Soleil

Hi Starlight! I've been meaning to respond for forever, but have been super busy getting ready for a move. If your T1 offers both...

Hi Enough. I recently got this article on AARP in my inbox, and you came to mind. 😊 I thought you might find helpful as it discusses...

Was going to say the same as @Freddyt above @Soleil , yes for sure thanks from me. ^^ Oh my, yes, I am and it was/ is. 😊 Cute you said...

Love that. So many time we act in panic that's when things really go wrong. Conscious decision and action are what changes those patterns.

I ran out of edit time (TBI- Uggh). And I couldn't delete either?? Anyway, I wanted to add this: It also takes practice. Some days...

Yes, exactly. I find it especially valuable in moments of conflict. I also might say "I need time to process this. Let's discuss later?"...

Good one—stealing it!

I think that's really wise advice @Soleil . And has the added benefit if in conflict to see how the other person responds or whether...

I haven't read the book mentioned, though my T has mentioned it a few times during our sessions over the years. What I've learned to...

So do modern ones 😁… to the extent of having neurologists &/or physiological psychologists on staff. Some modern programs are more...

my own psychotherapy started in earnest in 1974 with a pretty harsh case of what was then being called, "trauma induced amnesia," that...

cognition uses cellular memory. as an ESL teacher, i incorporate cognitive memory into my lessons by standing and having my students...

Yes like @Movingforward10 said, and remember the connection may not seem obvious at first, +/or the trigger unknown. It's much...

The way I see being triggered and going back to 'back then' is exactly how you describe it. And it totally overwhelms and consumes...

Yes @PreciousChild it does go along with it I think, very much so. To ask (and be able to ask), to trust someone enough and feel...

Helpful information—I was not aware Reality of shame, fear, and hurt? These happen whether the event is current or remembered. The...

Thanks @Rosebud. So trust and stop. I do think I've healed a lot from having my boyfriend give me what I need in this, concrete reality...

I saw this and thought on it, because it's instictive to say ground and reason logically. But because it's also so emotional, one thinks...

Today I ate two meals.

Today I ate three meals and two snacks.

Breakfast and pills done.

I had breakfast yesterday. Had breakfast today.

Mod Note : I’ve edited your thread title to reflect that 🙂

Thanks everyone. So just to clarify, the therapist (let's call her therapist 1) I feel a heart connection with has just completed the...

Ate yesterday but it was all wrong, which is another issue. I guess it’s good to know what’s right for me and that I know how to get...

I feel like it's because they are so layered and enmeshed with how we've learned to relate to others...Often it seems these toxic core...

I opine that the task of resetting negative core beliefs would have brought hercules to his knees. he had far more brawn than brain...

It takes time to recognise traits and bad behaviours and adapt to better one's. Some people never even get to the point of recognising...

It can get easier. Recognising that it is a narrative that you can change, is already a massive step forward. It's undoing a lifetime...

Why does it feel like a herculean task to reset negative core beliefs? My husband calls it “hacking my brain” so I can learn a healthier...

Learn the words "Is that reasonable and then is that true?" when you hear someone tell you something about yourself that you don't want...

I really do think narcissistic traits are normal and in many aspects, healthy. Thinking you're right by default, as long as you haven't...

The doctor who was laying this out was (I think) espousing a theory of NPD's origins, and it's not necessarily accurate. It sort of...

Your whole post describes my dysfunctional family as well. I have ONE aunt (of four) that reaches out to me. The rest? I must make the...

I thought I had overcome my familial relationship issues and set the proper boundaries for myself. But it seems this is a process that...

Therapy has helped me to learn healthy (and helpful!) Coping mechanisms. I'm almost 5yrs after the accident resulting in a TBI that...

hello eh. welcome to the forum. there are tons of healthy coping mechanisms. something for every taste, need and personality type. have...

I am so sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine how painful this is for you. I guess when I was able to turn myself around is when...

It's hard to tell what exact type of coping mechanism you are asking for. Is it to replace drugs, partying, and casual sex? One thing...

Neuroscientists have been studying the formation of fear memories in the emotional hub of the brain -- the amygdala -- and think they...

Took three conversations with myself but I finally ate breakfast.

Ate today . But… Not in the way I’ve been striving toward . No structure . Bit of regression. But also stressful busy work day—so...

I too, went looking for an EMDR therapist specifically. He also does CBT and others. What worked for me was: 1. Google (location) EMDR...

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I need to choose a therapist soon - I have really bad PTSD from a shock a year ago as well as loads of trauma...

I am eating again today, I'm surprised but glad I tried.

Eating a snack

Go you!! 👏😁💕

Skipped lunch but managed dinner.

Ate.

Go you!! 👏😁💕