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Sweetpea76
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Relationship
pfff!!! Gf left . i am ok, but in a world of confusion, and IDK...
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At this point in time you cannot be responsible for her. You’re not going to be able to help her or fix anything. She is either going to...
May 13, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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Isolation is the worst… at least when they’re lashing out you know where they’re at.
May 9, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Accidentally triggered my "girlfriend" PTSD. I'm a bit of shocked
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Sometimes it’s like walking through a field of rakes blindfolded. You’re eventually gonna get smacked in the face.
May 8, 2022
Sweetpea76
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My boyfriend disappeared
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Consider the bullet dodged… grieve, and concentrate on yourself. Cheating is not a symptom of PTSD, it’s a choice he made.
May 6, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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It’s crazy making. I have stupid things I cannot do either. I didn’t even realize he was conditioning me.
May 5, 2022
Sweetpea76
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My boyfriend disappeared
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It’s crazy-making. This is why you’ll see us in the supporter forum telling supporters to take care of themselves and not to let their...
May 4, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Loneliness
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It sucks sometimes, no doubt.
May 4, 2022
Sweetpea76
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My boyfriend disappeared
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The dropping off the face of the Earth thing is horrid, and it’s not fair. That sucks. I had to put my foot down about that early on…...
Apr 30, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Ouch
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Yard sale/Goodwill plates hurled at the back of the shed + a cigarette = bliss. I get it. You’re allowed to be pissed off and hurt...
Apr 30, 2022
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Fantastic point. I do find myself weirdly more angry this morning than I expected. I'm angry because I absolutely KNOW this whole...
Apr 30, 2022
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Sorry for being ambiguous. But sometimes, when the anger just comes out of no where, I don't know what to do. It's like I want to beg...
Apr 30, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Ex told me yesterday she has CPTSD and I’m abusing her.
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What kind of help? All we can do is give advice. You have to help yourself.
Apr 24, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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It’s frustrating as a caretaker/supporter to put more effort into somebody than they do themselves… at least the “trying” part. At least...
Apr 24, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Wife needs advise please help me
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It’s hard to decide what is symptomatic bluster and what is true. Protect yourself first, then worry about him second.
Apr 22, 2022
Sweetpea76
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GF with PTSD broke up with me and she said it has nothing to do with our relationship
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Unfortunately, sometimes that’s all that can be done. We can’t love them better or make them be healthy enough to be in a relationship...
Apr 22, 2022
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1. Hire an attorney. Family law. Have them walk you through what’s legal, what’s not, & what your options are. This may be a temporary...
Apr 22, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Accidentally triggered my "girlfriend" PTSD. I'm a bit of shocked
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@EveHarrington he did not diagnose her, he said he suspects… in fact he specifically said he does not know if she has PTSD and she did...
Apr 22, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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Boundaries are what will save your sanity as a supporter. They don’t have to be all or nothing, as in the end of the relationship...
Apr 21, 2022
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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Not on the supporter side, but I was in a codependent marriage with children and extended family and a mortgage. I thought my only way...
Apr 18, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Accidentally triggered my "girlfriend" PTSD. I'm a bit of shocked
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You did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. You didn’t trigger her. *She* was triggered by something...
Apr 17, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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I would argue that those people aren’t real supporters then. I do get that the fear is real to sufferers. “You” (collective supporter...
Apr 17, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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I have *never,* in all my years on this board, heard a single supporter say that their sufferer told them something that ruined the...
Apr 16, 2022
Sweetpea76
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If I’m in a relationship, I bring shit to the table. REGARDLESS of where it comes from, whose responsibility it is to deal with, who...
Apr 16, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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Make it worse for who? From the supporter side of things, it definitely makes things better. A lot of the issues in PTSD...
Apr 16, 2022
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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@CanadianAsianDude - as the Thread Title indicates, this is a thread for Supporters. Before posting in the Supporter's section, you...
Apr 16, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Please, can someone who has dealt with being married to a rape victim help me?
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That’s the frustrating thing about being a supporter. We’re just along for the ride… in the backseat of the bumper car. I understand...
Apr 14, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Study
Firefighters with PTSD likely to have relationship problems
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You don’t say?
