Sweetpea76

You think people are giving up? It is more difficult and more loving to accept reality and let somebody go when they tell you their...

You get to the point where you realize that you *have* to stop the madness. You have to set those boundaries. Does it sound like a good...

I know I fell in love with him before he let me see the PTSD. Believe it or not, I think that’s true for most supporters. We don’t...

I’m sorry @Bootstrap … that sucks. Death by a thousand papercuts

@enough - just wanted to say that your post above ^^^ strikes me as about as neutral an assessment as one could give, for a situation...

I took it wrong and I missed a valuable point. Got it now, will reflect on it going forward. @gumshoe asked what the relationship...

Too true. There’s a lot of straight up PTSD assholery There’s also trauma specific trending. Like not handling other people’s totally...

You all have to understand it not just a rapist thing… supporters are a stand in generally. I get demonized but my vet with Combat PTSD...

Emotional numbing is a symptom of PTSD, and sometimes somebody is just not healthy enough for a relationship. It has nothing do with...

One of the first things long term supporters have to give up is the idea that we can help or fix. You cannot love the PTSD out of somebody.

@enough you need to keep in mind you are in the supporter section. This isn’t the place to come and get offended by reasonable questions.

Transference & being triggered (both versions of thinking of you as an offender), lashing out at you, distancing from you, not trusting...

Thank you for that. I spoke to my dad today and told him I don’t want to give up on her. She is a strong woman who went through hell and...

I don’t think that is true. A lot of us have close and/or romantic relationships with sufferers. My partner has severe Combat PTSD, and...

Don't let people with severe and chronic mental illness dictate how "YOU" should live your life. Your an adult and you can say No I'm...

Here’s the deal. *You* are not in charge of her mental health. *You* are not “triggering” her. *She* is being triggered. She is the one...

Your mom is mentally ill and you are an adult. You do not need her permission to have a relationship with your half sister. You also do...

At this point in time he can blow his PTSD straight out his ass. I’m on a coffee break for the rest of the weekend.

I'm so f*cking sick of this. I get it ok?????? I get that u have this f*cking injury to the brain and so it's always got to be ME to...

May as well say what you need to say at this point.

My next conversation with her is going to be about me bringing up the ptsd is marriage counseling. Marriage counseling is for both...

Ain’t it a bitch when they know everything? It must be exhausting.

I refuse to climb Mount Molehill, today. I refuse to apologize for what you’ve decided my motivations were, when I know what my...

Have you met with your attorney yet? This is a matter for your separation agreement. You have a say in the daycare situation. She...

You can't do anything to help her. Only she can help herself. Unfortunately with PTSD, that can take years and even never. Your...

That is PTSD. You thought it was about telling a therapist in a private session about her PTSD. She is in meltdown. Nothing you say or...

That the due diligence… but be prepared to be “controlling/abusive” for pointing out the obvious. Stay calm, and don’t escalate or...

Don't look for reasons... the reason is PTSD based on what you're writing here.

Just got finished with another session with the marriage counselor by myself. He did say that I need to speak to my wife about that the...

@Portlander all the hypervig is part of PTSD. That’s an actual symptom. I think what @MnM was saying is that in their experience...

That boundary was never discussed. I felt that the past trauma and ptsd was affecting our relationship. I still see the marriage...

My question is this… was it a boundary that was known? Was the PTSD to never be discussed and was that communicated? Because if you...

OPs partner is diagnosed and in therapy from what he’s written. This is the first time she’s has been noticeably symptomatic and/or...

I get it. Only you can decide when you’re actually done-done wanting to be with her. It’s a heartbreaker, for sure. Divorce sucks...

Well the good news is that not everybody with trauma gets PTSD. Only a certain percentage of people get PTSD from a specific type of...

There’s no way to know how long a triggered or symptomatic state will last, especially if this is her first one. With my partner I’ve...

You aren’t going to be able to make his life better. We as supporters cannot fix or help with our partners’ PTSD, which sucks, because...

Good for you. Stay strong and protect the kids. If she is triggered and feeling unsafe she is probably projecting...

I’m not sure how stable she is right now. She somehow made the leap to me wanting to be in control of everything, and that makes...

If she thinks you’re trying to control her then let her do her own thing and handle the repercussions that come with that. That does NOT...

It’s a learning curve. Like you said, to people without PTSD it makes zero sense. There is no way that we will ever know what’s going...

I believe this is her first triggered event in our relationship. It’s extremely difficult for someone who doesn’t suffer from ptsd to...

If she’s contacting attorneys, then I’d stop worrying about her and start protecting yourself. Legal/Financial actions trump worrying...

Yeah… that makes total sense 🙄 Honestly, this sounds like PTSD shit-talk. It sounds horrid, but when my partner talks nonsensical...

Honestly, there is no telling how long it’s going to take. Everybody is different. You’ll start to notice your wife’s particular...

Yep… trust. That’s another self-preservation thing. They’ve been traumatized by other people, and they’re waiting for you to traumatize...

And that is also why most long term supporters have a boundary about their partner actively working on their PTSD. It’s one thing to act...

I would just let the storm blow itself out honestly. It’s all talk until she takes actual action. That’s another thing that sucks...

I know I’m not perfect, and I’m sure I have irritating habits and legitimate flaws, but I’m not a horrible person. Sometimes you to tell...

You just exactly described what I’m going through! “Designated asshole”…. That’s what I feel like these days, lashing out for no...