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Sweetpea76
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When it's time to leave
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If she reacts to stressors by being horrible to you, then yes. Bad behaviors. The stress is the symptom, she makes the choice in how she...
Today at 6:26 PM
Sweetpea76
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A question for anyone having to live with CPTSD
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We don’t always get closure. Sometimes we just have to make peace with ourselves. Why did she lash out, threaten, and make false...
Today at 2:20 PM
Sweetpea76
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When it's time to leave
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Unless you know her specific triggers and are purposely exposing her to them you are not triggering her. She is being triggered. It’s...
Today at 2:12 PM
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That’s because it’s still “her” whether she’s being lovely or venomous. Only people on the outside make the distinction between “them”...
Today at 2:09 PM
Sweetpea76
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When it's time to leave
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It’s her. She’s not possessed by a devil. This is her, reacting to PTSD symptoms. Feeling like she’s “somebody else” or “a captive of...
Today at 12:11 AM
Sweetpea76
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A question for anyone having to live with CPTSD
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Because she is being an asshole? That’s always a possibility. Not everything is PTSD, some of it is just plain old personality traits.
Today at 12:07 AM
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Might stand a chance of dislodging their heads at the same time. 2 birds? 1 stone.
Today at 12:04 AM
Sweetpea76
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How not to blame yourself
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You are not toxic just because she says you are. Don’t get sucked into her bullshit. Projection is a thing.
Tuesday at 8:54 PM
Sweetpea76
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Methinks they need to blow it out their ass sideways and at high velocity.
Tuesday at 8:51 PM
Sweetpea76
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Welp, that sounds familiar. I love getting my own feelings mansplained to me.
Saturday at 10:33 PM
Sweetpea76
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When it's time to leave
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Not everything has to be PTSD. You’re a forgiving, empathetic, easy target. She could just be being a self centered ass taking advantage...
Friday at 12:03 AM
Sweetpea76
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When it's time to leave
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Empathy is one thing… allowing her to destroy your life with criminal charges over some nonsense is something else. She is not stable...
Mar 23, 2023
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I don't want to but I feel like I have to make the hardest decision of my life
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I have had to learn to stop taking things personally. He is sick. I do not manufacture drama. I do not feel the need to defend myself...
Mar 19, 2023
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I don't want to but I feel like I have to make the hardest decision of my life
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Bluntness comes from over a decade of dealing with a partner with PTSD. You have to protect your own mental health. It’s too easy to get...
Mar 19, 2023
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I don't want to but I feel like I have to make the hardest decision of my life
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Supporter here. You are not responsible for her mental health. You cannot fix or do anything to make her better. You cannot do or say...
Mar 17, 2023
Sweetpea76
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My girlfriend left me after 3.5 years not able to cope up and detach
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Does your ex girlfriend have PTSD?
Mar 5, 2023
Sweetpea76
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I hate the “what-if” game… never, ever let yourself go there. Damn, I’m glad we weren’t together before Iraq, because then I’d *know*...
Mar 3, 2023
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My girlfriend was sexually abused
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Thank you all. I broke up with her. She said that what she was hiding from me was that she stole those items from a different store and...
Feb 25, 2023
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My girlfriend was sexually abused
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You just started dating an addict who can’t hold a job, who shoplifts and needs you to support her? I’d say PTSD and misunderstandings...
Feb 20, 2023
Sweetpea76
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It sucks to be the target just because you are the “safe person.”
Feb 18, 2023
Sweetpea76
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Girlfriend has ptsd
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Yeah…. She needs to figure her money out. You cannot be the bank for two households.
Feb 12, 2023
Sweetpea76
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No contact in 3 weeks
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Amen. The right person will respect your boundaries and work at the relationship even if they’re not doing well all the time. If they...
Feb 12, 2023
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If you need MORE contact than every three weeks? f*ck, yes. Contact her. Or? Break up with her and go sleep with someone else or three...
Feb 12, 2023
Sweetpea76
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No contact in 3 weeks
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It sucks. The first time he bailed I was frantic. That’s when I had to set my boundaries.
