Sweetpea76

At this point in time you cannot be responsible for her. You’re not going to be able to help her or fix anything. She is either going to...

Isolation is the worst… at least when they’re lashing out you know where they’re at.

Sometimes it’s like walking through a field of rakes blindfolded. You’re eventually gonna get smacked in the face.

Consider the bullet dodged… grieve, and concentrate on yourself. Cheating is not a symptom of PTSD, it’s a choice he made.

It’s crazy making. I have stupid things I cannot do either. I didn’t even realize he was conditioning me.

It’s crazy-making. This is why you’ll see us in the supporter forum telling supporters to take care of themselves and not to let their...

It sucks sometimes, no doubt.

The dropping off the face of the Earth thing is horrid, and it’s not fair. That sucks. I had to put my foot down about that early on…...

Yard sale/Goodwill plates hurled at the back of the shed + a cigarette = bliss. I get it. You’re allowed to be pissed off and hurt...

Fantastic point. I do find myself weirdly more angry this morning than I expected. I'm angry because I absolutely KNOW this whole...

Sorry for being ambiguous. But sometimes, when the anger just comes out of no where, I don't know what to do. It's like I want to beg...

What kind of help? All we can do is give advice. You have to help yourself.

It’s frustrating as a caretaker/supporter to put more effort into somebody than they do themselves… at least the “trying” part. At least...

It’s hard to decide what is symptomatic bluster and what is true. Protect yourself first, then worry about him second.

Unfortunately, sometimes that’s all that can be done. We can’t love them better or make them be healthy enough to be in a relationship...

1. Hire an attorney. Family law. Have them walk you through what’s legal, what’s not, & what your options are. This may be a temporary...

@EveHarrington he did not diagnose her, he said he suspects… in fact he specifically said he does not know if she has PTSD and she did...

Boundaries are what will save your sanity as a supporter. They don’t have to be all or nothing, as in the end of the relationship...

Not on the supporter side, but I was in a codependent marriage with children and extended family and a mortgage. I thought my only way...

You did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. You did nothing wrong. You didn’t trigger her. *She* was triggered by something...

I would argue that those people aren’t real supporters then. I do get that the fear is real to sufferers. “You” (collective supporter...

I have *never,* in all my years on this board, heard a single supporter say that their sufferer told them something that ruined the...

If I’m in a relationship, I bring shit to the table. REGARDLESS of where it comes from, whose responsibility it is to deal with, who...

Make it worse for who? From the supporter side of things, it definitely makes things better. A lot of the issues in PTSD...

@CanadianAsianDude - as the Thread Title indicates, this is a thread for Supporters. Before posting in the Supporter's section, you...

That’s the frustrating thing about being a supporter. We’re just along for the ride… in the backseat of the bumper car. I understand...

You don’t say?

🤣😂🥲🤣🤣😂 Sorry. I’ve caught my breath, now.

In that situation it’s best to not engage. You cannot argue or defend yourself when they’re ramped up and going like that. May as well...

After a decade I’m too salty to stop on my way out the door. I think he knows better now!

That’s the damn truth… especially if the expectation of perfect is to act in such a way that your partner is never symptomatic around...

At 6 months this should be the honeymoon period. This is an incredibly toxic relationship. She’s emotionally and physically abusive and...

Yeah… that bitchy silence. If you’re quiet you’re pouting, if you’re speaking you’re picking a fight. Those are the days I leave and go...

It sounds like you’re mistaking drama and toxicity for passion… it’s not. If she asked you to stay away, stay away. Do not contact her...

I’m going to be blunt. When someone attempts to beat the shit out of you, and then accuses YOU of abuse? Don’t stick your dick in...

How dare you say a word! You know you can breathe “with an attitude”? I didn’t know that ten years ago.

You cannot be responsible for somebody else’s mental health. You cannot fix this or make her better. Here’s the thing. This is a...

It doesn’t matter if she has PTSD, a brain tumor, a hole in the head or demon possession. It is not a reason to hit you. Full stop...

Yeah… I second @Friday. Don’t try to shake him awake or anything, especially if he’s a combat vet. My vet can hear a mouse fart in the...

It’s understandable to be totally gobsmacked during and/or after a PTSD relationship. It sucks to be the designated asshole. It sucks to...

Hello everyone, I’ve set up appointment with a therapist to understand the effects of that CPTSD has on the downfall of a strong...

Ditto. You didn’t do anything wrong @swisscheese . You really, really didn’t. Missing a stroke or three happens. With lube it’s almost...

Or it’s the normal grieving process after somebody ends a year long relationship over what would normally be some run of the mill...

Hi @benny22, I see you posted your story a few months ago. No progress since then? Your mother is an adult. She is responsible for...

Don’t pressure yourself to be the perfect girlfriend. You will never be able to do everything right, or help him by doing x,y,z. It...

@Suddenly_Support I made a new thread for you separate from the “what are they thinking” thread. That one is great, but it’s also...

I’d leave her alone. She told you she needed space, and reiterated that after your last text. If she is feeling overwhelmed and wants...

My advice, as a supporter, don’t write the letter or leave gifts on her doorstep. That’ll make it worse. Honestly, sometimes the...

More like walking through a field of rakes blindfolded…. You’re good for awhile, then *pow* right in the kisser. Don’t even see it coming!