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My therapist is a sociopath and he doesn't help me

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Hi,

I think it is really important to note that feeling an emotion about something or someone doesn't equate to the reality about the situation or person representing how we feel. Our feelings and thoughts are important of course but they are only one tiny part of reality. Lets take your t for example since that is what this thread is about.

You start off describing him as a sociopath. You explain your reasons for the assumption as the following:
He worked for the insititute
He is charming
He doesn't speak about your incident

This is the type of thought process I was talking about before. It sounds like you have a negative association with the institute. Because you have, him working there brings up uncomfortable emotions. You have jumped from those emotions to equating that with him being an unhealthy dangerous person. Lots of people are charming. Lots of people are manipulative. I'm sure lots of people work in that institute. It sounds like all of the professionals who have been treating you and know about your story are approaching this in the same way. Does that mean that all those people are sociopaths? No it doesn't. Lots of healthy people are charming, manipulative and most (at least) of the people who work there will be healthy too. What is missing in your thought processes is objective evaluation of all possibilities and essential requirements for a reality to be valid.

I suspect your 1+1 = 5 goes something like this: I feel this emotion + 1 fact = a huge leap/decision about this person or situation.

What I would suggest is for you to put aside the incident for the moment and this idea of yours of PTSD (in terms of focusing on it in t and elsewhere) and rather talk about this thought process with your t. Possibly consider seeing a female t instead if it will help you feel more comfortable. Once you have successfully worked on your thought processes then you can discuss this incident. I don't think your present way of thinking will allow you to deal with it helpfully or healthily. I can see too how being on the autistic spectrum would make some of this harder. Looking at possible motivations and thought processes of someone else in an objective way is going to be very hard for you if you struggle with theory of mind. Could you show him this thread?
 
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How exactly is it minor if it's against the law?
 
How exactly is it minor if it's against the law?
Shoplifting is against the law, but is minor compared to armed robbery, which is also against the law.

@Kittengirl - I believe I've asked you this once before, but you had some mood/thought problems prior to the incident with the teacher. You'd be well off to consider that there may be a different diagnosis that is more appropriate for you. Are you open to that?
 
I think you're all just victim-blaming me.

Shoplifting is against the law, but is minor compared to armed robbery, which is also against the law.

@Kittengirl - I believe I've asked you this once before, but you had some mood/thought problems prior to the incident with the teacher. You'd be well off to consider that there may be a different diagnosis that is more appropriate for you. Are you open to that?

Sexual assault warrants a 6 month prison sentence, which is far worse than shoplifting? I have had problems before but I think it's possibly co-morbid with PTSD. Remember that only a doctor can diagnose - there's still a chance of me having PTSD. I don't think it's a good idea to minimise sexual assault and I hope one day there's a day it's taken seriously. We're clearly still in the dark ages here...
 
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I think you're all just victim-blaming me.


Before this gets any worse, I hope you get help. It is unfortunate that you cannot see that because many of us are not buying into your story, you are now headed to paint us with the same brush as those who worked in that institution you despise, aka. “sociopaths”.

It’s quite incomprehensible and illogical for a bunch of strangers to you (and even to each other) that we have reached the same or similar conclusions as the mental health professionals around you...unless they are correct in their assessments.......everyone seems to be saying the same thing, except you.
 
I was reading back a bit and I thought I may add that it is possible to be seriously affected by something that happens to us without it possibly qualifying/falling under PTSD. Even if our subjective perception of what happened is part of what is affecting how we feel about it. There are a few different things that can influence this. Other coexisting mental health issues for example. Having strong experiences and thoughts about something that happens can exist outside a diagnoses of PTSD.

I also wanted to say that I think everyone on this site believes it is wrong for someone to touch a part of another persons body without consent. It is always wrong regardless of it is on one end of the spectrum of severity or the other. Some things won't result in PTSD but are still wrong. What isn't as clear to me is the motivations or intent of the teacher and if it could have been accidental. If you were sitting in a chair it would need to be a very high one and your teacher fairly short too. I mention that only as the thought processes you have written out on this site in your threads are generally a bit magical. I am honestly saying that in a caring practical way and not in a judgmental or unkind way at all. There are personality disorders that have this type of thinking as part of their description too.

You mention the autistic spectrum. Have you been diagnosed with that?

I do really think showing your dr this thread might be a good idea and it is essential you get to see a psychiatrist for a proper evaluation and diagnoses so that you can get the help you need.
 
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No I don't think we are in the dark ages at all. You're posting in a forum where people have commonly been raped, exploited, tortured and abused over a very long period of time. Equating that with someone touching your clothed arse with their clothed penis is utterly insulting.

Sexual assault does carry a 6 month sentence, but not all sexual assault would be charged by the police, in your case the individual might possibly get a caution, if indeed the police acted at all. Because in the scale of things that may constitute sexual assault this is a very minor incident. Did you report to the police and how did they respond?

No one here is blaming you for what happened, some folk are saying that it's not sufficient to meet the definition of a Crit A trauma, needed for PTSD diagnosis, some are saying consider the professional opinions of the people working with you. I'm not saying you won't have feelings about this, of course you will but whatever way you dress it, I'd be delighted to be dealing with someone touching my arse instead of the rape, exploitation and abuse I'm actually carrying.

I'd like you to consider that your autism is playing a part in making this look very black and white to you in that X meets a criteria for Y therefore X equals Y. When X actually equals a tiny part of Y.
 
@Abstract

I kind of feel familiar to the symptoms of BPD, which might make a lot of sense due to paranoia you've seen. I don't really know about the other personality disorders though, but that's a possibility. I definitely don't wanna be diagnosed with NPD or anything like that though, I think I care about people just enough to not be a narcissist.

I don't feel it was accidental, it seems really intentional how he just suddenly came on my back like that and how he was manipulating me before he did it. He wasn't trying to look at my work or anything like that because he could of just asked me to move.
There is other potential trauma too I'd rather not talk about for now.

I have an official diagnosis of ASD, but I'll be honest I don't feel like ASD really explains the problems I go through.

@Suzetig

I highly doubt you actually want to be sexually assaulted. I think sexual assault is much less compared to rape, torture and the other things you mentioned and I do not wish to compare myself to that but in my opinion in can cause PTSD... just milder I guess? And what the f? All sexual assaults are against the law and therefore all should be taken into account by the police. Simple logic.

I think people are showing a concerning lack of morals on this site.
 
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I really don't think its helpful for you to speculate any more about specifics. There are a lot of things that need to be considered that you, I and everyone on here won't be able to evaluate. Please see a psychiatrist. That will be the best way to get the right help for yourself. ASD may well be making some of this harder and be a factor even though it isn't directly related to your feelings about what happened.

You definitely have problem thinking patterns which will be affecting your life very strongly. I think this is key.

If you have other trauma you need to be brave and write it out and take it with you when doing the evaluation. Good luck.
 
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