Feb 11, 2023
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That’s usually a tip off to how he’s feeling… he generally isn’t a raging asshole. The worse he feels, the bigger the asshole.
Feb 11, 2023
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Maybe it’s the side-effects of being in a PTSD relationship for this long, but I’m mostly numb to insensitive comments. He only says the...
Feb 11, 2023
Sweetpea76
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No contact in 3 weeks
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I let him contact me… with him knowing my boundaries. If he wants to be in a relationship with me he can’t just go radio-silence for...
Feb 11, 2023
Sweetpea76
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No contact in 3 weeks
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I’d have a good think and decide how long you’re willing to feel like this. You’re allowed your boundaries too.
Feb 5, 2023
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partner inpatient; advice and support sought
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Trauma therapy sucks. It’s not like other therapies where talking it out is cathartic and makes people feel better. It’s horrid and...
Feb 3, 2023
Sweetpea76
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No contact in 3 weeks
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There is not much you can do. Isolation sucks for partners. I’m sorry you’re hurting. If it helps, I look at giving my partner space...
Feb 3, 2023
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Partner projects others past actions on me how do I handle this and how to react
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There is not much that you can do, except to be consistent. Do what you say, say what you mean, and hope you can win trust. I think when...
Jan 31, 2023
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It can be at times. I’ve mostly gotten to the point where I don’t take it personally. However I still have my moments where he wears me...
Jan 30, 2023
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That’s typical. Mine has combat PTSD and he still doesn’t trust me as far as he can kick me. It’s better than it was a decade ago, but I...
Jan 29, 2023
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So before my partner pulled away she always expected me to act the same way as her abusers in the past even after months of me showing...
Jan 29, 2023
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How do you forgive your partner cheated on you?
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There are two types of people. People who think cheating is justifiable, and people who think it’s wrong. She doesn’t think it’s wrong...
Jan 28, 2023
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Anywhere from a few hours to a few years. I have no problem remaining friends with someone who needs to take a few years to clear their...
Jan 26, 2023
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My partner has been isolating himself - what is the best way to ask about it?
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Maybe he's a jerk with ptsd.
Jan 17, 2023
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Thanks for your reply. No she hasn’t had a diagnosis and she would say she is just fine. She did share with me the other day that...
Jan 17, 2023
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Sometimes a well-timed “blow it out your ass” does wonders… just saying.
Jan 11, 2023
Sweetpea76
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She has said will go to therapy for my sake…
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Your feelings are just as valid as hers, even if you’re the “healthy” one. She cheated and there is not an excuse…she felt “safe” so she...
Jan 11, 2023
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Foreshortened future
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That’s a good question… one I’d like to know the answer to as well.
Jan 8, 2023
Sweetpea76
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Husband is dealing with his PTSD by long motorbike rides and spending nights away at his mates house
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My vet indulges in motorcycle therapy too. I used to worry about his safety with speed/risk taking, but he’s a competent rider and...
Jan 1, 2023
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Any experiences with VA inpatient PTSD treatment programs?
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That’s his ex, not him. Ex drama, especially with kids, is exhausting. Don’t feed into it. Seriously. She wants drama and attention. If...
Jan 1, 2023
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Thank you. I’m absolutely terrified. We are getting married and I’ve asked him if he wants to postpone the wedding and he asked why, and...
Jan 1, 2023
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How to be supportive in a way the counts
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Girl, that only happens in fairy tales. Mental illness is very much a reality, and PTSD is not romantic in the least little bit. These...
Jan 1, 2023
Sweetpea76
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Any experiences with VA inpatient PTSD treatment programs?
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Group and individual therapy, medication adjustments, different treatment opportunities… it’s a place where they can concentrate on...
Jan 1, 2023
Sweetpea76
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Any experiences with VA inpatient PTSD treatment programs?
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Don’t panic. Sometimes the inpatient treatment is the best thing. My vet had 6 months inpatient before we started dating. He needed...
Dec 31, 2022
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