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I’m at the end of the rope. I had to let it out today. With her isolation and projecting fear/control/trust issues onto me I had to tell...

Definitely exhausting, and I’ve been helping out as much as I can when I’m not at work. And her mother is constantly helping. Maybe she...

Oh wow, 3 1/2 year old and 10 month twins? How much help does she have? Do you think it's possible her stress cup is overflowing with...

I think postpartum issues deal with bonding to the baby or separation anxiety. I really don’t see that right now. Just her isolating and...

Her reasoning is that she can’t trust me, for why…she has not given me a reason. And that I want to control everything. Which makes no...

Should I keep pressing her to talk more about it? This morning she acted like nothing happened and my head is spinning. She said...

This morning I gently let her know that whenever she was ready to talk about I brought up ptsd inside of marriage counseling I’ll be...

I almost hate to tell you this but.... I kept it together for decades before ptsd knocked me on my ass. And it was brutal. The...

Well she quit a well paying job at a public school district and is isolating and pushing me away from her. I’m trying to to hold it...

Hearing you, @throwaway13.

This is another conversation I need to have with her. I’m doing my best to be empathetic by learning about ptsd and I wish I did it...

It’s really hard to say how this will all play out. Even knowing what a “typical” symptomatic period is like for your sufferer isn’t a...

And now today she is acting like nothing happened the other day. This is like living a real life Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde story.

This is the first triggered event I’m going through, I’d say been a little over a month now since she’s been symptomatic.

That’s what I’m scared of. How long does this last? I don’t think that she can see that she is symptomatic

As much as it sucks, sometimes all you can do is wait it out. Protect your kids, protect yourself, and wait it out.

Most definitely frustrated. Very pissed off. I told her she has absolutely no reason to not trust me. I’ve always been open and honest...

Yep. You can’t make a case when they’re in a spiral. There’s no logic, there is no defending yourself. You said what you needed to...

And it happened just like everyone here suggested it would. “I can’t trust you, you are trying to control me, you don’t love me!”

I couldn’t think of any other way to say it. I’ve been telling her for over a week that I needed time to talk to her alone. She’s been...

something to think about --- sufferer time sometimes runs differently than "normal" time, so it might be a bit before she responds while...

No worries, it's how we learn. I appreciate the acknowledgement, thanks.

Thanks for the warning, ignorance of that rule is no excuse to break it.

Ok here’s an update. For the last few days I’ve been telling my wife that I need to have a conversation with her. She’s been avoiding it...

I saw that in another thread, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. I can't believe it happened right after your first intimacy...

May as well say what you need to say at this point.

Nope. Just a moment of clarity because you stood up to her with facts. She had nowhere to go with that. It was about you and the kids...

@Portlander all the hypervig is part of PTSD. That’s an actual symptom. I think what @MnM was saying is that in their experience...

My next conversation with her is going to be about me bringing up the ptsd is marriage counseling. Marriage counseling is for both...

Just wanted to give an update. This morning when I went over to my in-law’s to take the twins out for a walk I had a few moments alone...

Yes, met with the attorney today. She said to not bother with the separation agreement if she already has a divorce lawyer. Anything...

I was offering How do I try to get her to wake up? I saw the marriage therapist today and he suggested to ask her if she’s getting the...

I had to remove myself from a conversation with her yesterday. She quit a well paying job with a school district to work for a...

Just got finished with another session with the marriage counselor by myself. He did say that I need to speak to my wife about that the...

Don't look for reasons... the reason is PTSD based on what you're writing here.

That boundary was never discussed. I felt that the past trauma and ptsd was affecting our relationship. I still see the marriage...

I came back @throwaway13 because I didn't feel I was clear. I didn't mean it's your fault, I meant feeling/ saying I'm sorry as a...

Very helpful information. I do want to talk about the ptsd and apologize for not discussing with her before bringing it up in...

I really don’t think she knows what’s going on just yet. And it feels like I’m walking on egg shells just to not upset her more...

The marriage counselor that we saw twice had us speaking like this. One of the many reasons she refused to go back to counseling was...

There is, yes. The simple basics is called the mirroring technique, or reflective technique, or paraphrasing, etc. Several names. You...

Is there a right way to approach someone who’s been diagnosed with ptsd in the past to ask them if they’ve been triggered? I’m tying to...

She told me she was diagnosed with PTSD when she was a young adult and suffered a trauma, she told me she was “attacked” and left it at...

There’s no way to know how long a triggered or symptomatic state will last, especially if this is her first one. With my partner I’ve...

I’m still hoping for reconciliation

From your past experiences how long do these triggers last? I want to ask her about her ptsd being triggered but I already saw how that...

I’m not sure how stable she is right now. She somehow made the leap to me wanting to be in control of everything, and that makes...

I’m starting to become indifferent to her symptoms now. It’s been a little over a month and I’m emotionally drained. Since last night...

I believe this is her first triggered event in our relationship. It’s extremely difficult for someone who doesn’t suffer from ptsd to...

yep. That's what ptsd does. It takes away everything except for how I'll survive the next moment. All other thinking goes out the...