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How to choose a therapist - EMDR & very effective body based therapies -or- EMDR & integrative / relational counseling
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Hi Starlight! I've been meaning to respond for forever, but have been super busy getting ready for a move. If your T1 offers both...
Friday at 12:11 PM
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The End Game
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Hi Enough. I recently got this article on AARP in my inbox, and you came to mind. 😊 I thought you might find helpful as it discusses...
Friday at 11:31 AM
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Was going to say the same as @Freddyt above @Soleil , yes for sure thanks from me. ^^ Oh my, yes, I am and it was/ is. 😊 Cute you said...
Jun 9, 2022
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Love that. So many time we act in panic that's when things really go wrong. Conscious decision and action are what changes those patterns.
Jun 8, 2022
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I ran out of edit time (TBI- Uggh). And I couldn't delete either?? Anyway, I wanted to add this: It also takes practice. Some days...
Jun 8, 2022
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Yes, exactly. I find it especially valuable in moments of conflict. I also might say "I need time to process this. Let's discuss later?"...
Jun 8, 2022
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Good one—stealing it!
Jun 8, 2022
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I think that's really wise advice @Soleil . And has the added benefit if in conflict to see how the other person responds or whether...
Jun 8, 2022
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I haven't read the book mentioned, though my T has mentioned it a few times during our sessions over the years. What I've learned to...
Jun 7, 2022
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So do modern ones 😁… to the extent of having neurologists &/or physiological psychologists on staff. Some modern programs are more...
Jun 7, 2022
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my own psychotherapy started in earnest in 1974 with a pretty harsh case of what was then being called, "trauma induced amnesia," that...
Jun 7, 2022
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cognition uses cellular memory. as an ESL teacher, i incorporate cognitive memory into my lessons by standing and having my students...
Jun 7, 2022
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Yes like @Movingforward10 said, and remember the connection may not seem obvious at first, +/or the trigger unknown. It's much...
Jun 7, 2022
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The way I see being triggered and going back to 'back then' is exactly how you describe it. And it totally overwhelms and consumes...
Jun 7, 2022
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Yes @PreciousChild it does go along with it I think, very much so. To ask (and be able to ask), to trust someone enough and feel...
Jun 7, 2022
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Helpful information—I was not aware Reality of shame, fear, and hurt? These happen whether the event is current or remembered. The...
Jun 7, 2022
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Thanks @Rosebud. So trust and stop. I do think I've healed a lot from having my boyfriend give me what I need in this, concrete reality...
Jun 7, 2022
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I saw this and thought on it, because it's instictive to say ground and reason logically. But because it's also so emotional, one thinks...
Jun 7, 2022
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Today I ate two meals.
Jun 5, 2022
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Today I ate three meals and two snacks.
Jun 5, 2022
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Breakfast and pills done.
Jun 5, 2022
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I had breakfast yesterday. Had breakfast today.
Jun 5, 2022
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Mod Note : I’ve edited your thread title to reflect that 🙂
Jun 3, 2022
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Thanks everyone. So just to clarify, the therapist (let's call her therapist 1) I feel a heart connection with has just completed the...
Jun 3, 2022
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Ate yesterday but it was all wrong, which is another issue. I guess it’s good to know what’s right for me and that I know how to get...
Jun 3, 2022
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I feel like it's because they are so layered and enmeshed with how we've learned to relate to others...Often it seems these toxic core...
Jun 3, 2022
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I opine that the task of resetting negative core beliefs would have brought hercules to his knees. he had far more brawn than brain...
Jun 3, 2022
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It takes time to recognise traits and bad behaviours and adapt to better one's. Some people never even get to the point of recognising...
Jun 3, 2022
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It can get easier. Recognising that it is a narrative that you can change, is already a massive step forward. It's undoing a lifetime...
Jun 3, 2022
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Why does it feel like a herculean task to reset negative core beliefs? My husband calls it “hacking my brain” so I can learn a healthier...
Jun 3, 2022
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Learn the words "Is that reasonable and then is that true?" when you hear someone tell you something about yourself that you don't want...
Jun 3, 2022
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I really do think narcissistic traits are normal and in many aspects, healthy. Thinking you're right by default, as long as you haven't...
Jun 3, 2022
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The doctor who was laying this out was (I think) espousing a theory of NPD's origins, and it's not necessarily accurate. It sort of...
Jun 3, 2022
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Your whole post describes my dysfunctional family as well. I have ONE aunt (of four) that reaches out to me. The rest? I must make the...
Jun 3, 2022
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I thought I had overcome my familial relationship issues and set the proper boundaries for myself. But it seems this is a process that...
Jun 3, 2022
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Therapy has helped me to learn healthy (and helpful!) Coping mechanisms. I'm almost 5yrs after the accident resulting in a TBI that...
Jun 2, 2022
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hello eh. welcome to the forum. there are tons of healthy coping mechanisms. something for every taste, need and personality type. have...
Jun 2, 2022
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I am so sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine how painful this is for you. I guess when I was able to turn myself around is when...
Jun 2, 2022
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It's hard to tell what exact type of coping mechanism you are asking for. Is it to replace drugs, partying, and casual sex? One thing...
Jun 2, 2022
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Neuroscientists have been studying the formation of fear memories in the emotional hub of the brain -- the amygdala -- and think they...
Jun 2, 2022
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Took three conversations with myself but I finally ate breakfast.
Jun 2, 2022
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Ate today . But… Not in the way I’ve been striving toward . No structure . Bit of regression. But also stressful busy work day—so...
Jun 2, 2022
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I too, went looking for an EMDR therapist specifically. He also does CBT and others. What worked for me was: 1. Google (location) EMDR...
Jun 2, 2022
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Hi everyone, I'm new here. I need to choose a therapist soon - I have really bad PTSD from a shock a year ago as well as loads of trauma...
Jun 2, 2022
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I am eating again today, I'm surprised but glad I tried.
Jun 1, 2022
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Eating a snack
Jun 1, 2022
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Go you!! 👏😁💕
Jun 1, 2022
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Skipped lunch but managed dinner.
Jun 1, 2022
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Ate.
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Go you!! 👏😁💕
Jun 1, 2022
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