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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    Also, his therapist, who he has seen in the past, has sent him away more or less to let what they've discussed sediment and find its way into the cracks, with the understanding that if/when things have settled, there's still cracks and spots that need work, he'll return, whether in a month or 6...
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    Hm, yes - I do know about these from another helpful friend. But was unsure about asking him to do that. The AA family meetings when I was going were all quite along the lines of either accepting their behaviour or leaving, or at least that was my impression, though as the meetings are not about...
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    I'm sorry you've had these very frightening experiences lostforgottensoul. Thanks for your feedback. Yes I am totally on board with realising that around the kids I need to act like a single parent. It's hard for it to sink in because at other times, he's a model parent, and they have fantastic...
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    Forgot to say, I have considered how much he has used PTSD as an excuse to drink, but he's not doing that now, just denying. And I know all his tells, but Idk what they mean. Yeah... covid ? Dude..... The thing is he keeps repeating that story. If I don't watch out, I'll start believing it. Due...
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    Yes, couples therapy would probably be best so I know he's being honest, to the therapist and me. If I can get him to go. When I met him he was clearly deep in trauma, which is why I do know PTSD is mixed up in this. But he got better over time (time during which I was his primary 'therapist'...
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    He believes he's a good team member b/c he cooks a lot and is the breadwinner. This is true, but also true is that even if he didn't participate further, he should not add to or cause stress.
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    Relationship Don't know what I'm dealing with in my partner - trauma and dissociation

    My husband and I have been together 10 years. We got together after the respective break ups of previous abusive marriages, with him in the middle of a re-traumatised state, which I didn't fully understand at the time. He's a good man, but I came into this very naive, and it's taken me this long...
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