Apr 7, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Firefighters with PTSD likely to have relationship problems
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🤣😂🥲🤣🤣😂 Sorry. I’ve caught my breath, now.
Apr 7, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Physical reactions to trauma
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In that situation it’s best to not engage. You cannot argue or defend yourself when they’re ramped up and going like that. May as well...
Apr 3, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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After a decade I’m too salty to stop on my way out the door. I think he knows better now!
Apr 3, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Physical reactions to trauma
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That’s the damn truth… especially if the expectation of perfect is to act in such a way that your partner is never symptomatic around...
Apr 3, 2022
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Ex told me yesterday she has CPTSD and I’m abusing her.
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At 6 months this should be the honeymoon period. This is an incredibly toxic relationship. She’s emotionally and physically abusive and...
Apr 2, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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Yeah… that bitchy silence. If you’re quiet you’re pouting, if you’re speaking you’re picking a fight. Those are the days I leave and go...
Apr 1, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Ex told me yesterday she has CPTSD and I’m abusing her.
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It sounds like you’re mistaking drama and toxicity for passion… it’s not. If she asked you to stay away, stay away. Do not contact her...
Apr 1, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Friday's post
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Ex told me yesterday she has CPTSD and I’m abusing her.
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I’m going to be blunt. When someone attempts to beat the shit out of you, and then accuses YOU of abuse? Don’t stick your dick in...
Apr 1, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Rant and complain thread open to all supporters
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How dare you say a word! You know you can breathe “with an attitude”? I didn’t know that ten years ago.
Apr 1, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Hi im looking for some suggestions on how to help a friend dealing with CPTSD
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You cannot be responsible for somebody else’s mental health. You cannot fix this or make her better. Here’s the thing. This is a...
Mar 29, 2022
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My wife hits me
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It doesn’t matter if she has PTSD, a brain tumor, a hole in the head or demon possession. It is not a reason to hit you. Full stop...
Mar 22, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Advice on night terrors
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Yeah… I second @Friday. Don’t try to shake him awake or anything, especially if he’s a combat vet. My vet can hear a mouse fart in the...
Mar 22, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Seeing a therapist to deal with the fallout.
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It’s understandable to be totally gobsmacked during and/or after a PTSD relationship. It sucks to be the designated asshole. It sucks to...
Mar 18, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Seeing a therapist to deal with the fallout.
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Hello everyone, I’ve set up appointment with a therapist to understand the effects of that CPTSD has on the downfall of a strong...
Mar 18, 2022
Sweetpea76
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Friday's post
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I triggered my girlfriends trauma and she left me a week later
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Ditto. You didn’t do anything wrong @swisscheese . You really, really didn’t. Missing a stroke or three happens. With lube it’s almost...
Mar 17, 2022
Sweetpea76
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I triggered my girlfriends trauma and she left me a week later
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Or it’s the normal grieving process after somebody ends a year long relationship over what would normally be some run of the mill...
Mar 16, 2022
Sweetpea76
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My mother makes herself my responsibility
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Hi @benny22, I see you posted your story a few months ago. No progress since then? Your mother is an adult. She is responsible for...
Mar 15, 2022
Sweetpea76
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New Supporter Learning
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Don’t pressure yourself to be the perfect girlfriend. You will never be able to do everything right, or help him by doing x,y,z. It...
Mar 10, 2022
Sweetpea76
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New Supporter Learning
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@Suddenly_Support I made a new thread for you separate from the “what are they thinking” thread. That one is great, but it’s also...
Mar 1, 2022
Sweetpea76
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She broke up with me because sex triggered her PTSD
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I’d leave her alone. She told you she needed space, and reiterated that after your last text. If she is feeling overwhelmed and wants...
Feb 25, 2022
Sweetpea76
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She broke up with me because sex triggered her PTSD
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My advice, as a supporter, don’t write the letter or leave gifts on her doorstep. That’ll make it worse. Honestly, sometimes the...
Feb 19, 2022
Sweetpea76
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GF with PTSD broke up with me and she said it has nothing to do with our relationship
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More like walking through a field of rakes blindfolded…. You’re good for awhile, then *pow* right in the kisser. Don’t even see it coming!
Feb 19, 2022
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