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The other day I actually contemplated splashing cold water on my face because I knew it would help and longed for it, but I was...

I've tried several different "coping strategies" over the years, and the one that has worked always, and with the least amount of...

^^ I think the remedy is similar to the post above. Except without thinking so much. First the recognition, then the mental STOP sign...

I totally agree with this. For the longest time, no matter how many times I ran through it with my T, I always had doubts that I...

Yup, it sure as hell is about small victories. It's difficult because it's an automated response. The response meant to save your life...

I hear ya 😃 As always hearing confirmation in another place (this forum) keeps me focused on the long game not the short.

yes and no. Lots of traumas to process, so I had to REALLY lower my expectations for what recovery would look like. If I track success...

You need to set some boundaries to take care of yourself, too. Gentle support as you find your way.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. A partner who is stubbornly resistant to treatment and/or untreated PTSD in the household is...

I am so sorry your family is having to endure the fallout from this insidious illness. You can only do so much to make your home safe...

This is my first time posting to any type of support group. My husband has CPTSD, officially diagnosed about two years ago. In...

Understood. You're not alone. 45yrs for me too. Cptsd too. Good for you to say "not...as yet." 😁 👍 💪 Reflects your understanding that...

No I have not got past it in therapy as yet. Both traumas (that we know of) were complex so there is a lot to deal with and...

Did EMDR not help you with the ptsd symptoms (primarily tricksy, fearful thoughts) you mentioned? There were a couple of times for me...

Yes just as the others have said @ColinKevin wrestling, accepting, relinquishing, integrating, living with the awareness of why but...

Yup. Is what you "feel" real or is it being manipulated to feel negative by your perception? Space to sort it out and think is so...

It came to me to add something, but I missed the edit. ^^ I think part of it is trusting the process. And part of the process is not...

Thank you so much… In my latest session my legs started shaking uncontrollably for almost an hour and I’m told that’s natural and my...

I suspect it's because you processed *intellectually* during CBT rather than *emotionally.* And/or you've only addressed the tip of the...

Lurking darkness update: a massive lynchpin moment during childhood was processed during EMDR. Leaving them to recover right now, but...

You are all such inspirational people! It’s amazing to think that so many of us go through such horrid things, and yet we have this...

Fair warning… it’s not just EMDR… ANY kind of trauma therapy will cause an uptick in symptoms. How long those upticks last for? Varies...

Thank you @Freida for your words of wisdom - I really appreciate it. I had a single event trauma but i disassociated from it...

Hi, @Njay. For recuperation, I agree with @Freida that rest is really good. What I've found though is that it's helpful to figure...

I haven't done Emdr, but I would say processing is brutal. There is for me a perception of negative lurking, but not if it's not...

The trauma lottery 😐, keep on staying with it. You are inspirational 💪

Omg, I LOVE this perspective! Thanks! 😊💕 Yeah, I'm in year 5 too. Because of many traumas, and new traumas created because of the...

rest. Yep - that's pretty much the best thing you can do. I actually block it out on my calendar. If I can't take the whole day off I...

I’ve just started EMDR and have really struggled after my second session - lots of anxiety and mixed emotions, mainly sadness. Do you...

I have not experienced EMDR, but I have experienced neurogenesis (which is what EMDR also does via bilateral pathway stimulation). I...

every experience in life changes the entire equation of life. most changes are so subtle that we don't notice until the changes...

Great analogy of the broken bone, I wonder whether this explains the feeling they report of not being the same as they were.

No worries! ☺️

OMG I did the same thing! T said "it might take a couple of years to get you thru this" and I responded "I don't have that kind of time...

Yup, I was the same. Read it should take 20-30 sessions of EMDR to clear it up so should take a year or so right? Then trauma 1...

Good for you for getting your own therapist! Proud of you! Sooo many people think that going to a therapist is weakness, when it's...

So much info here! I have read it and continue to process it. Thank you so much for your time Wrestling has definitely been going on...

There is a pdf file available for their training. It is about 120 pages long. For some reason I couldn't get to it on their site so I...

I think people can get value out of the book which is substantially cheaper...

I think, paraphrasing a quote from Steve Jobs and to his credit, it's impossible to connect the dots forward but easier to see them...

Oh hell yes!!!! EMDR can f*^% you up. That feeling of something seismic lurking???? So PTSD puts you at about 5-6 on the SUDS scale...

Yep. Think of it this way - you are using emdr to dig up all the crap you hid from yourself to keep going. So feeling like the world...

wellll.... you're going to hate this answer but... It takes as long as it takes. I know, I can feel you cringing! Short answer -...

I didn't go through that because my T ALWAYS makes sure we end on a good note. And if it were a rough one, we'd go over session a few...

Always willing but sometimes it's, I guess, indefinable. Especially when it's having an impact and they are losing old unhelpful ways of...

There is Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA) ASCA Support They offer training to become a group leader. There is no pay. There is...

It's like that old saying - the left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing - with PTSD you don't know what either hand is doing...

It takes you 45 years to figure out that's what your flashbacks look like...... Every time you have a dream about anything near your...

You see contacts in your phone like who is this .who is that...who is Dawn???!!

......when someone else suffers a similar trauma to you and you're mentally and physically screwed for days .......when 2.30am is no...