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It sounds like maybe she needs a therapist if she isn’t seeing one, because using you as one isn’t fair. Supporters aren’t equipped to...

If my exhusband had invited his mother to our home, or taken my son to see her / exposed him (our son) to her in any way, I would have...

... and it doesn’t make you a bad person if you are NOT OK with it. Just because he has PTSD doesn’t make ghosting/ignoring hurt any...

Honestly, you just get used to it. Realizing it has nothing to do with you personally helps.

You’re not going to be able to do the “right” thing here. There is no right thing to say or do. She isn’t well right now. You cannot...

I would argue that a 28 year old woman who lets her parents control her life is not mature. That, and blaming everything and everyone...

Actions speak louder than words. I know it’s easy to cling to happy/loving words... but don’t let them cloud your judgement. Is...

Letting go is the stronger thing to do. Chasing after people isn’t romantic or proof of some kind of love. It’s unhealthy...

You’re going to have to change your mindset about helping with her treatment. You cannot help her with this. You cannot make her go to...

Nothing screws with your own sanity like your partner’s mental health crises. Just because he is in this state it doesn’t mean the...

@BrokenHeat I’m a supporter... I know how confusing it all is. Best advice I can give you is to calm down. Take a step back and breathe...

I’ve never had that experience with my partner’s therapist, but that actually seems like it would be very helpful. Most of the time it...

That has to suck... does being sick set him off worse?

I know looking for answers is comforting... but its a common supporter trap. “He only slept with her because his PTSD made him feel self...

Honestly, as bad as it hurts right now, you dodged a bullet. It doesn’t matter why she blames you... she does. You can’t make logical...

The hardest part about being a supporter is being completely powerless to help or fix. Sometimes it feels like you literally have to sit...

You didn’t sign up to be unhappy for the rest of your life when you began dating her. Things didn’t work out, and it’s not doing either...

Wow. This is a blast from the past. This is so reminiscent of my philosophy and experience. This is exactly how I behaved when my...

Ditto with @LuckiLee Six months of space isn’t a relationship. It doesn’t make you a good person to wait, and a bad person if you...

Caregiver burnout and compassion fatigue are very very real. It sucks out loud doing the heavy lifting with very little to no...

Does she have PTSD?

Gotta love that German engineering!!! 💞 I don’t know the anthem...However, as all the best composers are German? If we get Biontech it...

So, finally, we are nearing the end of this super challenging year 👏🤷‍♀️ I want to say a huge THANK YOU to those here who have helped...

We’re personally doing fine financially, but many are not. I’ve been back to work for awhile and vet is on a pension so our income is...

He said “My perception of your actions and my feelings about it are as if I was cheated on. It doesn’t matter if I was actually cheated...

Here’s the deal... you can’t help him. Supporters cannot help or fix. This is a mental illness, and he has to get treatment and work on...

Ok... as a supporter, you need to change your mindset, or any relationship you will have with her will be codependent and toxic. You...

He feels better when he doesn’t talk to his family... but is he stopping the kids from seeing them? If not, I’d leave things be. Family...

Making the best of things! Almost done shopping and wrapping... my goal is to finish by the time my holiday break from work comes so I...

We’re not in lockdown at all, and the positivity rate in my state is over 15%. Welcome to America. If we all die, oh well. I think that...

We have the vaccine approved, but nobody has started receiving any yet. I believe medical personnel and first responders get the first...

I know the easiest thing in the world is to feel guilty or responsible if you’re the target of lashing out behavior... for your own...

THIS. You are not responsible for the evils others have done. You are not responsible for anyone else’s memories, or the way that they...

First of all he doesn’t get to behave like an asshole just because he has PTSD. Second of all you’re not “triggering him” he is being...