Weemie

I'm sorry I missed the edit, I meant to say I think the subjective experience of whatever we are going through, or just living in...

Yes @Weemie , I think you are very wise. I believe I can relate to exactly what you mean. More as is said it is the journey, not the...

There was a time, until as recently as this year, where this line from TOFK was the guidepost by which I lived my life. If I could just...

Love the quote 🙂 thanks Yes you're 100% correct. I'm not ready to deal with it yet. But I have accepted over this week that I could...

I sat down with my mum and we had a long talk. We came to the agreement that this is not okay. We expressed our feelings and I had the...

In what way did this actually backfire? - other than your emotional response to having been vulnerable in a way you did not intend...

Have you had therapy? we are (as I am learning!) in control of ourselves. I think the trick is have awareness , which you have. And...

Here's what I read, "Shut up. Nobody wants to hear your pity party and you're lying." That's not AT ALL what was said. I was presented...

I have undone moderator actions. You have very little scope in which I won't put that back. Regardless how people respond, it is about...

Nobody can change you, except you. Anger seems to be prolific within your post. Start there: The Iceberg Of Emotions It doesn't happen...

Inspiring words, and that is the crux of beginning to shed abuse and the cycle of violence. This stuff is hard. It will take a long...

Thank you for that summary, that's actually really helpful

This once sentence gave hope. True hope. This ends today. I will change. My mom and I deserve better. I know that I love her. It's time...

Interpreting is a rough one. I think it's within the realm of normalcy to have had an emotional reaction to this event. It also sounds...

Knowing who to blame will not change that both of you engaged in patterns and cycles of behavior that are extremely well-ingrained as a...

It depends. If the coworker went 10 years without breaking my fingers and expressed genuine remorse and desire for restoration and a...

We’re in the middle of life-threatening at the other end of the spectrum. Pretty much over the heatwave.

Hope you are prepped for the cold snap FJ!!! & @ any East Coasters in general: Anyone who lives in the East Coast and in some parts of...

It is about to be -43 degrees Celsius here. So that'll be fun!

Keep in mind that the definition of trafficking is a lot broader than most people think. It does not require movement of persons to...

I'm sometimes grateful that I learned at an early age to never ever trust a police officer or official person. That these gangs of law...

Teenagers are brutal. Being one. Loving one.

There's always the potential that he will mature beyond this. Sometimes the only way to create behavioral change is to experience the...

I know it would be nice to get a black and white answer—seems so simple—someone tells you yes or no and then you can move on. My answer...

I think this question is ultimately a semantic one. Are children capable of having mens rea to the standard of an adult, and should they...

This is what makes someone evil, when they make the choices willfully. I don’t think anyone is born evil. I think evil is a label...

A monster who made choices of his own free will. His decision to torture and kill were his and only his. He wasn't under any duress...

I don’t think all mentally ill people harm others, but that those who do might have less agency than a person without mental illness who...

Mostly, yes. I do think there is some value to labeling actions as moral or immoral since that is the basis of conducting one's self...

Yeah this word is sticky, especially since it’s wrapped up in religious ideology and the dehumanizing quality of pathos. To forgive...

I suppose it depends on your definition of forgiveness. I can't absolve them of their actions any more than I can be absolved, but I can...

I think it's important for us to also consider that we live in a society where, at least on the surface, we are able to make choices and...

Personality disorders, especially the cluster B axis, are the most stigmatized diagnoses in the DSM. The idea that a therapist who is...

Thanks for explaining this. I feel like I'm being treated as someone who is "simply reluctant to admit" that I have a personality /...

The more I understand neurobiology, the more deterministic I become. If you accept the premise that people don't choose to be born, nor...

If you raise your hand and contradict many of these clinicians, they will take it personally and assign you a label as a "combative...

I find that this associates with my anxiety level and that it is far more likely to happen when I am really really stressed and...

sounds like what we call, "hypervigilance" inside my own therapy program. with hypervigilance, the first panic attack generates a burst...

I keep meaning to hit this, and keep not being able to for misc reasons. So as I’m catching up on threads I’ve marked to come back to...

This is what I learned from residential treatment as well. Distress tolerance skills have been a life-saver for me and my relationships...

Car keys here I come!!!! Yep - even after all the years of therapy it's my go to when there's a total meldown I just can't get it thru...

Grocery shopping with mom this week, and the cart was filled to the brim, literally to the brim. No, we're not putting one more thing in...

This is the rousing anthem of PTSD I fear, heh.

I completely lost my mind, yesterday. Just one too many things. At exactly the wrong moment. Tick. Tick. BOOM. The most ridiculous...

The real issue with benzos and alcohol is cross-tolerance and risk of seizure, in my experience. According to this study, the rate of...

For me, it would be asking questions. And highlighting what I was doing. I.e asking me about why I was hiding rotting food. Asking me...

"What were you like as a kid, and how would you reflect on a child who was brought into your care (not even that you were necessarily...

That is great you were able to help them even with you struggling with your own things as well. I feel some times we who suffer with...

We know much more than our parents did and have far greater services, medications and general help. The cycle of abuse is a practice of...

Likewise. So disinterested in my fellow male-type peers in schools. Parents expected strict behavior and emotional fury from Dad...