WORD_SOUND_POWER

update: 4 sessions in w/our therapist. wife and i have been together at our apartment for the last 2 weeks by ourselves. we're working...

yes i got insight on how I MYSELF create (or at the very least escalate) the situation unintentionally via my "avoidant" response. the...

I made a big thing about "my wife hits me" in another post. & it's legit - i've been hit/pushed/had things thrown at my head over the...

i was literally typing a response when you reached out :)

update! we had a convo with a mediator who is also a psychiatrist yesterday. it went great! i'll skip all her stuff cuz i've been...

This 100%! As a sufferer that used to have blind rage explosions, I understand how bad that can get. No excuses. That was my issue...

amen to that. so far the hitting has been far from the most damaging part. the emotional violence attached is the bigger problem in my...

PLEASE, PLEASE for the sake of your children (and yourself, of course!) do not "take it." That is complete BS and is absolutely...

I love the fact that you have the meeting coming up. If your wife is triggered it's better that your daughter be with you in my...

So, I understand her being triggered, but in all this time she hasn't learned to control her behavior while triggered? It can be done...

our daughter is 11. right now she's sequestered at her grandparent's apt. her mother is there. i don't have any reason to believe that...

Hi @WORD_SOUND_POWER , you've had lots of replies and advice and I'm sure it's alot to take in but I just want to say something. My...

Your wife's healing is her responsibility. Perhaps anger management? Inpatient? How old is your daughter if you don't mind me asking...

This is the most important part for me. I'm horrified that this is our life right now. My wife has these glaring issues that are finally...

this is what i've done. hard line. don't. hit. me. she's sick of hearing about it, but i'm not hearing the shift in her. recently i've...

thx for your honesty, Arfie. she's never REALLY damaged me. i've def taken blows, but thankfully - none of them have been critical...

indeed. no arguments here. this is 100 & we get to get our shit all the way together.

Apologies are really important. But they're worth SFA if nothing actually changes. And your daughter is entitled to, and needs to...

we've certainly both chastised out daughter with spanking nothing outside of the ordinary much more when she was younger compared to...

Hi @WORD_SOUND_POWER , welcome to the site ☺. Huh.... its unacceptable behaviour 😤. Whether your a big guy and can take it or not it's...

thank you for your courage in speaking up, words. i sorely need to talk about, openly and freely, but? ? ? battered husbands and their...

It doesn't matter if you are big or tiny, strong or weak, being hit is abuse and not ok. And it doesn't matter if she has PTSD. It's...

Agreed with the above... getting hit is not OK. Ever. Is she in therapy? Can she do some martial arts or something where she learns to...

I'm not entirely sure if you mean taking blows physically or verbally, but either way it is not acceptable. Placing blame is secondary...

I'm sorry that is happening. Her past is not an excuse for her violence. She can control her behaviour and she needs to learn. What...

The only advice I can give is to draw a hard line and stand by it. For example… EVERY time she loses control? Take your daughter and...

Trauma does affect memory but people can decide to conveniently forget certain things. And if someone is triggered then ultimately its...

It doesn’t matter if she has PTSD, a brain tumor, a hole in the head or demon possession. It is not a reason to hit you. Full stop...

Re: martial arts - the 3 of us are in martial arts right now. my sensei is DISGUSTED with her behavior right now. we started martial...

My wife was physically/emotionally/mentally abused as a kid. When she's triggered & out of control, she lashes out. Some of the people...