Sweetpea76

If she reacts to stressors by being horrible to you, then yes. Bad behaviors. The stress is the symptom, she makes the choice in how she...

We don’t always get closure. Sometimes we just have to make peace with ourselves. Why did she lash out, threaten, and make false...

Unless you know her specific triggers and are purposely exposing her to them you are not triggering her. She is being triggered. It’s...

That’s because it’s still “her” whether she’s being lovely or venomous. Only people on the outside make the distinction between “them”...

It’s her. She’s not possessed by a devil. This is her, reacting to PTSD symptoms. Feeling like she’s “somebody else” or “a captive of...

Because she is being an asshole? That’s always a possibility. Not everything is PTSD, some of it is just plain old personality traits.

Might stand a chance of dislodging their heads at the same time. 2 birds? 1 stone.

You are not toxic just because she says you are. Don’t get sucked into her bullshit. Projection is a thing.

Methinks they need to blow it out their ass sideways and at high velocity.

Welp, that sounds familiar. I love getting my own feelings mansplained to me.

Not everything has to be PTSD. You’re a forgiving, empathetic, easy target. She could just be being a self centered ass taking advantage...

Empathy is one thing… allowing her to destroy your life with criminal charges over some nonsense is something else. She is not stable...

I have had to learn to stop taking things personally. He is sick. I do not manufacture drama. I do not feel the need to defend myself...

Bluntness comes from over a decade of dealing with a partner with PTSD. You have to protect your own mental health. It’s too easy to get...

Supporter here. You are not responsible for her mental health. You cannot fix or do anything to make her better. You cannot do or say...

Does your ex girlfriend have PTSD?

I hate the “what-if” game… never, ever let yourself go there. Damn, I’m glad we weren’t together before Iraq, because then I’d *know*...

Thank you all. I broke up with her. She said that what she was hiding from me was that she stole those items from a different store and...

You just started dating an addict who can’t hold a job, who shoplifts and needs you to support her? I’d say PTSD and misunderstandings...

It sucks to be the target just because you are the “safe person.”

Yeah…. She needs to figure her money out. You cannot be the bank for two households.

Amen. The right person will respect your boundaries and work at the relationship even if they’re not doing well all the time. If they...

If you need MORE contact than every three weeks? f*ck, yes. Contact her. Or? Break up with her and go sleep with someone else or three...

It sucks. The first time he bailed I was frantic. That’s when I had to set my boundaries.

That’s usually a tip off to how he’s feeling… he generally isn’t a raging asshole. The worse he feels, the bigger the asshole.

Maybe it’s the side-effects of being in a PTSD relationship for this long, but I’m mostly numb to insensitive comments. He only says the...

I let him contact me… with him knowing my boundaries. If he wants to be in a relationship with me he can’t just go radio-silence for...

I’d have a good think and decide how long you’re willing to feel like this. You’re allowed your boundaries too.

Trauma therapy sucks. It’s not like other therapies where talking it out is cathartic and makes people feel better. It’s horrid and...

There is not much you can do. Isolation sucks for partners. I’m sorry you’re hurting. If it helps, I look at giving my partner space...

There is not much that you can do, except to be consistent. Do what you say, say what you mean, and hope you can win trust. I think when...

It can be at times. I’ve mostly gotten to the point where I don’t take it personally. However I still have my moments where he wears me...

That’s typical. Mine has combat PTSD and he still doesn’t trust me as far as he can kick me. It’s better than it was a decade ago, but I...

So before my partner pulled away she always expected me to act the same way as her abusers in the past even after months of me showing...

There are two types of people. People who think cheating is justifiable, and people who think it’s wrong. She doesn’t think it’s wrong...

Anywhere from a few hours to a few years. I have no problem remaining friends with someone who needs to take a few years to clear their...

Maybe he's a jerk with ptsd.

Thanks for your reply. No she hasn’t had a diagnosis and she would say she is just fine. She did share with me the other day that...

Sometimes a well-timed “blow it out your ass” does wonders… just saying.

Your feelings are just as valid as hers, even if you’re the “healthy” one. She cheated and there is not an excuse…she felt “safe” so she...

That’s a good question… one I’d like to know the answer to as well.

My vet indulges in motorcycle therapy too. I used to worry about his safety with speed/risk taking, but he’s a competent rider and...

That’s his ex, not him. Ex drama, especially with kids, is exhausting. Don’t feed into it. Seriously. She wants drama and attention. If...

Thank you. I’m absolutely terrified. We are getting married and I’ve asked him if he wants to postpone the wedding and he asked why, and...

Girl, that only happens in fairy tales. Mental illness is very much a reality, and PTSD is not romantic in the least little bit. These...

Group and individual therapy, medication adjustments, different treatment opportunities… it’s a place where they can concentrate on...

Don’t panic. Sometimes the inpatient treatment is the best thing. My vet had 6 months inpatient before we started dating. He needed...