gaslighting. Not a safe person! Alcohol reduces inhibitions. It doesn't create. Meaning the desire to touch your...
Mar 13, 2023
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LMFAO!!! 🤣 Great catch! I love it when I get surprised by my own bias. Seriously. In case you’re curious why I made that -possibly...
Mar 13, 2023
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How can I get MORE flashbacks?
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I want more flashbacks too. I've only realized this is in me at 42, after 2 decades of working on my mental health. I'm doing IFS so I...
Mar 13, 2023
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Many people share your view. Here's my dilemma: Whatever happened, I was very good at locking it down, and out. The consequence is...
Mar 13, 2023
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Just this year I got people to take me seriously enough for a psych eval. For decades the doctors just ran a few tests and told me to...
Mar 13, 2023
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I find that my nightmares and flashbacks help me in my therapeutic journey as well. I also find that the information becomes available...
Mar 13, 2023
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Actually, it’s textbook. The kind of twist injury + adrenaline in a person grabbing your arm, and falling skiing? Are virtually...
Mar 13, 2023
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yeah, but hard to duplicate. And I don't know that that was the trigger. I injured the wrist in the afternoon, falling and twisting it...
Mar 13, 2023
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For me personally, all of my breakthroughs have been my own making. I'm on my second counselor. She's the same as the first, mostly a...
Mar 13, 2023
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My T didn’t do regression either, it just happened because of the the transference. She knew how to deal with it but she never...
Mar 13, 2023
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Clearly, wrist pain, was one.
Mar 13, 2023
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If you don’t know triggers, you can start with your likes and dislikes. Especially any dislike that seems odd. Look for quirky...
Mar 13, 2023
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I got more flashbacks when I developed a therapeutic relationship with my T. I felt safe enough to trust her and that would lead to...
Mar 13, 2023
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Yeah, this is crazy. People want to get rid of these things. My reaction to childhood SA, PA, CEN was to go hypo -- block or numb...
Mar 13, 2023
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It’s sort of a tightrope walk. For you, it seems that you have discerned that their intentions were not to sexually assault you, but...
Mar 13, 2023
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Why are you assuming K is a woman? For whatever reason, OP was careful to not disclose K’s sex. My take is that this is a dude, and...
Mar 13, 2023
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Agreed. You need someone to bluntly tell you this is not OK. You should want better for yourself.
Mar 13, 2023
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It doesn't matter what gender K is. If someone says no or stop. It's a no and a stop. The person that doesn't stop after being told to...
Mar 13, 2023
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I’m judging here but I read your story and saw more red flags than just your drunken friend’s sexual abuse. If I had my way, you would...
Mar 13, 2023
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It is VERY common for people who've experienced SA to minimize their SA experiences. "It's not as bad as what others have," "second...
Mar 13, 2023
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My partner has been isolating himself - what is the best way to ask about it?
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I am sorry for what you have been through, its never easy. And yes i do have those fear and insecurity which developed from my childhood.
Feb 18, 2023
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still no contact and I've been trying to move on but everything is still haunting me that I wake up with a palpitating heart every...
Feb 18, 2023
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My partner has been isolating himself - what is the best way to ask about it?
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I'm 4yrs+ no contact now and occasionally it will pop into my head that I "owe my narc parent" an explanation. No I f*cking don't!! He...
Feb 18, 2023
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The re-experience of trauma and its endlessness
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You need to talk seriously about how thst affects you. Passion is one thing - acting out anger is another - even if its not toward you...
Feb 18, 2023
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arfie's post
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Something therapist said makes me think that she isn't believing what I wrote
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i'm all too often wrong when i guess at what other people are thinking. my mind reading skills genuinely suck. when i invite other folks...
Feb 4, 2023
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Something therapist said makes me think that she isn't believing what I wrote
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or possibly she's saying that your level of trauma matches the trauma experienced by people who have been trafficked. I could see her...
Feb 4, 2023
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Something therapist said makes me think that she isn't believing what I wrote
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Sounds like maybe she was asking you if you thought you'd been trafficked.
Feb 4, 2023
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I lived most of my life dissociated until I had therapy at age 52. I didn't really know what it was but it helped me through all the...
Feb 4, 2023
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Not unreasonable! I’d say it’s pretty nice that he gave you a response! Often my T wouldn’t respond to my emails at all and then in...
Feb 4, 2023
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Oh the email between sessions thing! Many a page in my diary about this emotional saga! Many T's don't allow email between sessions, or...
Feb 4, 2023
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So I emailed. He said if I email anything he'll have to delete it because of data protection... He was clear about his boundaries...
Feb 4, 2023
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You didn't do anything wrong. You tested a boundary - one I'm not sure you were even aware existed. I guaranteed that therapist has much...
Feb 4, 2023
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I think that is a great thing to say and ask. A T will explore this all with you. And really welcome this conversation. It leads to...
Feb 4, 2023
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