Suddenly_Support

Don’t pressure yourself to be the perfect girlfriend. You will never be able to do everything right, or help him by doing x,y,z. It...

That makes complete sense! Thank you so much. Day by day is my outlook :) It will be taxing at times I am sure, but isn't every...

Thank you!! This means a lot to me, because he would say things like "You're overthinking this. And to be honest, I probably was! I am...

Although I can see that you are trying very hard to help anyway you can and that is awesome. Just be careful to not take triggers on as...

I meant to help him by understanding what it IS, s I had no idea until I started looking into it, and how I need to act, and help.... by...

Hey… at least he told her. Mine told me pretty soon in the “getting to know you” phase too. It’s not the finding out they have PTSD...

I'm surprised he told you he has ptsd so early in a "relationship". It usually takes time to build trust. J and I had a history...

I think this is good. Though, someone not talking to you for, what has to be a few days if you are only been dating a week but correct...

This..... When things are bad like they are for me now, sleep is a problem. It (my brain) is stuck in hyper alert mode cuz of a trigger...

Man, I WISH my sufferer had just laid it out for me. Instead, I spent 7 years thinking that he just had no interest in doing anything...

In your mind the relationship is a priority. In his, he’s just trying to get by. We use a few analogies to explain this to newer...

Essentially I used Most of how I helped my wife thru ptsd issues came from attachment theory, especially the concepts of safe haven and...

I told you I would share with you when the time came --- so here we go . here's what I'm thinking. I hate you all! I hate my...

@Sweetpea76 yes!!!!! That is what took me so long to get. Is this what is meant by not taking things personally? If so, I’m finally...

I have only been dating someone with PTSD for a week, and he stopped talking a few days ago. This thread has made so many things clear...

@SheilaKathy and @Freida. I agree. When J is in PTSD mode i don't pry. He'll share when he's ready. I never ask about his trauma's...

I have to say, reading from supporters and sufferers who have been in LTRs and long marriages, this is so helpful for people like me who...

You address his needs when you're in a better place. After an "episode" we both feel like shit. He always asks me "are you okay"? (so...

breathe... ok. ...it's over for now. Well that was a sucky few hours. @leehalf Yep - hes here. Currently he's hiding outside putting...

I think the hardest thing for a supporter to grasp is "he/she isn't running from ME, he/she is just running". In any other relationship...

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